Pregnancy - Second Trimester

Linzi · Jan 8th, 2008, 11:38 AM

Sometimes my fiance is fantastic and he really does look after me and spoil me, and he's taken a great interest in the babys development and really wants to be involved.

But sometimes he just doesn't get it. For example last week when I had flu I was in bed and told him I had a splitting headache, so he got me a paracetamol and started playing his guitar next door through his amp, even though he got some headphones for Christmas.

Sometimes I think he's not all there, but to be honest, I dont think theres many men that are. And I know Im just as bad sometimes.

I hope it gets better for you - talking is probably the key. Men react differently to pregnancy sometimes and he might be scared.

Hope it works out ok

xxx

Tam · Jan 8th, 2008, 11:47 AM

They just don't think half the time! x

Moonpieash · Jan 8th, 2008, 14:07 PM

I'm glad to hear similiar stories...I guess I should be happy he's doing what he is doing. It could be worse. I guess I'm just scared of being on my own knowing how to take care of a baby...I want to feel comfortable letting him taking care of a baby even though he knows very little about it. I feel like I'm doing all the work. Still I should be appreciative for the good things.

nikkybaby · Jan 8th, 2008, 14:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Moonpieash

Not to get personal but are your men that supportive of everything? My husband is in some areas but not as much as I would like him to be.

Positives:
-Talks to my belly
-occasonally rubs feet and back not all the time without complaint
-will look at baby clothes fo r a few minutes but not too long-he's more interested in the cribs and strollers.

Negatives-
-always researching/reading about hunting/guns and boy stuff
-Hasn't read one baby book even thought I have tried to get him to
-looking at other women in front of me/thinking about other women
-calling me a brat and other bad names
-doesn't want to listen to me when I need to talk or rant
-thinks a 5 month old can walk
-I was hurting after walking in 30 degree cold weather to the capital in D.C. I had to stop because I was having muscle contractions- it hurt so bad I cried- He said other pregnant women could to it
-drinks and does all the normal stuff as he did before why I make all the sacrafices
- There's more but that should be enough

I never thought he'd be this way...do you think he'll change when the baby gets here?

Believe me...you are not the only one going through that. My OH is very excited, but still seems to carry on sometimes like nothing is changing. We have gotten into quite a few heated arguments due to his lack of understanding. He is good most of the time, but the thing that always bothered me is the fact that he is able to continue the normal stuff and expect me to sit around and watch him do it. I tried telling him that I have made so many sacrifices, and he still carries on. He said that he's just doing it now, and everything will be different when the baby is here....

They just don't understand things, even if we do try talking to them about it.
Men............

Firsttimer · Jan 8th, 2008, 14:21 PM

I know just how you feel hun.

My boyfriend is good in ways like he is excited and will talk about when baby is here. Sometime rub my back or give massage if I beg him

Bad sides are doesnt seem interested in clothes or any baby bits.
Doesnt seem interested in feeling baby move - he thinks baby will get in destress if i keep pocking my belly.
He still we argue with me and call me names
Still wind me up about other women
Thinks I play up and that other pregnant women fly through it and can do everything they are superwomen and im not

I get so angry with him at times he just doesnt understand

PitBullMommy · Jan 8th, 2008, 15:01 PM

At first I didn't think DH was being very supportive. Then I started getting really sick with the HG and..wow. I think I have the best DH in the universe. If I wanted something, he'd go out and get it. He would rub my back, run for the 'puke pail', take care of the house and pets. Now he still rubs my back, runs out to get me stuff, helps with the house, talks about Peanut, read the two books that I got him and stuff. He's AMAZING! He is the one that uses the doppler on me, talks to the Peanut and such

Firsttimer · Jan 8th, 2008, 15:35 PM

Im so jealous of all u women who have great supportive partners I wouldnt change my partner but I would make he more supportive ... maybe ill have a chat later ..... the only thing he seems to do is leave me have a lie in when im meant to get up for work he says he feels sorry for me having to get up early and go to work and im pregnant

honeybunch2k7 · Jan 8th, 2008, 16:20 PM

*sigh* I know the feeling. When he comments about other women, it makes me upset. He doens't do it often, but still I don't like it.

OH is good about making me food when I'm hungry, but he's not very sympathetic when I tell him how tired and bloated baby makes me.

I don't know if he changes though. Be sure to tell OH how you feel.

My OH will drink in front of me like ain't no tomorrow. The time before last we went to Chili's and he had 4 margaritas in front of me. He reminds me of how I won't be able to drink on my 21st cuz I'm preggo.

I don't think he's quite excited about fetal development as I am.

Jules · Jan 8th, 2008, 16:29 PM

My OH wants to come to all the appointments with MW and scans etc work permitting, and he shows interest in what baby items i have been buying etc, we went looking at prams at the weekend which he seemed to really enjoy!!

He has also taken over some of the household chores as before i got pregnant i preferred to do it all myself and he had even cooked twice for me this week! more times in one week then the whole 4 years we've lived together LOL

So i guess he is rather supportive and i have been a right cow with mood swings! The only thing that still gets on my nerves is the pestering me for sex!!! i know its been a long time, but i just can't be ar$ed!!! i feel a BIT sorry for him tho, i just dont feel very sexy with the extra weight, baby inside me etc etc

babymello · Jan 9th, 2008, 01:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Moonpieash

Not to get personal but are your men that supportive of everything? My husband is in some areas but not as much as I would like him to be.

Positives:
-Talks to my belly
-occasonally rubs feet and back not all the time without complaint
-will look at baby clothes fo r a few minutes but not too long-he's more interested in the cribs and strollers.

Negatives-
-always researching/reading about hunting/guns and boy stuff
-Hasn't read one baby book even thought I have tried to get him to
-looking at other women in front of me/thinking about other women
-calling me a brat and other bad names
-doesn't want to listen to me when I need to talk or rant
-thinks a 5 month old can walk
-I was hurting after walking in 30 degree cold weather to the capital in D.C. I had to stop because I was having muscle contractions- it hurt so bad I cried- He said other pregnant women could to it
-drinks and does all the normal stuff as he did before why I make all the sacrafices
- There's more but that should be enough

I never thought he'd be this way...do you think he'll change when the baby gets here?

Trust me girl, he's the happiest man ever. Wait until the baby comes.

Women are very detail orientated, and most men are not. We have to explain everything. In their minds they have it all mapped out.

He hears you, so don't feel bad. Just try to understand your mate and don't let what he does stress you.

Mellow

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