Hmm it sounds like he has some major issues still with his mum, he obviously likes being mothered over still and from his response he isn't adult enough to sort things out rationally.
If he won't physically sit down and talk/listen to you then write him a letter, be as honest as you can be but try and be diplomatic ie, dont slag his mum off. It might take a while to word things 'properly' (so they don't cause offence) but it seems to me like the last option. He might take things in better, be able to digest and read it over quietly on his own....

Worth a try hun if you want things to change...?

gosh. in that case you're have to try and rise above it. laugh her daft moods off. even if inside you're screaming in a mad rage!!! Dont give her the satisfaction of knowing you're being driven mad by her. Just rant here!
And try adn explain to her reasonably when she's being a pain. Try and be the grown up..certainly sounds like she's not being. Get snooty.


good luck!!

That's a good idea. I will do that whilst he is at work tomorrow and put it in his coat pocket. We cannot go on having such a family divide, my mum and dad never interfere with our decisions and neither should she.

sorry you are having a hard time with MIL hope you get sorted soon

What your husband needs is a third party (another person other than you) telling him to stop being a mamma's boy and stand up for his wife. He will not take any feedback from you since he is already getting defensive on the subject. It would be good if one of his friend could do it. He might think more about it if it comes from someone who is not involved with everything.

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time, I feel for you.

Shame! I feel for you. I sort of know your position as well. I don't speak to my MIL at all anymore. The thing that's different between your situation and mine, however, is neither does my DH.

Also it was her that has always insulted my DH. He had a rough life before I met him and she would sit at family get-togethers and say how much of a disappointment his habits were. She'd tell everyone who her favourite child was and why (obv not him and there'd be a reason for that too) he would always be getting into fights with her but everytime I said something to him about her that was the painful truth he'd snap at me.

This went on until last year when I had my m/c. I don't know what happened but she decided to turn against the two of us. She told him that the only reason why I had a m/c was because I was a bad person and didn't deserve a child. She told him to get away from me before I destroyed him.
Then to top it all off she threatened me. She threatened to assault me. DH hasn't deleted the message where she said that because she's been snooping around at lawyers and police stations trying to charge us with something. At least if we have threatening messages from her she wont be able to do much.

I don't even know if she knows about this pregnancy. I told DH's sister that I would appreciate it if it was kept on a need to know basis with her. We want nothing to do with her, she wants nothing to do with us (except try and sue us for numerous ridiculous things) so why should she know? The last thing I want are her bad vibes interfering with my pregnancy.

And she wont be meeting my child either.

P.S: We haven't done anything that would lead someone to charge us. She claims we've stolen things from her. Just thought I should add that too

SORRY! I've gone and hijacked your thread with my dismal life stories lol.

Hang in there! I hope your husband realises that after marriage, mommy is no long the most important person in your life. I really do.