People are making me feel like ive let them down having another boy :'( - Page 2

Anna1982 · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:17 AM

oh and about boys leaving their mums, my brother still comes home and fetches his family twice a week and hes 40!! lol

plus we go visit dh mum 3 or 4 times a week as well

people talk twoddle (can you tell its a sore subject for me too lol)

Rebaby · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:17 AM

First off- congratulations on the blue bump!

It must be incredibly upsetting to have those kind of reactions to your exciting news, i think people get incredibly insensitive and undiplomatic when it comes to dealing with pregnant women and think it is perfectly acceptable to say whatever springs to mind, even if it is hurtful and insulting!

I know that by the time i am done having children i would ideally like to have had at least one of each sex, just so i can experience being a mum to both a son and daughter, but whatever happens, and in whatever order (!) , having a beautiful healthy baby is nothing short of a fantastic miracle, and i actually think it's really nice to have two of the same sex close in age as they'll hopefully grow up to be great friends.

Snowy · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:18 AM

Congratulations on your blue bump

Having two boys will be wonderful as they can play and share so many things. As for boys leaving you when there older its an old wives tale -:

"A son's a son till he finds a wife, a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life"....................

............which has been proved wrong many times!!!

embo216 · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:19 AM

Oh hun

Nasty people! When I told my witch of a MIL she told me she wanted a boy! I was so shocked, silly cow

BumpyButtons · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:22 AM

It really annoys me when non pregnant peeps like to air their not important views on our babies

Its none of their god damned business to be honest. The fact that we are carrying a healthy baby should be enough but for some people it never is. For those people, i do believe it is a streak of jealousy that shines through. I've already had this and i'm not even in my 2nd tri yet. Every single person i have told has said aww i presume you want a girl otherwise your both going to be disappointed

I have bitten a few peoples heads off( they replied with "wow your hormonal!") I have 1 son, OH has 1 son and 1 daughter. we dont care wot we have as long as its healthy. I wana find a t shirt that says this as i'm sick n tired of hearing it too. rant over.

dom85 · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:24 AM

Dont listen to them hun, there's no such thing as a perfect family and you're right, boys dont leave. I've got three brothers and they are the biggest mummy's boys ever and they're 28, 18 and 17.

All that matters is that you're both healthy and happy, stuff everyone else

Mumof42009 · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:26 AM

Dont listen to them hun cause they aint worth it at all, people said it to me after each of my dd's i had now i get you aint going to know what to do with a boy wtf. Some people just cant be happy for you xx

chuck · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:26 AM

Oh f**k 'em.

Some pepole get so wrapped in what a 'perfect, complete' family should be (1 boy 1 girl or what ever seems to be right at the time) that they forget things arent always bloody chocolate box and the vast majority of parents to be although they do have hopes for one gender or another are just pleased that they have a baby on the way are are focusing on having a healthy baby!

Next time tell them they're damn ugly...then say oh sorry what that insenstive of me?

Some people...my mind boggles.

ClaireLouise · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:34 AM

Aww hunni congratulations on your ickle baby boy!!

I agree with everyone else, a healthy baby is what matters, not the gender!! I also hate it when people go on about having one of each or preferring one sex over another. Some people arent lucky enough to be blessed with children of their own and as soon as your LO is born, he will be showered with love from his whole family! I always thought that little boys always preferred a brother anyway. They end up being sooo close!

About 3 years ago, our MIL always said she wanted a grand daughter (she has 4 boys of her own and really wanted a girl) so i had always been worried of disappointing her if i had a boy. Now my sister in law has a boy AND a girl, the pressure is kind of off, but not when other people stick their nose in and say things like "ohhh id prefer a girl/boy" Thats THEIR opinion, and they should keep it to themselves.

"IM pregnant and will fart on/punch/try to drop kick you if you carry on annoying me"

proud mummy · Jun 17th, 2009, 07:42 AM

sorry they were so insensitive huni!!

Its fantastic news. Like I have said to you I really do think I am having another boy and I would love it. ( i only want a girl for the gorgeous clothes lol)
Boys are so easy to look after and so easy going Kian and the baby will be best of friends im sure.

Jun 17th, 2009, 07:17 AM	#11
Anna1982 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Wakefield Posts: 2,856	oh and about boys leaving their mums, my brother still comes home and fetches his family twice a week and hes 40!! lol plus we go visit dh mum 3 or 4 times a week as well people talk twoddle (can you tell its a sore subject for me too lol)

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:17 AM	#12
Rebaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 4,699	First off- congratulations on the blue bump! It must be incredibly upsetting to have those kind of reactions to your exciting news, i think people get incredibly insensitive and undiplomatic when it comes to dealing with pregnant women and think it is perfectly acceptable to say whatever springs to mind, even if it is hurtful and insulting! I know that by the time i am done having children i would ideally like to have had at least one of each sex, just so i can experience being a mum to both a son and daughter, but whatever happens, and in whatever order (!) , having a beautiful healthy baby is nothing short of a fantastic miracle, and i actually think it's really nice to have two of the same sex close in age as they'll hopefully grow up to be great friends.

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:18 AM	#13
Snowy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Godalming, Surrey Posts: 214	Congratulations on your blue bump Having two boys will be wonderful as they can play and share so many things. As for boys leaving you when there older its an old wives tale -: "A son's a son till he finds a wife, a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life".................... ............which has been proved wrong many times!!!

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:19 AM	#14
embo216 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Essex Posts: 6,916	Oh hun Nasty people! When I told my witch of a MIL she told me she wanted a boy! I was so shocked, silly cow

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:22 AM	#15
BumpyButtons Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: uk Posts: 1,006	It really annoys me when non pregnant peeps like to air their not important views on our babies Its none of their god damned business to be honest. The fact that we are carrying a healthy baby should be enough but for some people it never is. For those people, i do believe it is a streak of jealousy that shines through. I've already had this and i'm not even in my 2nd tri yet. Every single person i have told has said aww i presume you want a girl otherwise your both going to be disappointed I have bitten a few peoples heads off( they replied with "wow your hormonal!") I have 1 son, OH has 1 son and 1 daughter. we dont care wot we have as long as its healthy. I wana find a t shirt that says this as i'm sick n tired of hearing it too. rant over.

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:24 AM	#16
dom85 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 1,823	Dont listen to them hun, there's no such thing as a perfect family and you're right, boys dont leave. I've got three brothers and they are the biggest mummy's boys ever and they're 28, 18 and 17. All that matters is that you're both healthy and happy, stuff everyone else

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:26 AM	#17
Mumof42009 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 3,668	Dont listen to them hun cause they aint worth it at all, people said it to me after each of my dd's i had now i get you aint going to know what to do with a boy wtf. Some people just cant be happy for you xx

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:26 AM	#18
chuck Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 6,355	Oh f**k 'em. Some pepole get so wrapped in what a 'perfect, complete' family should be (1 boy 1 girl or what ever seems to be right at the time) that they forget things arent always bloody chocolate box and the vast majority of parents to be although they do have hopes for one gender or another are just pleased that they have a baby on the way are are focusing on having a healthy baby! Next time tell them they're damn ugly...then say oh sorry what that insenstive of me? Some people...my mind boggles.

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:34 AM	#19
ClaireLouise Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 944	Aww hunni congratulations on your ickle baby boy!! I agree with everyone else, a healthy baby is what matters, not the gender!! I also hate it when people go on about having one of each or preferring one sex over another. Some people arent lucky enough to be blessed with children of their own and as soon as your LO is born, he will be showered with love from his whole family! I always thought that little boys always preferred a brother anyway. They end up being sooo close! About 3 years ago, our MIL always said she wanted a grand daughter (she has 4 boys of her own and really wanted a girl) so i had always been worried of disappointing her if i had a boy. Now my sister in law has a boy AND a girl, the pressure is kind of off, but not when other people stick their nose in and say things like "ohhh id prefer a girl/boy" Thats THEIR opinion, and they should keep it to themselves. *"IM pregnant and will fart on/punch/try to* drop kick you if you carry on annoying me"**

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Jun 17th, 2009, 07:42 AM	#20
proud mummy Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 755	sorry they were so insensitive huni!! Its fantastic news. Like I have said to you I really do think I am having another boy and I would love it. ( i only want a girl for the gorgeous clothes lol) Boys are so easy to look after and so easy going Kian and the baby will be best of friends im sure.

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