Well ladies i need some words of wisdom.... I went for my anomaly scan on Friday and im happy to report that all is well with baby. We also got to see that we are having baby boy.

I had my heart set on a girl and just never imagined myself having a little boy. I love my baby just the same but how can i overcome these feelings of disappointment that it is not a girl? I feel so selfish and ungrateful.
I want to overcome these feelings before Tyler is born

Have any of you ladies ever felt the same? How do i overcome this?

It took me a while to come to terms with having a boy.. i already have a daughter, but have only ever imagined myself having girls.. i was so glad i found out i was having a boy when i did.. it gave me time to get used to the idea.. and now i couldnt be happier.. for me its a lil different i know because i have a lil princess

All i can say is the disappointment may hang about for a few days.. but that will pass.. and believe me when you first get to hold your lil boy.... you will have just as much love for him as you would if it were a girl

xx

Hi Hun, I felt the same when I found out I was having a little girl!! I wanted a boy. I always imagined the "perfect" family. One Dad, One Mum, One Older Brother and a Little Sister!! I felt really bad for feeling this way too, so you're not alone!

I started to feel better when I went out and bought some pink bits. Sounds silly but it made it easier to get my head around having a little girl! xxx

I haven't found out yet but will find out..because like you I have my heart set on a girl. I imagine that if I'm having a boy (which I'm trying to prepare myself for by refering to it as Daniel all the time...) I think I would be disappointed because I have this fear that I won't know what to do with a boy and it won't need it's mummy as much..but I hope those feeling will wear off in a few days..

I think it's the best news that your little man is all healthy and when he arrives and stares up at you and smiles..it won't matter because you'll have such a precious treasure in your arms..

I hope you start to feel a bit more cheerful soon. Try to start looking at little boy clothes (so cute)..

xxx

hey hun, first off I dont believe you should feel bad for being disappointed with the gender, its natural for peeps to have a preference, and it certainly doesnt not mean you will love your man any less. When you fall pregnant, you do start to dream straight away about the baby and what it might be, look like etc, so come 20 weeks, its no suprise that knowing the gender can be an anti climax....but you did the right thing finding out when you had a preference, as you now have 20 weeks to sort your emotions out, which you will do and when he arrives, you will forget you ever wanted a girl so badly. I know this, as thats how i was with elsie my second baby. I badly wanted a boy, but i found out at 20 weeks that she was a girl, and by the end of the pregnancy i was so used to the idea, that when she was born, she was nothing short of my little angel...and you know, when i finally got my son last year, i came to realise something. No matter the sex, they are all just babies, you love them regardless...and in the exact same way. I certainly dont favour my son in any way, despite wanting him so badly...but you would expect you would really wouldnt you. It doesnt work that way

I felt the same when I was told I was having a boy, at 18 weeks. I remember the next day at work, I couldn't help crying and feeling miserable. Like you, I had always imagined having a girl and I couldn't imagine having a baby boy! I felt terrible for not being happy... What an ungrateful person I was!

I did some reading and learnt that gender disappointment is something very common. We all have our "dream baby" made up in our head, some since the day of conception, some since long before... You imagine yourself with your child doing mummy-kiddo stuff, you imagine what it will look like, what king of character your baby will have...

Those "fantasies" are shaped by your own relationship with your parents and siblings or by the examples you see around you. I have a great relationship with my mum and the only baby boys I have ever known were my nephews. As babies, they were noisy, dirty or would never obey what my sister told them. Why on earth would I have wanted a boy?

Then I realised that having a baby girl would not mean my fantasy baby would come to life. Girls don't always do what their mummies tell them... Eventually, we all have to let go our fantasies and say goodbye to that dream baby. We're getting a real baby!

All little boys do not come out the same mold. Neither do all little girls... Think of why you regret not having a girl. Aren't most of those things doable with a boy? My boyfriend likes dancing and taking care of his orchids. How boyish is that? Don't let you get influenced by boy/girl clichés... I'm sure you will share a lot of things with your baby! (and maybe even more, you know what they say about mum-boys relationships!)

hey! Im worried too. I thought we were going to have a boy because my hubbys genes are very strong for males to be born, at least 1st anyway. I was really really shocked when we found out we were having a girl, and im not disapointed but it took some getting used to as i really did think we were having a boy!! Im just glad i got to have the scan and find out it was a girl. If not she would have had lots of blue clothes by the time she was born because we really didnt expect it!!

Thank you so much ladies. Your words mean so much to me. Im glad it is normal to feel like this... I guess my hormones are playing a part too. Everything just seems so much more real now. And even though my pregnancy was planned i am still getting used to the idea that in 4 months we will have a baby in our home and our lives will change forever ( for the better) I suppose all new moms hope they will be the best moms that they can be.

Thank you again for your support

Hey i know how your feeling, i had a gender scan at 17 weeks that said we were having a boy i was over the moon me and oh really wanted a boy and we went out and got little blue things....then at my 20 week scan told its actually a girl honestly at the time i was gutted....but so pleased the scan went well and shes healthy but id completly bonded with the idea of having a son....its such a mix of emotions but give it time to sink in and you will come round...its natural to feel this way but so long as your baby is well thats all that matter

xxxxxx

i wanted a girl so when they said she was a girl i was so happy, it wasnt until a few days later that it hit me that id never have a son & i felt quite sad, the feeling only lasted a few days & now i'm excited about my girl again, infact i wouldnt swap her for a boy in a million years