vix1989

MrsChamberlin

First off hun..

I can totally relate... I am 23 years old and have number 3 on the way. I am a stay at home mom and have been for over a year now, with a lot to go seeing as there is a baby on the way.
At times I feel like I am doing nothing... totally worthless... But I am the back bone of my family... Without me no one would get a decent meal, clean clothes, off to school, clean sheets... blah blah blah. I am the strength.
You have to start looking at it that way hun...
Us stay at home moms do A LOT... more than people realize.

vix1989

but i dont feel like i do enough if a disappeared tomorrow every1 would carry on like normal.
thanks for your support tho!

craftymum

big to you hun, I was 19 when I had my 1st and in a really violent relationship so when I ended up alone I was terrified and really depressed. But it was great being a young Mum too and my daughter used to think I was cool (she's 16 now so I'm no longer cool) now I'm 35 with my 2nd on the way and I'm as scared as ever and still have all the same worried about my body etc as I got loads of stretch marks first time but I promise you they do fade in time and with a bit of exercise and fake tan you can look just as fab as anyone. It's probably the pregnancy hormones as well making you feel so bad. Once your baby is born you will feel a lot better and you'll still be able to get yourself all glammed up for the odd night out. Treat yourself now to a nice hairdo and maybe manicure or something just to cheer yourself up and think of all the fab clothes you can buy after.

craftymum

ps tell your oh how bad that your sis makes you feel and that you feel really hurt that he didn't stick up for you, chances are he doesn't realise how bad you're feeling about this

Duffy

(hugs) Being a stay at home mom is a FULL TIME JOB, seri..... you guys should get paid for what you do and vacations LOL!

As for your dad sometimes its in peoples nature to cut you down and make you feel bad or worthless about yourself/life. My only advice to you.... if your feeling bad about your body get in shape, if your dad a donkey butt to you then cut him out of your life, make life changes that benfit you and make you happy, we only have one life we should make the best out of it we can. Hugs and support to you I Hope you feel better soon about yourself/dad/sister/bf.

FemmeEnceinte

I'd tell that OH of yours off for a start! Laughing indeed! He needs to support you so let him know how you're feeling and that you found it upsetting. As for your sister, she doesn't sound very kind or mature. Same goes for your father. Unfortunately family are never what you think they should be and, if they're anything like mine, are a constant strain and disappointment. You don't have to put up with it though, just tell them where to stick it and get on with your own lovely family.

As for your looks, you'll look fabulous in your 30s and 40s because you're young now and your body will recover better than those women having babies later on (no offence to those who are) so, while it might be their time to look good now, we can shine later on!

Snowball

I'm 23 with our 4thbaby on the way (our 3rd was born sleeping).

At times I look back and wonder if I'd like my carefree life back. I look at old schoolfriends on Facebook going out partying every weekend and wonder if I miss it. However I don't think when I was out drunk on Saturday nights and then throwing my guts up with a banging head on Sunday morning I was truely happy. To me it was my transistion phase whilst I was lonely and single looking for someone.

I went through a really bad patch when we lost our son, wondered why I'd put myself through having babies when losing him was so so hard. However I look at my OH and my kids and I know I wouldn't change it for any other lifestyle. It's so rewarding raising our kids, seeing them learn. Look for the positives because you'll find loads

ahava

i just wanted to say im 42 with no.1 on the way after 5yrs trying. I just wanted to say that you are very lucky having children at a younger age, where you have more energy, more spirit, and a definate easier time . I only wish if I had time again, id have done it all earlier. Your body will snap back, and if it doesnt there are always options you can pursue on the nhs if in need. Keep your chin up you are doing a smashing job

MoonMuffin

I'm 19 and pg with #2 (will be 20 well before #2 arrives though), and I know how you feel, I have a saggy pouch from #1 and stretch marks everywhere (arms, boobs, tummy, sides) and my boobs are much saggier (though DH swears they look great) and I was just starting to lose weight (had lost 12 lbs!) when I found out I was pg again. I still haven't told my parents, they love Kathryn to death but I don't want to hear from them how stupid I am for having another already, and get bugged by them all the time. They think we can't afford it, but we have everything we need (just need a few things like another crib and a double stroller) and by the time we need to start with preschool DH will be making more money and I'll have a children's book out (hopefully!) so that'll bring in some $, but I know they wont understand.
At least when we're bringing our kids to school (like in high school) we can gloat about how much younger we are/look then the other moms, they will all be envious of our good looks