Moonpieash

Not to get personal but are your men that supportive of everything? My husband is in some areas but not as much as I would like him to be.

Positives:
-Talks to my belly
-occasonally rubs feet and back not all the time without complaint
-will look at baby clothes fo r a few minutes but not too long-he's more interested in the cribs and strollers.

Negatives-
-always researching/reading about hunting/guns and boy stuff
-Hasn't read one baby book even thought I have tried to get him to
-looking at other women in front of me/thinking about other women
-calling me a brat and other bad names
-doesn't want to listen to me when I need to talk or rant
-thinks a 5 month old can walk
-I was hurting after walking in 30 degree cold weather to the capital in D.C. I had to stop because I was having muscle contractions- it hurt so bad I cried- He said other pregnant women could to it
-drinks and does all the normal stuff as he did before why I make all the sacrafices
- There's more but that should be enough

I never thought he'd be this way...do you think he'll change when the baby gets here?

Ellianna

Hmm, hard one to call.
Men have a very different way of dealing with everything so they're bound to have a different way of dealing with pregnancy. You still have a little while to go, maybe he'll get more into it during the later stages of ur pregnancy?
As cheesy as it sounds I think the best way to change that is to sit down and talk about it. Explain to him how ur feeling and that you would like him to do a few things for you.
Knowing men he probably doesn't even realise that it would be nice if he did a bit more for you!
My OH James has been very supportive, the biggest problem we have is me being so hormonal I seem to be snapping at him all the time over the smallest things. Luckily, he's been patient with me so far though
Hope things get a little better for u huni, I'm sure they will
xxx

charlottecco2

gosh i know how you feel, sometimes i don't think he understands how i feel at all. I think its a man thing, but it really gets me down xx

Samantha675

There is no way our men could know how we feel, they are physically incapable of it, so there for mentally unable to imagine what it must be like. My DH is very supportive, but little things drive me nuts. But they were things that bothered me before I got pregnant.

Jazzy

I've been lucky, my OH has been fantastic, he rubs my back, cooks romantic meals for me despite having to work 6am until 6pm, and listens to me moaning and never complains, he constantly talks to my bumop and loves watching my belly move as the baby wiggles. Hope it gets better for you honey x

yumumleelou

mmm he sounds asif its not quite hit home yet! my fiance i great but does drink but asks me first if he can which makes me feel like i own him and thqats not what i want.
he loves reading but wont read the books. and he offers me food i cant eat but thats it!

mummy2b

metu

As the man half, i can say its unfortunate if you ladies feel that way....i'm only newly pregnant (u know wot i mean!! lol :P) it is a big adjustment at the begining. It IS hard for us to get our head around some things especially if we are too busy being extatic at knowing we will be a daddy...i would like to think i do as much as i can but sometimes (already even though it not very far in!) i can get a little frustrated if i am concentrating or if i have just checked if she needs anything and then immersed myself in doing something (not to say im not happy to do it...just that i wish i could finish doing something before the need arises)

luckyme225

My fiance has become very protective of our baby boy and is very caring but every now and then he gets delusional.

Tam

Reading his books rather than baby books, very normal on the whole, baby books are boring, nothing gadgety about them and nothing 'real' as yet to relate to!
Eyeing up other women - I would do my nut and kick him in his!
Cribs & Strollers - they are gadgets to men!
Not listening to Ranting & monaing - when do they?
Telling you other pregnant women can do it - They are experts all of a sudden even tho they have no idea of what you are going thru!
Calling you names - well that's their mentallity!


MEN!

Need I go on?


My OH never showed any interests in books, but tbh I think he just wasn't as 'obsessed' as I was about the whole thing. And I think that is what it mainly boils down to babe, and as for thinking a 5 month old can walk, he will learn as baby grows, he will get to know the limitations a baby has. It is so different to imagine how things will be, to how they actually will be......

Paul came to every appointment, even just at the GP. We even rowed about a pram as he wanted as much say in things as I had......I told him he wasn't normal copping the hump because I wanted to chose the pram given the fact I would be using it 99% of the time, I told him, I wanted a MAN as a partner not a bloody woman! If he had of been chosing ones I could actually work, it may not have been such a big a deal, but I was thinking about how I will get it up & down on my own, plus I wanted to like it! But he quickly reminded me then "There are a lot of women out there that would be pleased to have their partner showing so much interest"

I ended up so dibalitated with HG & SPD that he had to do 99% of things for me, including dressing me, so I found him a great support! He really helped out, there was no way I could have coped without him, he used to get up early to do lunches for our daughter and me, aswell as sort her uniform out and lay it out, quickly hoover and unload and re-load the dishwasher. Then he would get me up at 4.30am, as I couldn't get downstairs on my own, made sure I had everything from food, to drinks etc so I only needed to get up for minimal things. Then he would come home, sort dinner, put Jade to bed, tidy up and put me in the bath, rub my back and put me to bed. So there is no way I can say I never got any support, infact I think he suffered as much as I did with the pregnancy!

But I dare say that if I never went thru any of that, that I would have thought he showed very little interest in things, but then he isn't the sort of person to wear his feelings on his sleeve, and I have never seem him excited about anything, even when I told him I was pregnant, although he was pleased, he never jumped for joy like I did.....he used to say "what is there to be excited about? I will be excited when he is here, that is when the excitment starts!" He never said it nasty and he never meant it nasty, he was just explaining how he felt when we were having a chat about the whole thing...... he just speaks his mind and says things as they are to him, he is very black & white aswell as a realist, it drives me mad. But when he first felt Alfie move, he did get all excited, and he actually asked what it felt like for me, and I was so pleased as he now showed genuine interest at that point. But it never lasted

Although having said all that, as I said, he came to everything with me, he even used to come home with bits he had bought for Alfie etc, so he did show interest in his own way, but maybe again, just not as 'obsessed' as I was. It must be very different for them as we do the carrying and bond with our bump, there really isn't anything for them to associate with, except our bellies, scans and heartbeats.....but that is all on screen or thru a device, there is nothing solid for them to associate with, of that makes sense? Well that's how I think of it anyway.

He may improve as things progress and he see's movement in your tummy for himself or just generally as the end is near.

Not that any of that helps you now, but I am sure he will get better once baby is here, infact watch out you might not get a look in