DH wants another baby immediately after this one!!!!

Arielle · Nov 8th, 2009, 19:54 PM

Me and my husband have talked about more children. I have a son from a previous relationship and he has daughter from a previous relationship. This is our first child together.

He wants two more kids after this one, and I agreed to one.

But, he wants the next one right after I heal up from my 6weeks. He doesnt want to use any protection, birth control, not even "pulling out" (you know the pull & pray method)!

NO WAY!

Do you think he will grow out of this once the baby is here? His daughter is 12 so its been a long since he's had a baby around!

babyhope · Nov 8th, 2009, 20:01 PM

Yah I definitely think he will have a change of heart after the baby keeps him up all night

Hubby wants another right after too, since our oldest is 6 years old already he doesn't want the next two to have a huge gap, but I told him a max of 2 years!!!!!

honeygrl · Nov 8th, 2009, 20:23 PM

I would make sure that he doesn't get any more sleep than you do those first few months so that he won't be so eager to go again so soon! It's better for your body to wait a little bit anyway I think. If you breastfeed exclusively you may be able to avoid it naturally for a good 6 months, although it's by no means fool proof!

LogansMama · Nov 8th, 2009, 20:27 PM

LMAO! Oh dear... you can change his mind about that REAL easy when you force him to get up during the night for feedings and changings etc....

My hubby didn't have to do anything (I breastfed, so I was up all night anyways), and he still wouldn't agree to another one for 3 years! LOL.

And if by some miracle he DOESN'T change his mind, and really is SUPER DAD and doesn't mind all the sleepless nights etc... then just tell him its YOUR BODY and you are waiting until YOU are ready! You are the one that has to carry that baby for 9 months! And talk to your doctor too... its not really in your best interest to have them SOOO close together. I mean - I know it happens on occasion, but doctors usually want you to space them out a bit further, to give your body a chance to really heal first. 6 weeks doesn't allow for FULL healing!

Arielle · Nov 8th, 2009, 20:37 PM

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Originally Posted by LogansMama

LMAO! Oh dear... you can change his mind about that REAL easy when you force him to get up during the night for feedings and changings etc....

My hubby didn't have to do anything (I breastfed, so I was up all night anyways), and he still wouldn't agree to another one for 3 years! LOL.

And if by some miracle he DOESN'T change his mind, and really is SUPER DAD and doesn't mind all the sleepless nights etc... then just tell him its YOUR BODY and you are waiting until YOU are ready! You are the one that has to carry that baby for 9 months! And talk to your doctor too... its not really in your best interest to have them SOOO close together. I mean - I know it happens on occasion, but doctors usually want you to space them out a bit further, to give your body a chance to really heal first. 6 weeks doesn't allow for FULL healing!

He thinks 6weeks is that "magical" number
Like my uterus is going to be automatically back in tip top condition! HA!

But Im in NO WAY having a baby this early, Im getting a depo birth control shot before I leave the hospital insuring me at least 3 months.

But I want him to change his mind, and shut up and say im right lol

LogansMama · Nov 8th, 2009, 20:50 PM

Are you planning on breastfeeding? If you are - I don't think depo is an option. - Just a little FYI.

And like a pp said - if you do decide to breastfeed, thats a good way to deter pregnancy for a while too. I didn't get my first period till 8 months pp.

Arielle · Nov 8th, 2009, 20:59 PM

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Originally Posted by LogansMama

Are you planning on breastfeeding? If you are - I don't think depo is an option. - Just a little FYI.

And like a pp said - if you do decide to breastfeed, thats a good way to deter pregnancy for a while too. I didn't get my first period till 8 months pp.

No, I got depo when I left the hospital with my son, and I breastfed him.
But I got a period after 3-4 months, maybe because I bottle fed also.
So Im going to do the same with this one.

**Vickie** · Nov 8th, 2009, 21:04 PM

I think after 6 weeks of sleepless nights he'll come around

In all seriousness though it will take your body a lot longer than 6 weeks to fully recover, most I've read say a year!

Angellicaa · Nov 8th, 2009, 22:50 PM

all I can say is 'oh wow!!!'.....

maybebaby3 · Nov 9th, 2009, 01:51 AM

he must be mad. one thing is if it happens accidentally another thing is 2 plan it like he is. your body needs time 2 get back to normal plus imagine coping with a newborn baby and all the 1st trimester sickness and nausea. stand your ground. i got pregnant with my daughter when my son had just had his 1st birthday and that was close enough!

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Arielle Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 599	DH wants another baby immediately after this one!!!! Me and my husband have talked about more children. I have a son from a previous relationship and he has daughter from a previous relationship. This is our first child together. He wants two more kids after this one, and I agreed to one. But, he wants the next one right after I heal up from my 6weeks. He doesnt want to use any protection, birth control, not even "pulling out" (you know the pull & pray method)! NO WAY! Do you think he will grow out of this once the baby is here? His daughter is 12 so its been a long since he's had a baby around!

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babyhope Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 801	Yah I definitely think he will have a change of heart after the baby keeps him up all night Hubby wants another right after too, since our oldest is 6 years old already he doesn't want the next two to have a huge gap, but I told him a max of 2 years!!!!!

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honeygrl Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Georgia, USA Posts: 2,555	I would make sure that he doesn't get any more sleep than you do those first few months so that he won't be so eager to go again so soon! It's better for your body to wait a little bit anyway I think. If you breastfeed exclusively you may be able to avoid it naturally for a good 6 months, although it's by no means fool proof!

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LogansMama Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: South Florida Posts: 2,835	LMAO! Oh dear... you can change his mind about that REAL easy when you force him to get up during the night for feedings and changings etc.... My hubby didn't have to do anything (I breastfed, so I was up all night anyways), and he still wouldn't agree to another one for 3 years! LOL. And if by some miracle he DOESN'T change his mind, and really is SUPER DAD and doesn't mind all the sleepless nights etc... then just tell him its YOUR BODY and you are waiting until YOU are ready! You are the one that has to carry that baby for 9 months! And talk to your doctor too... its not really in your best interest to have them SOOO close together. I mean - I know it happens on occasion, but doctors usually want you to space them out a bit further, to give your body a chance to really heal first. 6 weeks doesn't allow for FULL healing!

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LogansMama Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: South Florida Posts: 2,835	Are you planning on breastfeeding? If you are - I don't think depo is an option. - Just a little FYI. And like a pp said - if you do decide to breastfeed, thats a good way to deter pregnancy for a while too. I didn't get my first period till 8 months pp.

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Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,715	I think after 6 weeks of sleepless nights he'll come around In all seriousness though it will take your body a lot longer than 6 weeks to fully recover, most I've read say a year!

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Angellicaa Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,145	all I can say is 'oh wow!!!'.....

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maybebaby3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Gibraltar Posts: 6,286	he must be mad. one thing is if it happens accidentally another thing is 2 plan it like he is. your body needs time 2 get back to normal plus imagine coping with a newborn baby and all the 1st trimester sickness and nausea. stand your ground. i got pregnant with my daughter when my son had just had his 1st birthday and that was close enough!

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