I understand too. My sister passed away in 2006 leaving a then 8 year old and 5 day old. It was very unexpected and was a huge shock for the family. We are still reeling from it.

This is the 4th baby of mine that she wont meet. Also our other sister is getting married in 2 weeks and she wont be there. Even planning the hen night for friday, ive been printing our t-shirts and it made me realise she isnt here to wear her 'bridesmaid' t-shirt.

Oh Hunny i totally understand what your saying . I lost my Nan a few years back and its still so painful. I know she would be over the moon to hear im having a little boy. Thing is i kinda already know that she knows im having a little man. I think she knew how much i wanted him, and helped God in making his decsion. I know that may sound crazy but its a comfort to think like that sometimes.

I know all my Grandparents are up their watching, how i would love them all to meet their Great Grand Son, but their watching i just know it xxx

Thinking of you all... it is so hard when you know how thrilled people would have been. My mother in law died tragically just before we got married and she was so excited about having grandchildren. I do like to think they are up there and aware of what is happening.

((hugs))

I know and understand how you fell too, I lost my dd when she was 14 months old, she was severly disabled and it was too much for her tiny body to take. I have a lot o times during my pregnancies were I feel very low wishing that she was here to share it with us, she would be just about to turn 13 now, so it is hard, I feel like I have been robbed but I know she is up there looking down on us all......Its always harder when your pregnant, I think it just makes you realise just how precious life is and the things we would liek to share with certain people........

we lost my partners mum on march 15th this year. Our baby is due march 15th. A lovely gift from her x

I can totally empathise with everyone. I lost my MIL in August 2007 and my FIL in August 2008 - they supported us throughout our struggle with infertility and my MIL always said I would get my baby one day. She used to pray to St. Martha and St. Jude for me. It is so sad that neither her or my FIL will be here to see the baby it took is 15 years to create (with the help of my friend and Surrogate Sharon), but I do believe that they are looking down from heaven and probably had a word with the Angels.

P.S. It turns out that before she died she made her friend promise to keep praying to St. Martha and St. Gerard which she has been doing - and she is totally over the moon that we are now expecting.

So sorry to everyone for their losses (((hugs)))

my sister passed away at age 16 in 2007 i was 5 months preg with my daughter she knew i was having a girl just before she passed ...she also died the day before my birthday which was heart wrenching my birthdays havent been the same since she went.

My sister leanne asked me to name my girl after her at the time i was like no way as id already chosen the name Elle-mae and of course i didnt know she was going to die so in memory of leanne and i knew she would of like this and its so special i called my daughter Elle-anne....if you take the first 2 letters of Elle name it spells out leanne.

I am to upset she is getting a nepthew that will be here in april next year and she will never see him nor did she see her niece ....my other 2 sons bradley remembers her but ryan doesnt

Hiya hun..first off to you.

I never knew my grandfather's as the both died when i was 6 months old. As i understand from my mum and dad that was telling me things when i was growing up that they both loved me to bits and my dad father never had a daughter so i was very special to him. It makes me sad that i never got to know him or my other grandfather but i know they are watching over me.

I would of loved my dad to be around right now as he would of loved today being at the scan finding out he was gonna have a grandson but sadly he passed away in 2001.

I was sat there in the room after a found out it was a boy and burst into tears . My poor mum and OH didn't know what was wrong with me,but my mum guessed and said to OH "Dee is crying as she knows her dad will never see or meet his grandson" and so my OH gave me a great big hug and said "Don't worry babe,your dad will see Jenson from where he is and look over him when he is born". I just didn't know what to say to that but thank you.

The other thing that makes me sad that he will not give me away on my wedding day next Oct ,but my Uncle (Mum brother in law) stepped up and said he would do it,which i'm very greatful for.

Thought i was gonna lose my mum in 2006 as she was told she had breast cancer,but thankfully she is still with me today and 3yrs on still clear.

If you need to chat,just give me shout.

Dee xx

It seems many of us are in a similar situation. If makes us really think now that were pregnant. Sending to all of us dealing with loss.

Thank you to everyone for your replies and sharing your special stories.

After a night of tears, I'm trying to be positive and am looking forward to creating the next generation to make memories with. Love to you all, you are so kind