Shannon

We dicided if we were having a boy we would have him circumsized, my boyfriend said that right off the bat.... I wont say in general it is more hygenic that seems to cause a rift around here but it is way easier to care for without having to pull back skin and get more detailed with every diaper change, I am from the US so here it is more commonly done . In the long run, in this part of the world not having it done might give the boy more of a complex when he is older, I know cause I have dealt with men in that situation. Also when I read up on it the whole ordeal it is supposed to heal and be over within 1 week if properly maintained which i hear is also not to difficult. Its a personal choice so I say if his father wants it done maybe you should just let him, he knows a little more about the male area than we do and there must be a reason he wants it done even if its just family tradition.. I am having a girl but if it was a boy we would have it done.....Good luck with your decision

KarenLV

To be honest I dont see the need for circumcision however my husband seems to be really adamant about this. I dont know how to change his mind. It has become quite a burden for me,as my husband does not know the sex of our baby and I do. For me the idea of giving birth alone fills me with quite a lot of fear and then the added fear of having to have our baby circumcised two days later fill me with dread. My husband doesnt want to know the sex of our baby,so it is difficult to go into detail with him. I have also read that the circumcision rates in USA have declined the past few years. I know in UK it is not really done except for religious reasons.

PitBullMommy

DH was totally for circumcision had Peanut been a boy...then I started doing research and talking to him about it and managed to get him to come around to my way of thinking which is NO circumcision. Turns out we're having a girl though, so it doesn't really matter.

Ragirl

I think it depends in part on if you have religious preference. I will be very honest with you about our decision to circumsize our son. We had no religious preference. My personal experience of having been with someone uncircumsized was that it grossed me out. I didn't want my son to have that experience. Now I will also say I have had girlfriends say the sex is better with an uncircumsized male, so there again, it's personal preference. Also, I worked in the health care field for many years. We had patients, who were not able to care for themselves, who were not circumsized, and always had issues with hygiene and infections. I don't think the hygiene thing is an issue if the person has the ability to properly care for themselves. Lastly, the pain thing- my son did not appear to have hardly any pain from it. They gave him basic Tylenol and then rubbed something on it to numb it for the procedure and he cried for a second, but no more than he did for every diaper change. I was worried when the Tylenol wore off he would be in pain, but he didn't seem bothered when I would clean it. I think we think of how painful it would be for adults, but we have to remember that babies nervous systems aren't quite as developed as ours- which is why they can fall and bash themselves in the head and jump up and keep running Hope that helps...it is a tough decision.

taylor2

I agree with Ragirl. My son was also circumcised and there was no question as to whether or not to do it. First, it did not seem to hurt him too much...not to say it didn't hurt, but he only cried for about a min... then he was fine. I also think the uncircumcised penis is unattractive and "gross" looking. I have never been with a man who was not circumcised, being in the US it is VERY common, but I have seen an uncircumcised penis, and I have to say I did not like what I saw. Also, I think of the boys changing in the locker room at school... kids make fun of each other anyway, but why add one more reason for your precious son to be the laughing stock in gym class? I just wouldn't want my son to be self conscious about it and feel embarrassed in front of his girlfriend. I would also think, having grown up in the US, that my son would be pissed at me and his father for not circumcising him, he may feel like he wants to do it later in life, and then what??? How painful do you think that would be? I have never met a man who said he wished he wasn't circumcised. Sorry, just my opinion...

Samo

DH and I definitely will circumcise if/when we have a son. DH was not circumcised when he was an infant, and actually had the procedure done in his TEENS!!! Poor guy, but he is not shy to talk of his experience. He can clearly remember how things were before and after, and definitely prefers the later.

Tink1o5

I was going to because i was told about health issues, BUT now that i'v found out that nothing will happen as long as there clean, why put your child through that kinda pain!!!
So now imma have to say nope

Jenny

I didn't get my son circumcised and if this baby is a boy then I will not be getting it done for him either.My hubby agrees its totally unneeded and he's circumcised. I totally understand if its your beliefs but I would not get it done if just because everyone else you know has it done. I mean, they have it for a reason or nature would have some how adapted for it not to be there.

I think theres a few men out there that want it done to their sons just because they are and aren't really thinking of the hygenic point of view. Also, I know its really common to get it done over here and in the states and sadly I think its more to do with looks than anything else. "I don't want my son to be laughed at" Thats a terrible reason to get it done, your just feeding into society's obsession with everything needing to look perfect.

But thats my opinion, Each to their own.

hypnorm

I would only have it done to my son if there was a medical reason.
Not because it doesnt look nice if its not done or because it 'grosses you out!'
Its my sons body not mine! if he wants it done when he is older then that is up to him, but i have left my son as he was born.
And to say that it doesn't hurt is just stupid, why use Local anaesthetic!
They say its better for hygiene but i dont think that is an issue if you wash properly.

coccyx

Surely we can't go around mutilating a baby's body just because it is not considered the most attractive thing to look at. If there were more uncircumcised males then it would be the norm ., and people in society would be more accepting of it. ? Jenny was right , madness of culture where perfection, or perceived perfection is constantly strived for. YUK