Abbys_Mummy

Well things with OH have came crashing to a halt things have been really touchy lately i don`t know if either of us are happy so last night i just lost my cool and after having a big fight about our feelings i decided to sleep in the spare bed when i got up to have a drink and found him in front of the computer looking at porn when he reliesed i was standing there he quickly closed the page and pulled his hand out of his pants i feel so hurt and degraded i cant even look at him i don`t know what to do i feel alone my family live so far away

Snowball

Oh hun I really don't know what to suggest but I just want to let you know we are all here for you. I'm sure other ladies can offer you some exellent advice

Iwantone!!!

aawww hunni have u asked him why he feels he needs to do this

tinytoes

oh dear....I would be upset and hurt too. really.

But I guess it's better than cheating? A kind of fantasy?
Plenty of people - and couples - like porn..it's a massive industry so there must be a massive market. I can't believe all the porn "fans" are single men. Try and not take this personally....it's better than it being the lady next door?

Talk to him.

Rach & Bumpy

Oh hun, that's not nice. I would definately feel the way you are

Sit down with him and try to talk things through. Maybe that is his 'comfort' thing.

((hugs)) to you and i hope you manage to work it out

winnie26

Porn isnt all that bad providing it doesnt affect the relationship, thats the hard bit, does he even realise theres a problem?
I know its difficult but he perhaps has worries about the baby, about hurting you or the baby, or maybe just needed some "alone" time,
I know for a fact that since I got pregnant I myself have sorted myself out and likewise I dont doubt for a second my OH has too... more for the fact we're both knackered and a bit too lazy sometimes!
Yes its hurtfull but you have to decide if the hurt comes from the porn (was it degrading?) or the fact your feeling insecure and want him to pay you some attention and not the computer? Was it because he was hiding it from you?
Men have strange ways of dealing with things and it was possibly a comfort thing after the argument,
Talk to him about how you feel and encourage him to do the same,

maddiwatts19

hr.lr.07

I agree with some of the PP's, porn is very very common and its NOT worth breaking up over unless he is really really thrashing the porn and not giving you any attention at all.

I understand the relationship problems during pregnancy, I really do, because believe me I have them myself My relationship has gone VERY down hill since I've been PG, you have to think about the fact that we change so much as a person whilst we are pregnant that our OH's don't know what to do with themselves. It will blow over, we will be who we used to be once our babies are born. Your baby needs both parents, put baby first and let yours moods and little things that wind you up slide for a while.

:bighug:

Firsttimer

I feel very strong about porn I hate it I have caught my OH a couple of times in the front room watching porn I go mad and if Its a dvd I snap it up in front of him he knows how i feel about him watching it but yet I know he still does it kills me coz i think he is getting turned on and cums over that.
Try talking to your OH see if you can work things out
I hope everything works out for you hun

bexy_22

Personally I don't mind my OH watching porn now and again as long as it's not all the time and tbh he doesn't really watch it anyway but it's still not very nice of your OH going straight for it when you've had an argument and your clearly upset. I think he just needs a good telling off, I wouldn't leave him over it. Hope you work it out hun =]