Hey there,

I know I said I was moving to 3rd tri yesterday but wanted some advice from you all before I went.

Now I want your honest opinion... My OH wa supposed to be going to a house party yesterday. A friends wife apparently. She only knows him and another guy (my OHs boss) and so he told me it was just them two going (I didnt ask he just told me this).

Yesteday though I had really bad back cramp and asked him to stay home as I had had been in hospital earlier that week as I was having big blobs of what I thought was my mucus plug coming out. I have never asked him to stay in before and thought he wouldnt mind

well he did and today I used his phone to text a friend and when I went in to delete the msg I sent her i noticed h had not texted andy (his boss) to say he couldnt make it last night but a girl called louise. I saw from bebo also that his boss andy was never meant to be going to this party.

Should I say something? I am hormoned out my wee face and dunno what to do.

He has never cheated on me or anything like that and is a good guy but why lie?

hey hun hope ur feeling better today hun it wont hurt to ask u will no if hes lying ur pregnant and u dont need the stress!!! good luck with everything and let us no what he says xxx


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, Id be very paranoid if I was in your position, I would definately confront him . It may be completely innocent, but Id need to know. Keep us informed hun. xx

I wouldnt be able to not ask him.
if its innocent why would he need to lie to you about it ?
Good luck

Aww, I really feel for you but the only advise I could give is that I guess is depends on if you really want to know the answer.

Ask him you will drive yourself mad otherwise .xx

He said Louise is his mates niece who was supposed to be picking him up to take him over when she finished work and she was gonna stay a few hours too.

I asked why he never texted his boss and he said that he didnt text him cause he was supposed to phone him to let him know when he would be going so thought he'd already know he wasnt going cause he didnt phone... confused? me too

Dont know what to think... would you believe him?

xx

hon my advice to you is to *really* let it go. Now is NOT the time for you to get bugged with those things. Do NOT ever check OH's phone, there is no need for it - it's disrespectful first of all to yourself. I wouldn't necessarily believe him, but now is not the time to be paranoid, you need to concentrate on your pregnancy, the bubs, your new family, nursery etc. There is plenty of more important things to do than to get yourself and him worked up about it. You're obviously more important to him than Louise or the party or anything, so please just let it go and do not think about it twice even if it sounds a bit odd.

I have to say that I would WANT to follow Lanaross's advice and leave it alone as thats the most sensible thing but I'm not sure I could (have been badly hurt in the past). However, I would ask yourself whether he has ever given you reason to doubt him? If he is then its worth talking to him about it more...

the not phoning his boss thing though? thats a guy thing...my OH often does text someone or phone them when he's not doing something as they'll know because he hasnt been in touch...xxx

xxx