Its a boy & I cant stop crying

belicious86 · Aug 24th, 2009, 22:34 PM

I had my heart set on a little girl and I swear since they typed in ITS A B I havent stoped crying.

Is this normal to be this upset??? I feel like a terrible mother. I keep looking at the picture from every single possible angle trying to find a flaw in that little penis....Has this happened to anyone else???????

yvhes1104 · Aug 24th, 2009, 23:05 PM

I can relate cuz I just had my gender scan yesterday... originally it was set on the 27th but I had bleeding a couple of days ago. According to my doctor it's due to fatigue and that my placenta is lower than normal. So I have ot take a bedrest. I had the scan yesterday and me and my OH wished a baby girl... first the doctor said it maybe female because she couldnt see the baby's balls. Until the baby spread his legs and boom, the balls appeared. I was disappointed at first but my OH consoled me and we realized it's still our baby and we should accept it. We may try again next time for a baby girl.

_Vicky_ · Aug 25th, 2009, 01:50 AM

oohhh it must be natural to feel like this if you had your heart set - also remember your emotions are still all over the place!!! Just take your time with it and be kind to yourself feeling guilty about your emotional response wont help at all.

Ohhh and apparently boys are a LOT easier - no teenage girl tantrums or anything! Just be kind to yourself my lovely - big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Mommy2Kian · Aug 25th, 2009, 02:51 AM

Yes i felt the same wen i found out kaden was our 2nd lil boy,but then i gt used to it, but i still couldnt help looking at the pink stuff.... but after wht we were told (he had this that and the other wrong with his brain) i didnt give a sh*t what his gender was, i just wnt a healthy baby..i love my baby boy more than u could possibly imagine...but it took all this heartache to make me realise...You cant change the sex of ur baby now so enjoy him xXx

emalou90 · Aug 25th, 2009, 03:17 AM

i know it must be hard after setting your heart on a girl
but i think its more important that your little boy is very healthy

myself and my OH said if we have a boy we'll try for a girl next time! No worries

sometimes its just not meant to be x

JayDee · Aug 25th, 2009, 03:30 AM

It must be horrible to have your heart set on one and be told it's the other. I tried really hard not to think about what mine was. In the end, I had almost decided in my head he was a boy and he was, I didn't mind either way but I don't know how I would have reacted if they'd have said girl.
As for the crying - blame pregnancy hormones, I'm sure you'll love him once he's in your arms and he never need know you wanted a girl.

bubbi25 · Aug 25th, 2009, 03:38 AM

I'm still waiting on my scan so I can't relate to you, but I don't mean to be rude but I think as long as you have a healty baby then that's all that matters? I don't mind having a boy or a girl, so I think it's different for me.

Sorry you feel down, but when you hold that baby in your arms I don't think it'll matter what sex it is.
x

redpoppy · Aug 25th, 2009, 03:39 AM

I think it is very natural to feel this way as you've probably got a whole fantasy world which involves a little girl. I realise this may sound patronising but I met this woman in her 40s and she has three girls. She had ALWAYS wanted a ittle boy and EVERY single time had tried for one. She told me she had felt SOOOO disappointed but she said she HONESTLY believes that you get given "what you need" that although you think you want something, that the differences between a boy and a girl are vast and that you grow and learn from each child. This may sound like BS to you but MAYBE a boy will be your little prince and he will offer you things and teach you things and open you up in ways that you can't even imagine? Anyway, whatever the result, don't feel bad or guitly and just know its your little baby, that you are its guardian and that it's coming into this world with little else. It could always be a girl next time and then she'll have a lovely, protective, older baby brother.

baby.love · Aug 25th, 2009, 03:46 AM

We were happy either way as my OH had cancer a few years back and i have PCOS & Fibroids so concieving was a bit more challenging for us, aslong as baby is healthy that really is all that matters.

I have however seen alot of ladies on here feel the same as you do.. It doesnt make you a bad mummy as i am sure you will love your little man with all your heart.. Just take time to get your head around it and i'm sure you will start feeling better about it x

ShellysBelly · Aug 25th, 2009, 04:10 AM

I felt a little like this, not immediately but the next day. Thinking about it, it's because I have no idea what it's like to grow up as a boy, with a girl I'd know what to look out for. Thankfully I was able to think it throughwhy I was feeling like that before talking to my husband about it. He reassured me. I still feel a little lost but I'm sure I'll be able to raise a confident independent son now even if I'm not as sure of myself as I would be with a girl.

There's also a history of mental illness and addiction with the men in my family which scares the bijaysus out of me being honest.

Aug 24th, 2009, 22:34 PM	#1
belicious86 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 58	Its a boy & I cant stop crying I had my heart set on a little girl and I swear since they typed in ITS A B I havent stoped crying. Is this normal to be this upset??? I feel like a terrible mother. I keep looking at the picture from every single possible angle trying to find a flaw in that little penis....Has this happened to anyone else???????

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Aug 24th, 2009, 23:05 PM	#2
yvhes1104 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 110	I can relate cuz I just had my gender scan yesterday... originally it was set on the 27th but I had bleeding a couple of days ago. According to my doctor it's due to fatigue and that my placenta is lower than normal. So I have ot take a bedrest. I had the scan yesterday and me and my OH wished a baby girl... first the doctor said it maybe female because she couldnt see the baby's balls. Until the baby spread his legs and boom, the balls appeared. I was disappointed at first but my OH consoled me and we realized it's still our baby and we should accept it. We may try again next time for a baby girl.

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Aug 25th, 2009, 01:50 AM	#3
_Vicky_ Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Derbyshire - UK Posts: 5,928	oohhh it must be natural to feel like this if you had your heart set - also remember your emotions are still all over the place!!! Just take your time with it and be kind to yourself feeling guilty about your emotional response wont help at all. Ohhh and apparently boys are a LOT easier - no teenage girl tantrums or anything! Just be kind to yourself my lovely - big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Aug 25th, 2009, 02:51 AM	#4
Mommy2Kian Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: West Midlands Posts: 3,825	Yes i felt the same wen i found out kaden was our 2nd lil boy,but then i gt used to it, but i still couldnt help looking at the pink stuff.... but after wht we were told (he had this that and the other wrong with his brain) i didnt give a sh*t what his gender was, i just wnt a healthy baby..i love my baby boy more than u could possibly imagine...but it took all this heartache to make me realise...You cant change the sex of ur baby now so enjoy him xXx

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Aug 25th, 2009, 03:17 AM	#5
emalou90 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,398	i know it must be hard after setting your heart on a girl but i think its more important that your little boy is very healthy myself and my OH said if we have a boy we'll try for a girl next time! No worries sometimes its just not meant to be x

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Aug 25th, 2009, 03:30 AM	#6
JayDee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: UK Posts: 3,625	It must be horrible to have your heart set on one and be told it's the other. I tried really hard not to think about what mine was. In the end, I had almost decided in my head he was a boy and he was, I didn't mind either way but I don't know how I would have reacted if they'd have said girl. As for the crying - blame pregnancy hormones, I'm sure you'll love him once he's in your arms and he never need know you wanted a girl.

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Aug 25th, 2009, 03:38 AM	#7
bubbi25 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Cambs Posts: 95	I'm still waiting on my scan so I can't relate to you, but I don't mean to be rude but I think as long as you have a healty baby then that's all that matters? I don't mind having a boy or a girl, so I think it's different for me. Sorry you feel down, but when you hold that baby in your arms I don't think it'll matter what sex it is. x

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Aug 25th, 2009, 03:39 AM	#8
redpoppy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 3,575	I think it is very natural to feel this way as you've probably got a whole fantasy world which involves a little girl. I realise this may sound patronising but I met this woman in her 40s and she has three girls. She had ALWAYS wanted a ittle boy and EVERY single time had tried for one. She told me she had felt SOOOO disappointed but she said she HONESTLY believes that you get given "what you need" that although you think you want something, that the differences between a boy and a girl are vast and that you grow and learn from each child. This may sound like BS to you but MAYBE a boy will be your little prince and he will offer you things and teach you things and open you up in ways that you can't even imagine? Anyway, whatever the result, don't feel bad or guitly and just know its your little baby, that you are its guardian and that it's coming into this world with little else. It could always be a girl next time and then she'll have a lovely, protective, older baby brother.

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Aug 25th, 2009, 03:46 AM	#9
baby.love Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: In my house! Posts: 8,288	We were happy either way as my OH had cancer a few years back and i have PCOS & Fibroids so concieving was a bit more challenging for us, aslong as baby is healthy that really is all that matters. I have however seen alot of ladies on here feel the same as you do.. It doesnt make you a bad mummy as i am sure you will love your little man with all your heart.. Just take time to get your head around it and i'm sure you will start feeling better about it x

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Aug 25th, 2009, 04:10 AM	#10
ShellysBelly Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Gaillimh Posts: 430	I felt a little like this, not immediately but the next day. Thinking about it, it's because I have no idea what it's like to grow up as a boy, with a girl I'd know what to look out for. Thankfully I was able to think it throughwhy I was feeling like that before talking to my husband about it. He reassured me. I still feel a little lost but I'm sure I'll be able to raise a confident independent son now even if I'm not as sure of myself as I would be with a girl. There's also a history of mental illness and addiction with the men in my family which scares the bijaysus out of me being honest.

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