ARGGGH!!!

Ok need to vent ladies...apoligies in advance...

So, he got me pregnant, treated me like complete SHIT the whole time he was around (the whole er...4 weeks) and then got a new girlfriend and we haven't said a single word to each other in 2 months.

This was all fine by me, I was SO much happier without him, I knew this was best for me and baby and I'd gotten used to the prospect of life as a single mum. To be honest I actually forgot he existed.

And then all of a sudden out of the blue he sends me a message on facebook yesterday! (we're not on each other's friends lists anymore)

Here is what it said...

hey, i know we havent really spoke, and i know sometimes we find it hard to get on, but just want you to know i will support you, and i hope your ok and everything is going ok, i know it cant be easy

So I replied....

Hiya,

I don't mean this to come across as rude but it's been practically 2 months since we've spoken so I don't know what's brought this on. As far as I was concerned this was how it was going to stay and I was happy with it being that way and I thought you were too. Again, I don't mean that in a rude way.

And yeah everything's fine and family and friends are supporting me so I'm fine, hope everything's ok with you.

So he replied....

just had time to think about things, and ignoring each other isnt neceseraly (sorry cant spell) the best or right thing to do, just want you to know i would be there for the baby and id help out, i havent forgot about the situation, its just we havent spoke and i havent got your number my phone got cut off, and i know you dont mean to come accross rude, just want you to know i havent forgot and i would make an effort, im glad everything is going ok, have you had any more scans?

So I replied about half hour ago....

Ok right well again none of this is supposed to sound rude or nasty, just saying how I feel...

All the stress I've had since I became pregnant caused me to have a mini stroke about 4 weeks ago and I was supposed to have an MRI scan (brain scan) last monday to see if there is any lasting damage or to see if I'm at risk of having a full on stroke which could kill me but I'm not allowed to have it because they don't do MRI scans on pregnant women as it could harm baby. When we were in contact with each other before, it did nothing but cause me stress and I'm not taking ANY risks of that happening again, I'm under enough as it is trust me.

You can't just turn up in my life again and expect to be included, it's not fair on me or the baby. I'm not some evil cow who would prevent you from possibly having some involvement but seriously, I've been left to deal with this all on my own so far and it's really unfair that you think you can go off for months at a time to do whatever and then expect me to let you back in, it doesn't work that way. As you can imagine, this is all very real to me now and I'm protective over my baby and it's a bit hard for me to let someone in when we barely really know each other and you haven't really had much involvement so far.

Yeah I had my 20 week scan on wednesday, he's perfect and yeah I said "he"...so he's a boy. Takes after you in the willy department by the looks of things, it's bloody huge.

Well I don't want you to think that you can be allowed to just instantly be involved again after what's happened. And I'm not going to guarentee anything because like I said, I was really happy with how things were and as far as I was concerned it was for the best. So I don't really know what else to say. Hope everything's ok?

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Men are such pricks.
Can't tell you what I would do, but thought that was worth saying!

Thankyou x funny though, all of a sudden after baby going quiet for a few days he's back to his normal self and giving me a proper kicking session!

MOST men are pricks, we'll make damm sure we have created some lil men with some decency in them, mine better be or i'll have his guts for garters.


hun Do whats best for you and baby, by all means let him support you financially when the baby comes, stay strong you are doing well x

I think you said all that you needed to say

Thanks ladies. Do you think my reply was reasonable?? x

He was lucky to get a reply he'd of got a rant and a half off me.

True...I think it is a natural ability included in their genetic makeup(like farting and opening jars) and we have to really try to combat it from an early age. Also, I have found that the influence of other males never seems to help.

That guy has some nerve just popping back around when it's convenient for him, though. That shit really pisses me off about men. I hear that type of story all the time. Moms don't get that luxury. "I think I will only be pregnant when it benefits me..."

Gawd, wouldn't that be nice.

Agreed.
Mine would have consisted of two words...

first starts with F ends in K...second is OFF.

Very well said hun x