sigh fear is rearing it's ugly head

cillybean83 · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:20 PM

I'm nearly 16 weeks pregnant, I haven't had a spot of blood, nor a cramp, I've had numerous scans, all of which showed a perfect, healthy baby...the last scan being at about 12 weeks.

Well, my mom came into town for a few days and we're decorating the nursery...and a few minutes ago I was standing in it and has this fear wash over me like...what the hell am I going to do if something bad happens? How will I even be able to look at this room again? And now I've gotten myself all worked up, that I'll go to my appointment on Tuesday, and be told the baby doesn't have a heartbeat or something.

Someone please tell me I'm a complete blubbering fool.

Krisygirl · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:25 PM

I'd like to tell you your a blubbering fool but I feel the same way a lot. I'm almost 15weeks and everything has looked good so far but i'm terrified of something bad happening!!!

elainegee · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:30 PM

of course your not, I was in sommerfield today and they had an offer on SMA milk 2 for £12 quid and i thought that's a really good bargain, i picked them up and then thought.. no what if something happens... and i think this all the time. I have ordered the pram and i wanted to ask them what happens if something goes wrong, but i stopped myself as i didnt want to sound like an idiot. Clothes wise all i have bought is socks and i was like this last time around i hadn't bought a think apart from a moses basket even then i kept it in my mothers house until baby was born.

So you are not the only one hun, honest... the only thing i keep telling myself is in a couple of months im going to have a beautiful baby in my arms, just like i had the last time before. try and not let all the bad thoughts of what if get a hold of you. xxxx

Bam · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:31 PM

I think we all have that fear. I've been driving myself mad with it lately. To the point that I think I'm going to have to take a break from the internet in general... just been reading way too many horror stories.

It's a perfectly natural fear. I look at it as reaffirmation that I truly care for this thing growing in my belly.

Cattia · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:33 PM

I think like this all the time too, I think this is very normal, and especially when you are in the sort of limbo stage between having your scan and feeling the baby move around. There are no easy answers to coping with these thoughts, I just find I have to try to do something else otherwise you let your mind sink further and further down!

nicanbump09 · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:33 PM

hi guys i'm 20 weeks tommorow and every day ive been worrying about the little flump, since i've started to feel it wriggling im worse ! I keep thinking 'i've not felt it move since this morning urgh ! ' But then i feel it give a little knowing kick as if to say 'i'm alright mum! ' i dont think we'll ever stop worrying even when they're born suppose it wouldnt be natural other wise ! x

Cattia · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:35 PM

Yes the kicks are so reassuring until they stop for a while then it makes you even more neurotic!

clarabella · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:37 PM

I think your fear is normal, and i doubt it will leave you until your baby is snuggled up in your arms! I can feel my wee man wriggling around disco dancing quite alot now, but still worry, and only yesterday allowed myself to buy anything for him. I still feel nervous about it though, and won't be buying anything major for another couple of months.

I'm sure everything is absolutely fine, sending lots of positive vibes your way. x

Cattia · Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:53 PM

I am the same about buying things - I can imagine myself leaving it so long that I am rushing out to get the nappies and pram as my waters are breaking!

redpoppy · Jul 22nd, 2009, 17:20 PM

Yeah I think everyone has a fear or at least lets the thought cross their minds now and again.

And the scary thing is the further along you go the more attached you become to your unborn child and I've heard a lot of women freak out in the last tri.

But it's just best to ride things out. We can't do anything about it really. Worrying is a natural but mainly pointless thing. The things we can control we work to change and the things we can't we simply can't.

I know that doesn't help much but keep happy and keep baby happy.

Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:20 PM	#1
cillybean83 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 664	sigh fear is rearing it's ugly head I'm nearly 16 weeks pregnant, I haven't had a spot of blood, nor a cramp, I've had numerous scans, all of which showed a perfect, healthy baby...the last scan being at about 12 weeks. Well, my mom came into town for a few days and we're decorating the nursery...and a few minutes ago I was standing in it and has this fear wash over me like...what the hell am I going to do if something bad happens? How will I even be able to look at this room again? And now I've gotten myself all worked up, that I'll go to my appointment on Tuesday, and be told the baby doesn't have a heartbeat or something. Someone please tell me I'm a complete blubbering fool.

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:25 PM	#2
Krisygirl Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1	I'd like to tell you your a blubbering fool but I feel the same way a lot. I'm almost 15weeks and everything has looked good so far but i'm terrified of something bad happening!!!

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:30 PM	#3
elainegee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: West of Scotland Posts: 1,861	of course your not, I was in sommerfield today and they had an offer on SMA milk 2 for £12 quid and i thought that's a really good bargain, i picked them up and then thought.. no what if something happens... and i think this all the time. I have ordered the pram and i wanted to ask them what happens if something goes wrong, but i stopped myself as i didnt want to sound like an idiot. Clothes wise all i have bought is socks and i was like this last time around i hadn't bought a think apart from a moses basket even then i kept it in my mothers house until baby was born. So you are not the only one hun, honest... the only thing i keep telling myself is in a couple of months im going to have a beautiful baby in my arms, just like i had the last time before. try and not let all the bad thoughts of what if get a hold of you. xxxx

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:31 PM	#4
Bam Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: TN, USA Posts: 804	I think we all have that fear. I've been driving myself mad with it lately. To the point that I think I'm going to have to take a break from the internet in general... just been reading way too many horror stories. It's a perfectly natural fear. I look at it as reaffirmation that I truly care for this thing growing in my belly.

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:33 PM	#5
Cattia Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 6,026	I think like this all the time too, I think this is very normal, and especially when you are in the sort of limbo stage between having your scan and feeling the baby move around. There are no easy answers to coping with these thoughts, I just find I have to try to do something else otherwise you let your mind sink further and further down!

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:33 PM	#6
nicanbump09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Blackpool Posts: 132	hi guys i'm 20 weeks tommorow and every day ive been worrying about the little flump, since i've started to feel it wriggling im worse ! I keep thinking 'i've not felt it move since this morning urgh ! ' But then i feel it give a little knowing kick as if to say 'i'm alright mum! ' i dont think we'll ever stop worrying even when they're born suppose it wouldnt be natural other wise ! x

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:35 PM	#7
Cattia Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 6,026	Yes the kicks are so reassuring until they stop for a while then it makes you even more neurotic!

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:37 PM	#8
clarabella Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: South West Scotland Posts: 832	I think your fear is normal, and i doubt it will leave you until your baby is snuggled up in your arms! I can feel my wee man wriggling around disco dancing quite alot now, but still worry, and only yesterday allowed myself to buy anything for him. I still feel nervous about it though, and won't be buying anything major for another couple of months. I'm sure everything is absolutely fine, sending lots of positive vibes your way. x

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 16:53 PM	#9
Cattia Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 6,026	I am the same about buying things - I can imagine myself leaving it so long that I am rushing out to get the nappies and pram as my waters are breaking!

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 17:20 PM	#10
redpoppy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 3,575	Yeah I think everyone has a fear or at least lets the thought cross their minds now and again. And the scary thing is the further along you go the more attached you become to your unborn child and I've heard a lot of women freak out in the last tri. But it's just best to ride things out. We can't do anything about it really. Worrying is a natural but mainly pointless thing. The things we can control we work to change and the things we can't we simply can't. I know that doesn't help much but keep happy and keep baby happy.

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