my husband is being just wonderful. i couldn't ask for more.

My OH is okay sometimes...

GOOD THINGS:
> He will make me things to drink, etc.. sometimes
> He is interested in baby moving, but doesn't want me to poke at him because he thinks it will "hurt the baby"
> He tells me all the time that I dont need to be lifting heavy things.. even when they are not heavy he will try and carry things
> He listens for the baby movements and lays his head on my belly to feel them
> He says he cannot wait to hold/feed him

BAD THINGS:
> He is NEVER interested in any baby stuff, even when I ask him to look he doesn't until I beg
> He says he is getting a blood test all the time!! WTF?!
> He never rubs my back/feet, scratches my back, or anything when I am in pain
> He doesn't care to talk to me about things I am worried about, and never seems worried about anything himself
> He just tells me I am wining when I complain to him about my backache/ heartburn/ etc

Thats all I can think of for now. He is pretty much even with good and bad, however, the bad things tend to occur more often..

Sometimes I feel like my BF thinks I am making stuff up...like, if I tell him I am tired, or that I don't feel like cooking, he asks "why?" UMMM.. gee, maybe cuz I am carrying a human being inside me!!! UGH! I just want to smack him sometimes. Or sometimes I snap at him and then when I try to apologize, he says " let me guess, it's your hormones?" But he says it as if I am using it as an excuse to be a bitch to him...cuz ya know... I just love starting fights and being a raging bitch all day! He just has no idea how I feel and he never will. He thinks I overreact to everything...oh, and did I mention that nothing I do is good enough? The house is never clean enough... so sorry I forgot I was a maid! Not to mention I have a 14 month old son to look after!

I know how you feel. Guys just don't understand being pregnant and the reason we were made to be the ones to carry the babies is because men just couldn't handle it and I don't think they get that.

I've had to deal with most of the negatives you're dealing with and believe me, it worries me too.

Hopefully he'll change his tune when the baby comes and realize what you had to go through to bring your child into the world. You never know with guys though.

I guess my OH can have a bonus for taking me shopping. We're supposed to go to Babies R Us tomorrow!

My boyfriend is extremely supportive of me, but utterly terrified of the baby (the pregnancy was accidental). He's the sweetest, most caring guy in the whole world who would never dream of telling me what I should or shouldn't do, but when the topic of "baby" comes up, he just becomes a fountain of negativity. :/

PROS:

- Gets me anything I want, does anything I want and is very anxious that I am comfortable and happy all the time.
- Constant hugs and snuggles to make me feel loved and stable.
- Is a partner in all aspects of our relationship, except,

CONS:

- Refers to the baby as "the parasite". :/
- Gets random panic attacks and bouts of depression when he thinks about the looming prospect of becoming a father.
- Would prefer not to talk or think about the baby, if possible.

I try to take comfort in the fact that I know he would never leave, and that I am 100% positive that he will love the baby once it's out in the world and he has a chance to actually get to know it... still... I wish he could be happy with me about it *now*.

my DH is brilliant most of the time he has taken on the cleaning and everything, makes my dinner, gives me cuddles everything.

BUT he pesters me for sex and im just so knackered im not interested and i do feel for him as its a bit of a shock going form TTC to nothing. he also keeps saying pregnancy is not an illness which bugs me high heavens when im feeling like cack. x

I would just give him some time. My hubby is really supportive but not too into baby clothes and only says the occasionally "hi" to the baby. BUT we do have a 1 year old and he is an AMAZING daddy. He is more loving than I am sometimes! I think men are kinda just into that whole stroller thing. That is a man thing... don't let it get to you. Looking at other woman.. are you SURE about that? Could it be just your insecurity? If not.. just remember once the baby comes, you'll get back to your sexy old self and he will be drooling! Good luck hun!! No one is perfect.. even when we REALLY REALLY want em to be!

My husband figured he already knew how to raise a kid and got really defensive when I asked him to buy a book. Talk about presumptuous. He's never even changed a diaper before. The book I ended up buying him was called "So You're Going to be a Dad" by Peter Downey. I read it too. It's hilarious. And really really informative.

My husband asks me if I need anything about a thousand times a day. He even woke me up to ask me once (definitly not appreciated). But, when I ask him to do something (like the dishes - the smell makes me throw up) he does a half-assed job. I had to confront him about it. I also had to tell him he wasn't allowed to drink until the baby was born because he would come home from after-work bar nights drunk, which is hard to deal with when you're nauseous and tired.