Just been to see OBGYN but stated no feeling and got a "hmmmmm"... help?

purpleish · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:06 AM

Hey All,
Well, I'm 18 weeks today and was all happy to go see the OBGYN for my monthly checkup. She checked the heartbeat and said everything sounded good... then asked if I had felt anything - I said I didnt think so...... and she said hmmm.... so I asked if that was bad? and she replied "not yet.. but if nothing at 21 weeks....."

Now I'm completely freaking out - why havent I felt anything? Have I felt something and just not realised it? I have my 20wk scan in a few weeks and even more worried now....

Does anyone have any guidance/stories they could share?

Thanks

Purple
x

ramblinhaggis · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:09 AM

Your first baby hun? Some dont feel anything right up to 24-26 weeks! Try not to worry. If you dont know what it feels like you may be missing it but before you know it baby will be giving you a good kicking lol! Dont worry.

Buffy71 · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:09 AM

I'm assuming she hasnt had babies. Idiot woman I'm so sorry she's frightened you like this.

I didnt feel anything until 20w + a few days (just every now and again) and from everything I've been told, and from what most people on here say - that's perfectly normal.

HOW DARE she scare you like that. Grrr.

Rebaby · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:12 AM

This is probably too late but DON'T FREAK OUT!

Lots of people don't feel movements until later, particularly if this is your first baby or if you have an anterior placenta. Trust your OBGYN, if she isn't worried then you don't need to be either, and it's fantastic news she was able to pick up the HB for you to hear

I was feeling regular movements every day from around 19 weeks, but midwives had told me that i may not feel anything until 22 weeks, so i think it just depends on your LO.

Hopefully he/she will be giving you a little kick or punch soon!

mommy43 · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:17 AM

with my first i didnt feel any movement till 20weeks it feels like fluttering or ur stomach turning over at first as has been said the position of ur womb and placenta can make it harder to feel them

Duffy · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:34 AM

OMG that was not a professional reponse to you a lot of women don't feel movement until 21 or 22 weeks. I personally did not feel movement until 22 weeks, some women do not feel it until even later too.

purpleish · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:38 AM

THANK YOU EVERYONE!...
So good to hear that I'm pretty normal - yes its my first... and since I'm getting a lot of back ache and numb legs, i'm guessing beanie is leaning towards the back lol...

I'll try and stay calm and not panic too much - thanks again for your support and your stories - really good to hear

*hugs*

Purple
x

sera · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:39 AM

what a silly old cow! oh sweetie, most ppl dont feel anything untill they are 22 weeks! she shoud not have told u that, darling u should call her when u can and say she had distressed u and to go research herself abit more! agh! u are fine darling!!!!
xoxoxo

Bam · Aug 13th, 2009, 11:42 AM

I felt the first, faintest flutters around 20-ish weeks and started feeling daily, regular movements in the last few weeks.

As others have said, it's possible that you aren't recognising them or you have an anterior placenta (meaning your placenta is sitting right at the front which kind of cushions movements). For me, the flutters felt like I had gas... kind of like I drank too much milk (I'm lactose intolerant). The difference being, I felt the "gas" but never actually passed any. After a few weeks those gas flutters turned into regular kicks, punches and rolls.

ellie27 · Aug 13th, 2009, 12:00 PM

Dont say that!! You are getting me worried too!! I am 17+6 today.

Nah, only joking. Dont think that was right her saying that. There are folk out there who do feel their baby really early - even heard people say as early at 12/13wks but my midwife says prob be around 20 wks.

Like you, I have a scan when I will be just over 20wks so will not be worried til then and if the scan all goes well then will even give it another few weeks and hopefully baby will be kicking away by then.

Aug 13th, 2009, 11:06 AM	#1
purpleish Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 557	Just been to see OBGYN but stated no feeling and got a "hmmmmm"... help? Hey All, Well, I'm 18 weeks today and was all happy to go see the OBGYN for my monthly checkup. She checked the heartbeat and said everything sounded good... then asked if I had felt anything - I said I didnt think so...... and she said hmmm.... so I asked if that was bad? and she replied "not yet.. but if nothing at 21 weeks....." Now I'm completely freaking out - why havent I felt anything? Have I felt something and just not realised it? I have my 20wk scan in a few weeks and even more worried now.... Does anyone have any guidance/stories they could share? Thanks Purple x

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:09 AM	#2
ramblinhaggis Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,747	Your first baby hun? Some dont feel anything right up to 24-26 weeks! Try not to worry. If you dont know what it feels like you may be missing it but before you know it baby will be giving you a good kicking lol! Dont worry.

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:09 AM	#3
Buffy71 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: London Posts: 4,904	I'm assuming she hasnt had babies. Idiot woman I'm so sorry she's frightened you like this. I didnt feel anything until 20w + a few days (just every now and again) and from everything I've been told, and from what most people on here say - that's perfectly normal. HOW DARE she scare you like that. Grrr.

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:12 AM	#4
Rebaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 4,699	This is probably too late but DON'T FREAK OUT! Lots of people don't feel movements until later, particularly if this is your first baby or if you have an anterior placenta. Trust your OBGYN, if she isn't worried then you don't need to be either, and it's fantastic news she was able to pick up the HB for you to hear I was feeling regular movements every day from around 19 weeks, but midwives had told me that i may not feel anything until 22 weeks, so i think it just depends on your LO. Hopefully he/she will be giving you a little kick or punch soon!

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:17 AM	#5
mommy43 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 2,694	with my first i didnt feel any movement till 20weeks it feels like fluttering or ur stomach turning over at first as has been said the position of ur womb and placenta can make it harder to feel them

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:34 AM	#6
Duffy Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,964	OMG that was not a professional reponse to you a lot of women don't feel movement until 21 or 22 weeks. I personally did not feel movement until 22 weeks, some women do not feel it until even later too.

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:38 AM	#7
purpleish Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 557	THANK YOU EVERYONE!... So good to hear that I'm pretty normal - yes its my first... and since I'm getting a lot of back ache and numb legs, i'm guessing beanie is leaning towards the back lol... I'll try and stay calm and not panic too much - thanks again for your support and your stories - really good to hear hugs Purple x

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:39 AM	#8
sera Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: perth ,WA Posts: 1,181	what a silly old cow! oh sweetie, most ppl dont feel anything untill they are 22 weeks! she shoud not have told u that, darling u should call her when u can and say she had distressed u and to go research herself abit more! agh! u are fine darling!!!! xoxoxo

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Aug 13th, 2009, 11:42 AM	#9
Bam Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: TN, USA Posts: 804	I felt the first, faintest flutters around 20-ish weeks and started feeling daily, regular movements in the last few weeks. As others have said, it's possible that you aren't recognising them or you have an anterior placenta (meaning your placenta is sitting right at the front which kind of cushions movements). For me, the flutters felt like I had gas... kind of like I drank too much milk (I'm lactose intolerant). The difference being, I felt the "gas" but never actually passed any. After a few weeks those gas flutters turned into regular kicks, punches and rolls.

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Aug 13th, 2009, 12:00 PM	#10
ellie27 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: uk Posts: 8,703	Dont say that!! You are getting me worried too!! I am 17+6 today. Nah, only joking. Dont think that was right her saying that. There are folk out there who do feel their baby really early - even heard people say as early at 12/13wks but my midwife says prob be around 20 wks. Like you, I have a scan when I will be just over 20wks so will not be worried til then and if the scan all goes well then will even give it another few weeks and hopefully baby will be kicking away by then.

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