Linzi

It is a pretty tough one. We live about 100 miles away from my parents, but Matts parents live round the corner. My mam and dad have said that they want us to make the effort to visit them because they want to be a part of their grandchilds life undertsandably, but we're the ones with the baby, so it should be a 50/50 thing IMO, we should make the effort but they should too. If you agree to go back wards and forwards but take turns then that might make it a bit easier for them I suppose. I think thats what we're going to do anyway.

As for your in laws... she probably is just trying to help, I doubt she's being nasty but maybe your OH should have a word with her and say rather than her moving in, you dont mind her coming over every couple of days, but if you feel like you need the help then you'll give her a ring? Something like that.

I hope it gets easier for you hun, its so hard trying to please everyone, but at the end of the day theres no need for you too! Just do what you want! Its your time.

xxx

babybels71

Wow, yes, that is a tough one, but, at the end of the day it's your partner and your baby, nobody elses, you just need to be honest. You don't need to shut them out completely but explain that you want your first moments together to be for the both of you.

cparks1

I'm sorry that people are making things complicated for you. I would sit down with your bf and let him know how you feel about his family always being in your business and putting their two cents in. He should be the one to stand up for you and the baby. You two are starting your own family, his family needs to let go and let you two figure things out on your own. It sounds like they are trying to control every aspect of your lives. You two are both adults and are capable of doing things on your own, maybe let them know that. It's nice that they want to help, but not so nice how controlling they are trying to be. Paige is a great name (my hubby and I actually have picked that name for a girl and so far everyone loves it).

I hope things turn around for you and your bf. Just remember, at the end of the day, it's just you and him and not anyone else in between. Good luck to you.

mummy2b

Well, I tried to tell them nicely that if I needed my boyfriends mum's help then I would ring and ask for it but that I did not need her to be there constantly and his sister was fuming that I was not allowing her to stay at our house! I used the excuse that it is a small 2 bedroom house and there simply isn't room. I was polite at 1st but i soon got more persuasive lol! I think she got the message.
All I've had now is remarks such as "Well I hope your capable of giving a new born baby 100% of your attention" and it's really upsetting! But hey like you said 'Sticks & Stones'!!! I hope they start being nicer and more understanding else I don't think I can put up with it for much longer, and the way they are heading I won't want them to come round at all!
I understand that I am young, but I want this baby girl more than anything else in the world and I am determined to make the best of it! Me and my boyfriend are going to make great parents and I hope that I am going to prove them wrong lol!
Keeping my head up!
Will keep you informed hehe!
Luv to you all
xxxx

PS Hope everything is good for you guys!! xxxx

Jules

Arrggh so annoying in-laws aint they! i'm having the same problems with them interfering, a girl wants her own mum!

Anyway, glad you feel better for getting off your chest!

Ellianna

Mmm thats a tough situation.
I think the only thing you can do is put your foot down which I know is easier said than done! The thing is though, if you never tell the MIL how you feel then she'll just use the excuse that she never knew. What about having a coffee with her with just you guys on your own and saying how much you appreciate her help and would love her to come and see the baby but you would prefer it to be just you and your OH at first so you can adjust to being parents. And about where you're living.. I think you just need to tell her that that's where you're going to live and that's the end of it!
I know it can be hard having those kind of conversations but it could be better for all of you in the long term if you establish boundries now rather than when you have a new born baby and need the added stress even less. You never know, she might suprise you in what she says.
Hope it all works out babe!!

xx

captain-ally

Hey,

I have the same thing happening, in a way. We want to move from London to Vancouver Island. My parents would crucify me if we left before the baby was born, and now they're implying that there's no escape for at least a couple of years. On top of that, my mother in law will be MOVING IN WITH US.

What you have to do is be strong and straight forward. I told my parents that we were moving, as soon as we could. They can come and visit whenever they want, but they couldn't be delusional about me staying. They know I hate London. And I made sure to say that we would manage fine on our own. Even my husband's mother has to wait a couple of months before she moves in with us.

Women have been having/raising babies for quite a while now and it won't be any different for either of us. Just tell them that having them there will only stress you out, which is the last thing you need. You shouldn't have to worry about house guests when you have a baby to look after.

~Ally

mummy2b

I am hopefully moving in next month into our house! And I am getting a front door that can't be opened on the outside without a key and no-one but me and lee are having 1 lol!!! i'm going to have nets in the front window so if i can't be arsed to answer the door to anyone then I don't have to lol!! I aint bothered anymore how much it annoys them because at the end of the day I have tried really hard to be nice to them and they throw it back in my face!! So now I am calling the shots whether they like it or not! I tried telling them nicely and now I am going to just do what will make me lee and paige happy!!!!!! xx

Linzi

Anyone can make a good parent as long as they want to. Your age doesnt come into that.

Its good that youve spoken to them though and itll feel even better when you prove them wrong!

xxx

KarenLV

If you move closer to them,you will have this kind of drama every day of your life. In fact,move farther away! Run while you can! He-he. On a more serious note,you and your boyfriend are adults and make your own choices. Paige is a lovely name. If you want to live in an area where your comfortable and your boyfriend is happy with that,then tell him to explain that to his family because if you do it yourself they will resent you. Your boyfriend needs to pull up his socks and stand up for his own soon-to-be little family. Good luck!