Bad situation Long rant need advice - Page 3

1st_timer · Nov 9th, 2009, 06:58 AM

I am so sorry you have been through this - it sounds like it has been a terrible ordeal. As all the other girls have said you and your baby are much better without him. I grew up without my father and I never once blamed my Mum. She's an extremely special lady who has always done her best for me and I am sure your LO will feel the same about you.

Make sure you are always honest with your child as to why it is as it is.

Ask yourself whether you want your child to have this man as an influence in his life?

Good luck sweetheart - it's going to be hard but you are absolutely doing the right thing xxx

AmyMarie · Nov 9th, 2009, 12:49 PM

Thanks girls,
I feel a little better today after reading back on all ye have said.
I know we can not be together now, well not the way i wished for,
I know and hope everything will be different when baby comes,
someone i can love and be loved by unconditionally all my life...

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

xxxxxxxx

Tricks26 · Nov 9th, 2009, 13:13 PM

oh my god just read your whole story and all the comments and would like to say that there has been alot of good advice given out, but the most important thing to take away with you is that it is so his loss you and your baby deserve so much more, dont let anyone treat you this way, you will stop having strong feelings for him one day, but you will also get on with your life and be much stronger for it !!!! Never feel alone take care xxx

blackrose · Nov 9th, 2009, 13:16 PM

Oh gosh , I just read your post . I wish I could offer you some good advice

, All I can say is your so much better without him and maybe some councilling would give you a better feeling of self worth .

Celesse · Nov 9th, 2009, 13:23 PM

It sounds like you have been through a terrible ordeal from an emotionally abusive man. It may be an idea to contact Women's Aid ( http://www.womensaid.ie/ <<< Irish website). Even if he hasn't hit you he has been emotionally abusive and controlling and they may be able to offer you support and help you resolve a lot of the emotions you must be feeling now.

Louise N · Nov 9th, 2009, 13:54 PM

You mustn't go back to this man. Stay with your family who can love and support you through everything. As others have said maybe some counselling would help.

As for your child being resentful when s/he grows up. Don't worry about that at all right now. Your baby is far better off out of an abusive situation like that. Take care.

Nov 9th, 2009, 06:58 AM	#21
1st_timer Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: London Posts: 941	I am so sorry you have been through this - it sounds like it has been a terrible ordeal. As all the other girls have said you and your baby are much better without him. I grew up without my father and I never once blamed my Mum. She's an extremely special lady who has always done her best for me and I am sure your LO will feel the same about you. Make sure you are always honest with your child as to why it is as it is. Ask yourself whether you want your child to have this man as an influence in his life? Good luck sweetheart - it's going to be hard but you are absolutely doing the right thing xxx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 12:49 PM	#22
AmyMarie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: West of Ireland Posts: 368	Thanks girls, I feel a little better today after reading back on all ye have said. I know we can not be together now, well not the way i wished for, I know and hope everything will be different when baby comes, someone i can love and be loved by unconditionally all my life... xxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 13:13 PM	#23
Tricks26 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Surrey, England Posts: 605	oh my god just read your whole story and all the comments and would like to say that there has been alot of good advice given out, but the most important thing to take away with you is that it is so his loss you and your baby deserve so much more, dont let anyone treat you this way, you will stop having strong feelings for him one day, but you will also get on with your life and be much stronger for it !!!! Never feel alone take care xxx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 13:16 PM	#24
blackrose Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 2,192	Oh gosh , I just read your post . I wish I could offer you some good advice , All I can say is your so much better without him and maybe some councilling would give you a better feeling of self worth .

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Nov 9th, 2009, 13:23 PM	#25
Celesse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: North East UK Posts: 5,486	It sounds like you have been through a terrible ordeal from an emotionally abusive man. It may be an idea to contact Women's Aid ( http://www.womensaid.ie/ <<< Irish website). Even if he hasn't hit you he has been emotionally abusive and controlling and they may be able to offer you support and help you resolve a lot of the emotions you must be feeling now.

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Nov 9th, 2009, 13:54 PM	#26
Louise N Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: England Posts: 1,390	You mustn't go back to this man. Stay with your family who can love and support you through everything. As others have said maybe some counselling would help. As for your child being resentful when s/he grows up. Don't worry about that at all right now. Your baby is far better off out of an abusive situation like that. Take care.

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