Trusting OH not to reveal the sex???

LyndsayLou · Sep 17th, 2009, 07:30 AM

I need you help and advice now ladies!

Our 20 week scan is next Friday, I have told OH we can find out the sex but it stays strictly between me and him. The reason being his twin bro telling everyone (I mean everyone) I was pregnant before the 12 week mark. Bearing in mind we had a scare at 8 weeks. Was very angry

but it's done now.

Anyway, my family don't want to know the sex until the big day and I don't really want everyone knowing, especially because they can't keep their mouths shut. So, do I trust him that he won't tell because he knows how important it is to me!! Also, he is very very close to identical twin bro and normally very bad at keeping secrets!!

HELP!!! x

_Vicky_ · Sep 17th, 2009, 08:56 AM

oohh hard one - I would say find out and take the risk. After all you and your oh are the most important ones here arent they. If he accidently lets it slip then so be it - its not the end of the world xxx

Jox · Sep 17th, 2009, 08:59 AM

i would say either stay on team yellow or find out and speak to your OH brother and ask him not to tell anybody!!!

xxx

new mummy h · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:01 AM

if youre that worried id stick to team yellow - i know it would feel like his brother had won because you didnt get to find out! but at least u know noones talking about it lol!
xxxxxxx

Kota · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:13 AM

yeah, if you're that worried he's going to spill and that will cause tension then I'd be more likely to stay team yellow.

We found out hwoever dont' plan on telling anyone, and people on BnB are th eonly ones to know what team we're on!!
My family dont' want to know, and where as his family dont' care either way, if they knew we knew, they'd want to know...
we've just told everyone the hospital had a 'no telling' policy!

new mummy h · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Kota

yeah, if you're that worried he's going to spill and that will cause tension then I'd be more likely to stay team yellow.

We found out hwoever dont' plan on telling anyone, and people on BnB are th eonly ones to know what team we're on!!
My family dont' want to know, and where as his family dont' care either way, if they knew we knew, they'd want to know...
we've just told everyone the hospital had a 'no telling' policy!

we found out too - only some of his family know and my brother knows - but my family will find out on the day!
we arent revealing names either! only on here lol!!

LyndsayLou · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Kota

yeah, if you're that worried he's going to spill and that will cause tension then I'd be more likely to stay team yellow.

We found out hwoever dont' plan on telling anyone, and people on BnB are th eonly ones to know what team we're on!!
My family dont' want to know, and where as his family dont' care either way, if they knew we knew, they'd want to know...
we've just told everyone the hospital had a 'no telling' policy!

Yeah if we find out we're telling people we didn't then they can't bug us to find out!! Will tell all on here though!!

lilyd · Sep 17th, 2009, 13:34 PM

We intend to find out and keep it secret, but considering we are visiting my OH's family afterwards I am banking on it being a secret for all of a couple of hours!!!

He didn't want to tell people we were pregnant until the first scan, but managed to tell all his friends when he was at a stag do (but did manage to forgot to tell me they all knew!).

So, from experience, my advice would be not to find out unless you are prepared for the news to 'leak'!

shaunanicole · Sep 17th, 2009, 13:47 PM

I'd try and trust him with this. He might of learned his lesson from the last told he told his brother and he blabbed about it.

JayDee · Sep 18th, 2009, 07:46 AM

I think it depends whether you really want to know or not, you and OH have to decide that first, and worry about anyone else later.
If you went mad at him for telling before the first scan then maybe Shauna's right, he'll have learnt his lesson. Also, if you find out he has told his brother could you confuse him by saying the opposite (e.g. if OH tells him it's a boy, then you say it's a girl, or refer to baby as she rather than he) that might scare him into not telling cos he won't know for sure that which is right....

And, you never know, baby might have their legs crossed and you won't be able to find out anyway.

Sep 17th, 2009, 07:30 AM	#1
LyndsayLou Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Lancashire, UK Posts: 567	Trusting OH not to reveal the sex??? I need you help and advice now ladies! Our 20 week scan is next Friday, I have told OH we can find out the sex but it stays strictly between me and him. The reason being his twin bro telling everyone (I mean everyone) I was pregnant before the 12 week mark. Bearing in mind we had a scare at 8 weeks. Was very angry but it's done now. Anyway, my family don't want to know the sex until the big day and I don't really want everyone knowing, especially because they can't keep their mouths shut. So, do I trust him that he won't tell because he knows how important it is to me!! Also, he is very very close to identical twin bro and normally very bad at keeping secrets!! HELP!!! x

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Sep 17th, 2009, 08:56 AM	#2
_Vicky_ Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Derbyshire - UK Posts: 5,928	oohh hard one - I would say find out and take the risk. After all you and your oh are the most important ones here arent they. If he accidently lets it slip then so be it - its not the end of the world xxx

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Jox Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Mansfield, Notts Posts: 7,272	i would say either stay on team yellow or find out and speak to your OH brother and ask him not to tell anybody!!! xxx

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Sep 17th, 2009, 09:01 AM	#4
new mummy h Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Leeds Posts: 2,521	if youre that worried id stick to team yellow - i know it would feel like his brother had won because you didnt get to find out! but at least u know noones talking about it lol! xxxxxxx

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Sep 17th, 2009, 09:13 AM	#5
Kota Other BnB Elite Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: In a land down under.. Posts: 10,360	yeah, if you're that worried he's going to spill and that will cause tension then I'd be more likely to stay team yellow. We found out hwoever dont' plan on telling anyone, and people on BnB are th eonly ones to know what team we're on!! My family dont' want to know, and where as his family dont' care either way, if they knew we knew, they'd want to know... we've just told everyone the hospital had a 'no telling' policy!

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Sep 17th, 2009, 13:34 PM	#8
lilyd Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 948	We intend to find out and keep it secret, but considering we are visiting my OH's family afterwards I am banking on it being a secret for all of a couple of hours!!! He didn't want to tell people we were pregnant until the first scan, but managed to tell all his friends when he was at a stag do (but did manage to forgot to tell me they all knew!). So, from experience, my advice would be not to find out unless you are prepared for the news to 'leak'!

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Sep 17th, 2009, 13:47 PM	#9
shaunanicole Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Deltona, Florida Posts: 3,152	I'd try and trust him with this. He might of learned his lesson from the last told he told his brother and he blabbed about it.

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Sep 18th, 2009, 07:46 AM	#10
JayDee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: UK Posts: 3,625	I think it depends whether you really want to know or not, you and OH have to decide that first, and worry about anyone else later. If you went mad at him for telling before the first scan then maybe Shauna's right, he'll have learnt his lesson. Also, if you find out he has told his brother could you confuse him by saying the opposite (e.g. if OH tells him it's a boy, then you say it's a girl, or refer to baby as she rather than he) that might scare him into not telling cos he won't know for sure that which is right.... And, you never know, baby might have their legs crossed and you won't be able to find out anyway.

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