NCT classes

purpledahlia · Aug 31st, 2009, 03:46 AM

Just filed out my forms and the antenatal classes up here start in 2 weeks! On mondays! its quite late tho, 7 15 till 9 45, But i qualify for the discounted rate and its only 13.50, and 2 memebership for a year, so i donated 4.50 to make it 20.50 i sent. Feel good that i can meet people around this area due around the same time as me and can maybe have some friends with newborns aswell!

I am a bit dreading the fact i will *probably* be the only person there alone. any tips? there small classes but im sure the other couples will be all loved up...

(no offence).. how do i manage on my own?
Could ask a friend, but because i dont know what to expect i dont know if it would be weird?

Margie · Aug 31st, 2009, 03:57 AM

Hey there

Hope your journey up was okay.

I've heard such good things about the NCT classes - that they are quite informal and a great way to meet people. Could you contact the co-ordinator to find out if there are any other single mums in the class? And whether they would usually bring a friend along. Although I really don't think the couples will be 'loved up' as I think everyone will be wanting to meet new people.

As for late - ours are from 8-10pm!!! Think I'll have to come home for a nap first

purpledahlia · Aug 31st, 2009, 04:02 AM

oh dear thats late, I wont get home till abotu 10 15 tho so im glad its just 15 mins earlier!
I already asked her about taking my mum and she said i can take anyone i want, the thing i dont know if it would be weird for a friend if i took one.. my mum said she might be able to come, but i dont know if i want her to be threre the first one. shes about to do a post grad so she cant commit to every monday night for like.. 8 weeks or soemthing, and my sister has gymnastics so id be dropping her off on the way but my mum wud have to be home to pick her up as it fnishes earlier than my class.
I am def gonna go, i need too. but i just dunno i dont wanna be judged? id be worried nobody will be my age and they will be 'older' mums and judge me for being single.. im 23 so im not THAT young, but still.

Margie · Aug 31st, 2009, 04:10 AM

Aaaah I see - ask your friend... she could always go with you to one and see if it feels weird. Does it have to be the same person every week?

I honestly honestly don't think you will be judged - everyone will be first time parents, so all in the same boat, and will be trying to set up a support network, regardless of their age. Being by yourself may even make you more approachable. Have you thought about braving the first one alone? You might be pleasantly surprised.

Aah - 9:45 is quite late! I thought I saw 9:15 (it's early) - so late nights al round!

Good luck - I'm sure you'll get lots out of teh classes whatever you choose to do

purpledahlia · Aug 31st, 2009, 04:15 AM

Yeah i thought about going to the first one then seeing how it goes and what to expect, you get a class list so i will see if any other singles going beforehand. I think it would be easier for me to go without my mum the first one so i can meet new people etc, and then if she wanted or could come the next week or any other then thats fine, i dont think it has to be the same person every week no, but obv if its your partner its good for preparing them to be at the birth, but the people who i want with me live too far. one will be up for xmas at our house and one lives in Edin and i think10pm is too late to expect her to get a train home.
I'll go myself and get started, the MW run antenatal classes i have aswell, I need to go to both to meet as many people as possible and get outta my fear of giving birth xx

Margie · Aug 31st, 2009, 04:24 AM

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Originally Posted by purpledahlia

Yeah i thought about going to the first one then seeing how it goes and what to expect, you get a class list so i will see if any other singles going beforehand. I think it would be easier for me to go without my mum the first one so i can meet new people etc, and then if she wanted or could come the next week or any other then thats fine, i dont think it has to be the same person every week no, but obv if its your partner its good for preparing them to be at the birth, but the people who i want with me live too far. one will be up for xmas at our house and one lives in Edin and i think10pm is too late to expect her to get a train home.
I'll go myself and get started, the MW run antenatal classes i have aswell, I need to go to both to meet as many people as possible and get outta my fear of giving birth xx

Sounds like a good plan!

Sometimes thinking about stuff like this is more scary than the actual thing itself. Good luck with it

flower01 · Aug 31st, 2009, 04:31 AM

in my first one last week they were all couples but we were told that you can take anyone if you wanted!
= 0 )

xxxxxxxx

purpledahlia · Aug 31st, 2009, 04:35 AM

Yeah, she said i could take anyone, but i dont want just anyone there. theres about 5 people around here that i would be happy with coming with me, but i dont know if they would come. Ill go alone to first then see if i feel ok going alone or if i want someone else to come. hopefully its ok,

flower is it a lot of talking etc at the first one? I think a lot of people - esp single ones, picture a pregnant lady sitting getting her back rubbed by her husband and breathing big breaths, thats what i first thought of! hahahaha!

New2Bumps · Aug 31st, 2009, 06:00 AM

Well, you're not really paying for them so go to one and if you don't like it do the NHS ones.

charlottesma · Aug 31st, 2009, 06:26 AM

I just finished ours, out of 7 mums there were 2 of us who only had the OH with us about half of the time and another lady who brough her friend and her sister on alternative weeks. Do what ever feels most comfortable for you.

A lot of weeks we did some kind of massage or breathing type activity, which us loners either paired up on or worked with the teacher if the other had her partner there. but if you have an idea of who you want as a birth partner it might be nice for you to take them.

Aug 31st, 2009, 03:46 AM	#1
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	NCT classes Just filed out my forms and the antenatal classes up here start in 2 weeks! On mondays! its quite late tho, 7 15 till 9 45, But i qualify for the discounted rate and its only 13.50, and 2 memebership for a year, so i donated 4.50 to make it 20.50 i sent. Feel good that i can meet people around this area due around the same time as me and can maybe have some friends with newborns aswell! I am a bit dreading the fact i will probably be the only person there alone. any tips? there small classes but im sure the other couples will be all loved up... (no offence).. how do i manage on my own? Could ask a friend, but because i dont know what to expect i dont know if it would be weird?

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Aug 31st, 2009, 03:57 AM	#2
Margie Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 1,438	Hey there Hope your journey up was okay. I've heard such good things about the NCT classes - that they are quite informal and a great way to meet people. Could you contact the co-ordinator to find out if there are any other single mums in the class? And whether they would usually bring a friend along. Although I really don't think the couples will be 'loved up' as I think everyone will be wanting to meet new people. As for late - ours are from 8-10pm!!! Think I'll have to come home for a nap first

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Aug 31st, 2009, 04:02 AM	#3
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	oh dear thats late, I wont get home till abotu 10 15 tho so im glad its just 15 mins earlier! I already asked her about taking my mum and she said i can take anyone i want, the thing i dont know if it would be weird for a friend if i took one.. my mum said she might be able to come, but i dont know if i want her to be threre the first one. shes about to do a post grad so she cant commit to every monday night for like.. 8 weeks or soemthing, and my sister has gymnastics so id be dropping her off on the way but my mum wud have to be home to pick her up as it fnishes earlier than my class. I am def gonna go, i need too. but i just dunno i dont wanna be judged? id be worried nobody will be my age and they will be 'older' mums and judge me for being single.. im 23 so im not THAT young, but still.

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Aug 31st, 2009, 04:10 AM	#4
Margie Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 1,438	Aaaah I see - ask your friend... she could always go with you to one and see if it feels weird. Does it have to be the same person every week? I honestly honestly don't think you will be judged - everyone will be first time parents, so all in the same boat, and will be trying to set up a support network, regardless of their age. Being by yourself may even make you more approachable. Have you thought about braving the first one alone? You might be pleasantly surprised. Aah - 9:45 is quite late! I thought I saw 9:15 (it's early) - so late nights al round! Good luck - I'm sure you'll get lots out of teh classes whatever you choose to do

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Aug 31st, 2009, 04:15 AM	#5
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	Yeah i thought about going to the first one then seeing how it goes and what to expect, you get a class list so i will see if any other singles going beforehand. I think it would be easier for me to go without my mum the first one so i can meet new people etc, and then if she wanted or could come the next week or any other then thats fine, i dont think it has to be the same person every week no, but obv if its your partner its good for preparing them to be at the birth, but the people who i want with me live too far. one will be up for xmas at our house and one lives in Edin and i think10pm is too late to expect her to get a train home. I'll go myself and get started, the MW run antenatal classes i have aswell, I need to go to both to meet as many people as possible and get outta my fear of giving birth xx

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Aug 31st, 2009, 04:31 AM	#7
flower01 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Fleet, Hampshire Posts: 2,935	in my first one last week they were all couples but we were told that you can take anyone if you wanted! = 0 ) xxxxxxxx

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Aug 31st, 2009, 04:35 AM	#8
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	Yeah, she said i could take anyone, but i dont want just anyone there. theres about 5 people around here that i would be happy with coming with me, but i dont know if they would come. Ill go alone to first then see if i feel ok going alone or if i want someone else to come. hopefully its ok, flower is it a lot of talking etc at the first one? I think a lot of people - esp single ones, picture a pregnant lady sitting getting her back rubbed by her husband and breathing big breaths, thats what i first thought of! hahahaha!

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Aug 31st, 2009, 06:00 AM	#9
New2Bumps Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 3,839	Well, you're not really paying for them so go to one and if you don't like it do the NHS ones.

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Aug 31st, 2009, 06:26 AM	#10
charlottesma Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Nottingham Posts: 404	I just finished ours, out of 7 mums there were 2 of us who only had the OH with us about half of the time and another lady who brough her friend and her sister on alternative weeks. Do what ever feels most comfortable for you. A lot of weeks we did some kind of massage or breathing type activity, which us loners either paired up on or worked with the teacher if the other had her partner there. but if you have an idea of who you want as a birth partner it might be nice for you to take them.

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