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Jan 31st, 2008, 16:14 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Need some advice!
This may take a while sorry.. i dont even no where 2 start.. im 17+4 weeks pregnant to my parner/ex i dont really no what he is right now.. my mum and that hate hmhim.. they have good reasons 2 he use 2 really bully me never hit me but mentally.. (ur prob thinkin y is she havin a baby) neway my mum wasnt best pleased im pregnant with him and has now decided she wants 2 move away i dont really wanna be involved with his family cos last year i had 2 miscarriages and the 2nd time my and him had an arguement and i had his mum n sister at my daughter threaten to kick the baby out of me.. i later when on to have a miscarriage.. they arent happy bout me bn pregnant apparently if i have a boy it has 2 be called after his step dad.. i really wanna move away with my mum.. i have a dd and hes awkward with her for no reason.. one time he sat and ate crisps in front of her and wen she wanted 1 wouldnt give her any cos she hadnt eaten her dinner so i got her some and he shouted at me.. shes only 2! i feel bad movin tho cos apparently hes excited and keeps talkin bout gettin a pram and pickin names.. i feel really stressed bout it and dont no wot to do..i still love him really but i no if i stay here his muym will control me! im really happy/excited bout havin this baby!
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Jan 31st, 2008, 16:18 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Gosh hun sorry to hear you have been having a hard time....only you can make the decision on you & your babies future but I would advice you to go with your mum & make a fresh start away from his bullying family....good luck with whatever you decide  | | | | Status: Offline
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Jan 31st, 2008, 16:27 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Hun, this is your baby. You need to do what's right for you, not anyone else. If you want to move away with your mum then do it! There doesn't seem to be anything keeping you in your current situation. Your partner/ex-partner and his family do NOT sound like very nice pepople, sounds like you'd be better off getting away.
Also, you can choose what you call your child! Not them!!
Just do what's best for you, your DD and your unborn baby right now.
Hope you're ok huni
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Jan 31st, 2008, 16:30 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | I agree with the others. This is your baby and your decision. Just remember to do what is best for you. It's not healthy for you to be so stressed out during pregnancy. You may want to sit down and have a talk with your partner and let him know how the stress is affecting you. |
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Jan 31st, 2008, 17:10 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | I totally agree, this is an opportunity for a fresh start for you and the baby. If he is that excited about it then he will understand why and will make an effort to remain in his childs life  good luck with what ever you decide |
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Jan 31st, 2008, 19:05 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | you definatly need to do what you feel is best for you and your dd, if he isn't nice to your dd, in my personal opinion i think that you should get out whilst you still can. Your mum and family will give you all the support you need, however his family will not. Love is a strange thing, you may love him....but ask yourself....does he treat you how you want to be treated?? if the answer to this question is no, then I think you know what you should do. Things will only get harder and more stressful between you, when a new baby comes along and you are going to need all the love and support possible,
Sorry you have to make this decision hun xx |
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Jan 31st, 2008, 19:06 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | He won't change. Your DD comes first. If you think you will have a better life moving away with your children then you do it. Unfortunately for some men, fatherhood is a priverlidge not a right. Maybe he needs to learn that. Good luck whatever you choose! |
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I'm Currently Feeling: | You seriously need to weigh up the pros and cons.....
If a man was nasty and not a good influence on my daughter - that is a definate con!
If a man tries to mentally abuse me in some way - a definate con
If a man is not a generally nice person and you are raising a family together - a definate con!
That is just my opinon, I understand that typing it on here and saying how things are may sound different but hun, do it for yourself and work out what is best for YOU and YOUR daughter, because life will be no fun if he is as bad as he sounds in your post, and you owe it to your kids to give them more, for them and for their Mummy!
Think hard bout what life would and could be like with him!
Good Luck hun! x |
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Hi hun i have been in the same position with my last baby good bless she passed away. I am now 18wks pregnant with another man and much happier he has been so supportive i would never go back you and your baby deserve a good start and a safe enviroment | | | | Status: Offline
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