As the title says, I am now single. For those of you lovely ladies who have pbeen talking with me in the general chatroom, you know I have been having troubles with AH since day one...well today he outdid himself.

He promised me he wouldn't be going to the pub, and while I was at the fireworks night with our 3 yr old son and my mum, he got completely hammered. When I returned, he was so drunk he couldn't sit up let alone stand up and had wet the bed. MY bed. New matteress will be ordered for when I go pick up my furniture. I had Josh downstairs asking if he could go to bed, but I simply told him to get his shoes on, and I graqbbed some of our things, and I am now sat on my mums kitchen floor (all the furniture is in transit to her new house!) and am following her to her new house tomorrow, to start life fresh.

I'm so angry at him. He couldn't even manage a few words to ask me to stay. He simply said "I havent touched a drop" and I had prewarned him, if I came home to find him drunk (he has a drink problem...being that he loves drink more than his children), I would pack Josh and I's things and be gone without a look back. I told him to be straight with me and he couldn't even do that.

Sorry it's a long one...it's 12:07am and I can't sleep cos I'm so upset

I wish you guys were at the end of the road or something so I could see you xxxx

Oh boy, that sounds horrible. But I'm really glad to hear you are able to go to your mom's and you have that outlet. I think you're better off from just the little that I'm reading about this. Having an alcoholic father never ends up being a good experience for children. I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this though as it must be an emotional trainwreck at the moment. Hang in there, with some time and healing, things will look a bit brighter.

very sorry to hear this honey xxx

Oh God i hope your ok xxx
If your anything like me your very forgiving, but i would advise you to not let him get away with ANYTHING he has done to hurt you from now on. You made the best move you possibly could. I had a situation i had to get away from aswell this year and have never gone back. Its hard but you need to do it for your little ones aswell as yourself xxxx
All the best wishes, my heart goes out to you xxxx

oh hun, im so sorry to hear your news i dont really have any constructive advice, as me and my OH have our issues too, but i just wanted to reply to let you know that you have friends here, so dont be too sad . big hugz! ]]

as my mum used to say, have a sleep, and things will look better in the morning. xxx

i KNOW HOW YOU FEEL HUN.... OH went out a few weeks ago for a couple of drinks at 10.30pm and never returned home. Frantic that he had got into a fight and been stabbed,I was awake all night calling him but had no reply. I called his parents at 7.30am who called every hospital and police station in the area to no avail. My 11 year old daughter and I started to walk the streets at 8am, freezing, to see if we could find him. I flagged down a police van who took some details and did some checks. They called him and he said he would be home in 5 mins... basically he had got drunk on whiskey (something he just cannot handle) and passed out in an alley way. I was more than fuming.... to top it all he merely muttered a "sorry" and collected his stuff to go to watch football 2 hours drive away to stay over at his parents.... he left 30 minutes later!!!

I finished with my daughters dad for similar reasons.... alcohol... the root of all evil! Why do they do such stupid things and then blatently lie about it? I think my OH must be your hubbys BROTHER! Dump him... it will teach him a lesson and give him some time to get his act together... my OH will be going down the same route if he continues.

Sorry to hear you're going through this. I hope it all works out for you and you're so lucky to have the support of your mum during all this.

Hey hun, hope ur ok. If u need a chat just PM me. Me and husband split when I was 6 weeks pregnant. So i know how u feel.
At least uv got ur mum, and ur little boy to keep u going and ur making a positive decision and taking control. Hope ur ok and remember we are all here for u x

It sounds like you did the right thing. That's the last thing a little boy needs to see from a parent! He should be terribly ashamed of himself. Maybe this will be the push he needs to get some help. In a few weeks or a month you will probably wonder why you didn't go sooner and feel much better about it all. I hope things start to look brighter soon! You are certainly much better off without that kind of stress in your life!

My husband was actually raised by his dad who is a terrible alcoholic. The man took him to see Barbarella (porn!!) in the theater when he was only 8 years old! It entirely screwed with his head in so many ways. His dad is still hard to deal with to this day. The last time we went to visit, his dad got entirely ripped and my poor DH was SO embarrassed. He apologized for his dad so many times. It sucks to make your kid feel that way.

good for you, and best of luck.

i'm sorry he made such a big mistake.