Im in that phase - Page 2

Seraphim · Jun 26th, 2009, 15:31 PM

^^ All that they said hon.

I think it's that mid-way phases of assessing your past present and future... give anybody the grumps

vix1989 · Jun 28th, 2009, 10:08 AM

thank you all you girlies that replied to my thread, ive just only got chance to read through em all, and it cheered me up a great deal.
thank you so much for your support! xxx

lovedupgirl · Jun 28th, 2009, 11:33 AM

Gatecrashing from 3rd tri here!

I know exactly how you feel hun, I have just turned 23 and have my 4th baby on the way!
My kids are my life, I am a full time stay at home mum and full time cook, cleaner, entertainer, laundrette to name a few!We may not have jobs hun but we do more than most people who go out to work all day!
Raising happy and healthy children is a huge acheivement be proud of yourself and dont let anyone put you down!At the end of the day flash cars, big houses etc mean nothing compared to having children that are loved and cared for.
I have body worries too strechmarks and boobs that are a whole 20 years older than my body!

Yes it can wear your confidence down when you see girls the same age with firm boobs,washboard tummies that look like they have just stepped off a photo shoot somewhere, but remember this if/when they do have kids they too will be frazzled make up free and wearing trackies

Oh and even the ones that dont end up having any kids cant battle gravity forever!

vix1989 · Jun 28th, 2009, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by lovedupgirl

Gatecrashing from 3rd tri here!

I know exactly how you feel hun, I have just turned 23 and have my 4th baby on the way!
My kids are my life, I am a full time stay at home mum and full time cook, cleaner, entertainer, laundrette to name a few!We may not have jobs hun but we do more than most people who go out to work all day!
Raising happy and healthy children is a huge acheivement be proud of yourself and dont let anyone put you down!At the end of the day flash cars, big houses etc mean nothing compared to having children that are loved and cared for.
I have body worries too strechmarks and boobs that are a whole 20 years older than my body!

Yes it can wear your confidence down when you see girls the same age with firm boobs,washboard tummies that look like they have just stepped off a photo shoot somewhere, but remember this if/when they do have kids they too will be frazzled make up free and wearing trackies

Oh and even the ones that dont end up having any kids cant battle gravity forever!

thank you your post really cheered me up and made me giggle!
i think you are a credit to yourself and your kids you have 2 more than me and you seem to manage! well done and good luck with your fourth!

lovedupgirl · Jun 28th, 2009, 11:56 AM

I manage yes but im just as insecure as everyone else is!

If I had the money i'd have a breast enlargement and uplift as soon as i'd popped this baby out!
glad my post cheered you up hun, we just need to have some confidence in ourselves and remember that beauty is about more than looking like a playboy centrefold!

Septie · Jun 28th, 2009, 13:27 PM

I'm going to be an older mom. Been with OH for well over 10 yrs, kept delaying kids due to our careers (still an issue, but we got worried that if we kept waiting, we wouldn't get a chance or have major difficulty conceiving).
Your body will likely snap back much more easily than mine will. And when we are 60/70, nobody will be able to see a difference, cause we'll all have it hanging

Another thing to keep in mind is that you will be soooo wonderfully young when your kids are grown and out of the house. You will still have time to enjoy the good life then (while we'll be close to retirement/health issues etc.). And, you may well get to enjoy not only seeing your grandkids grow up, but also greatgrandkids. Wow - that's something to cherish!!! My MIL had my OH when she was well over 40, and since we are older parents too, we don't know how much time our kid(s) will get to enjoy with their grandparents.

So, I think you should enjoy being a younger mom. It has tons of advantages.

Wombat · Jun 28th, 2009, 13:39 PM

OMG girls!!!! I can so relate to everyone of you!!! I am 24 with the second baby on the way!

And yes, sometimes I feel horrible when I look in the mirror and see a 24 year old in a body of a 62 year old. It sucks.
I am a stay at home mum too, and mostly I love it but sometimes it sucks being stuck at home and just being a mum and a wife. But I know, that in a few years time I can go back to work, get my body sorted and get some of old "me" back and all those girls who are now are in their 20-ies and partying and basically doing what most 20 something do will be having their kids and will have to go throught exactly the same thing (and don't forget, that the older you get the more difficult it is to get your body back).

So, chin up everyone!

Jun 26th, 2009, 15:31 PM	#11
Seraphim Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Dartmoor, Devon Posts: 7,082	^^ All that they said hon. I think it's that mid-way phases of assessing your past present and future... give anybody the grumps

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Jun 28th, 2009, 10:08 AM	#12
vix1989 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: East yorkshire, england Posts: 6,200	thank you all you girlies that replied to my thread, ive just only got chance to read through em all, and it cheered me up a great deal. thank you so much for your support! xxx

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Jun 28th, 2009, 11:33 AM	#13
lovedupgirl Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: cumbria Posts: 618	Gatecrashing from 3rd tri here! I know exactly how you feel hun, I have just turned 23 and have my 4th baby on the way! My kids are my life, I am a full time stay at home mum and full time cook, cleaner, entertainer, laundrette to name a few!We may not have jobs hun but we do more than most people who go out to work all day! Raising happy and healthy children is a huge acheivement be proud of yourself and dont let anyone put you down!At the end of the day flash cars, big houses etc mean nothing compared to having children that are loved and cared for. I have body worries too strechmarks and boobs that are a whole 20 years older than my body! Yes it can wear your confidence down when you see girls the same age with firm boobs,washboard tummies that look like they have just stepped off a photo shoot somewhere, but remember this if/when they do have kids they too will be frazzled make up free and wearing trackies Oh and even the ones that dont end up having any kids cant battle gravity forever!

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Jun 28th, 2009, 11:56 AM	#15
lovedupgirl Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: cumbria Posts: 618	I manage yes but im just as insecure as everyone else is! If I had the money i'd have a breast enlargement and uplift as soon as i'd popped this baby out! glad my post cheered you up hun, we just need to have some confidence in ourselves and remember that beauty is about more than looking like a playboy centrefold!

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Jun 28th, 2009, 13:27 PM	#16
Septie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 639	I'm going to be an older mom. Been with OH for well over 10 yrs, kept delaying kids due to our careers (still an issue, but we got worried that if we kept waiting, we wouldn't get a chance or have major difficulty conceiving). Your body will likely snap back much more easily than mine will. And when we are 60/70, nobody will be able to see a difference, cause we'll all have it hanging Another thing to keep in mind is that you will be soooo wonderfully young when your kids are grown and out of the house. You will still have time to enjoy the good life then (while we'll be close to retirement/health issues etc.). And, you may well get to enjoy not only seeing your grandkids grow up, but also greatgrandkids. Wow - that's something to cherish!!! My MIL had my OH when she was well over 40, and since we are older parents too, we don't know how much time our kid(s) will get to enjoy with their grandparents. So, I think you should enjoy being a younger mom. It has tons of advantages.

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Jun 28th, 2009, 13:39 PM	#17
Wombat Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: UK Posts: 1,129	OMG girls!!!! I can so relate to everyone of you!!! I am 24 with the second baby on the way! And yes, sometimes I feel horrible when I look in the mirror and see a 24 year old in a body of a 62 year old. It sucks. I am a stay at home mum too, and mostly I love it but sometimes it sucks being stuck at home and just being a mum and a wife. But I know, that in a few years time I can go back to work, get my body sorted and get some of old "me" back and all those girls who are now are in their 20-ies and partying and basically doing what most 20 something do will be having their kids and will have to go throught exactly the same thing (and don't forget, that the older you get the more difficult it is to get your body back). So, chin up everyone!

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