Major rant sorry

I know she means well but can't help but feel when this baby comes she will take over, She lives a 4 hour drive from us, so when they come down they will be staying with us.

Hubby tells her everything we have bought for baby, The other day he mentioned that we are getting a bath for baby. So of course she says "why waste your money on that wash it in the sink."

Told her that I am expressing my milk instead of breast feeding so we can both enjoy sharing feeding her response was "never heard of anything so stupid"

Now they inform us that as soon as i go in to labour they are coming down god help me. I have tried telling husband that we will need a week with just us to so we can bond with it. But then DH said you cant stop them from coming down. If it gets to bad im sure i will swing for her and it won't just be my hormones.

does any one else's behave like this or is it just mine?

is it just me or are they all just the same,



Update They rang yesterday to say that they are coming down in a few weeks time. when we brought our house it needed quite a lot of work doing to it but over the years we are slowly getting there. husband is starting to decorate the nursery as he is not working at the moment. Whenever they come down FIL insists on helping DH to start a new project. This time he wants us to knock our fire place out which is a big big job as it has built in cupboards to the side of it so the whole room will need plastering, new skirting boards carpet. I have told my husband that no way are they going to do that imagine the dust, I told him that there is things for baby we need instead, + the lounge is in a liveable state. However FIL won't take no for an answer . So I treatened to move out until the works complete, This has now put a stop to it. Thank god so now they are taking us of shopping for baby BUT FOR THINGS I WANT.

Mine is the opposite...

Is this her first grandchild i just feel some MIL like to feel they are doing there piece i mean some can become really interfering and they probably dont know there doing it she is probably just as excited as you are about baby but if she is becoming abit to much maybe say something before baby is born .

My MIL just likes to give me advice but its not very often she just leaves me to it she as had my kids from being 8 weeks old over night for 2 days a week and she loves it my kids love it and are in a really good routine they love going to nannys....though i really dont know how she does shes geting things ready for new arrival for her house as she will also be having this baby overnight shes done it for past 6 years so its the norm for us now....shes wonder woman lol

I find ya cant win in this situation as i see women who say there MIL annoy them and then they arnt doing enough so no win situation. and especially is thid if your 1st baby to....i lived with my MIL when my 1st was born till he was 5 months and tbh i loved the help i got from her as i was so tired and had the baby blues.

Suppose everybody is different.

My DHs mother died a few years back but his dad is girly enough to make up for it. He tried to talk my DH into pushing me to get an abortion when he found out I was pregnant. He said some really awful things based on 1 short visit he made down here. I was very very ill the whole time he was here (had pneumonia) so he decided that I was too selfish and lazy to take care of a baby since I stayed in bed most of the time he was here. I also let DH plan our wedding almost entirely because he is WAY better at that stuff than I am and I was working 60 hours a week while DH worked 3 days a week so his dad took that as me not caring about it and being too lazy to help. He definitely pisses me off and is so over emotional about everything. Luckily, he gets on DHs nerves too so I can pretty much speak my mind about him and avoid talking to him if I want to. He's changed his mind about the baby since the beginning and is now playing nice about it. I think it's because DH refused to speak to him for about a month and he realized he screwed up.

Sounds exactly like my mother! She is driving me freaking crazy and she lives 4500 miles away!!! lol She says she is coming out after the baby is born (I don't think she will) anyway I said just wait till at least mid may as I am due April 24 and I would like some time with the hubby me and baby while we adjust to having it home! Plus if I go over I don't want her to miss seeing the baby. She agress and then what does she do??? Says she coming on the 24th and expects hubby to pick them up from the airport because these things take time YA FREAKING RIGHT!! I'm not letting him out of my damn site!!

Then she goes on about how she wants to be in the room with me while I have baby....but tells me how she was quiet during her labours and there is no need for screaming and I better not do that! ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? she would be quite surprised with me on all four's (not a lady like position) screaming and then stopping just long enough to smack her and kick her out!

I think some people just don't think before they talk! And our hormones are not helping (well at least mine! I have NO patcience anymore) hope it gets easier for you!

4 hours away? god your lucky, mine is 10 min drive...xx

My MIL died before we were married, I can relate though sometimes my FIL sticks his nose in where it does not belong, he's made comments about what I cook and the house.
He hasn't said anything that I know concerning the baby yet...give him time.
My mom so far has been great, she generally doesn't stick her nose in where it doesn't belong.

When MIL isnt calling me silly or stupid and hitting me on the arm with magazines (apparently shes being playfull) she isnt too bad, she has helped us out alot with buying stuff for the baby although somtime it feels like youv just been bullied into picking what she wants
I mentioned about being able to see the baby moving from the outside and apparently im just being stupid because thats impossible.
She only lives about 10 mins from us so does all the family and the latest one thats pissing me off is her saying the baby is going to have to go live with her because we dont have a clue and wont raise it right.
The family is about 5 mins from the hospital so im fully expecting them to all be there while im in labour even though both sides have been told not to.
Anyone know if you can get restraining orders out against MIL???

My MIL always knows best. Doesn't help that my SIL is also pregnant and everything I or my family do is compared. I can't bear her but DH doesn't like to say anything and she's too sly to say much when he's around. My Mum is a health visitor but even what she says isn't as good as what she thinks. My SIL has been with my BIL since they were very young so has grown up with them all whereas I'm the outsider, doesn't help that her Mum is a Midwife so she knows everything! RANT!

Is there only me that likes and gets on with my MIL in 7 years of being with her son we have never once fell out maybe a disagreement on something little but thats it lol

Hope you all manage to sort things out xxxx

my MIL told me when other day when i jumped when the baby kicked "dont be stupid it will just be spasms"!! my OH found it highly amusing watching me struggle to bite my tonge!! next time she will get bloody spasmed across the room!!!x