hi hun, know exactly what you going through, found out my husband was cheating 9 weeks ago, totally unexpected, but he decided to leave me for her (he had been cheating for a month!!) and seemed and still does seem totally out of character for him.

everyone has their own opinions on what they would do in that situation, but you don't know until your actually there. i always said i would never forgive him for cheating, but i actually think i could have if given the opportunity, what is more difficult is if they have built up an emotional relationship with the other woman. they say that you can forgive if its really what you want, but you will never forget.

feel like im coming out the other side now, looking forward to being a single mum, baby means the world to me and i know i will be fine when LO is here, because it is all i've ever wanted. don't know how he will feel when he becomes a dad, because he did want it so much (think he is actually scared) and he is going to miss out in all the best bits of watching your child grow up, maybe that is when it will hit him, i really don't know.

just remember only you can decide if you can forgive him and whether you will be able to rebuild your relationship.

take care
xx

sorry hun i didnt want to read and run, i hope you ok, xx im here if you need to talk, xx

Hi there, only you can decide what you think is best for you and your baby's future.It will be difficult either way, a road that you will be taking not anyone else, so make sure it's what you want.Best of luck.

Awww I can't imagine how awful this must be for all of you going through this. If my DH cheated on me I dont know what I would do. I'm pretty tolerant and laid back but cheating is too much for me to imagine forgiving. A few years ago my DH was with his friends for New Years in Newcastle and a girl kissed him at the bells. He told me about an hour afterwards and I fell out with him for about a week refusing to speak to him. I felt so betrayed even though he hadn't actually done anything.

Whatever you decide I am sure you will do what is best for you and your LO. As one of the other girls said, nobody will judge you for your decision, you will make the right one based on your personal circumstances.

I hope that things get better for you

Didn't want to R&R!

In my experience, you can keep going on with the relationship but in the back of your mind you'll always be worried he'll do it again. And everytime his phone goes off or something, you'll automatically return to the same situation and insecurities.

And also, never, ever, ever stay with someone because of your baby. He's the utter jackass to cheat and risk losing everything.

Nobody can tell you how to feel or even try and understand how you're feeling. But there's always a light at the end of the tunnel!

Good luck x

any updates hon? thinking about you!

hun...you suspected it...that says a lot hun...that is NOT GOOD AT ALL.....
and he cheated on you while you are carrying his baby...
umm I don't know what he did (if you now what I mean) but I hope he hasnt expose you to anything that may harm you or your baby...
cant tell you what to do...we are suckers for love hun...I wouldn't know what to do either...
we never know if he will do it again or not...and it totally sucks...
but that most hurt like a bitch and that will always stay with you...
when I met my OH he had a GF and I had a BF..we were friends for a while and we broke up with our "partners" around the same times...and we became sex buddies...I became pregnant...we werent together and he was still talking to her...she was still coming around and everything...I had to move in with him when the baby was very little..he wouldnt even consider me his GF then when she found out I was pregnant and he told her that by him talking to her was causing problems with him and I and he didnt want problems with me because of the baby...I understood they were young when they got together and they knew each other for a couple of years but I know that feelings where still there and she was tormenting me...calling me and harrasing...befriending all his family...grrrrrr...they would even tell her to just wait for him...grrrrrr....well one day when he stopped talking to her...when we started developing something else (I mean we were sleeping together and all that...we were young though so I understand his stupidity)she came around and when I went to talk to her nicely...I even said hi...she slapped me WITH THE BABY IN MY ARMS...so I handed the baby to someone...and I beat her ass that was 5x bigger than mine lmao...when he got me off her...I punched him in the face and told him its all his fault for keeping her hopes up (he sorta was...telling her we didn't sleep together and such)..cops came and they asked him if he didn't want her coming around...I said...you better decide between her or me...and he said he couldn't decide between friends...I told him that he obviously didnt care that she put our child in danger.and that he wants to keep a depressive pill popping lunatic around..so I said to forget it and that he didn't have to decide because I was gone... I got the baby and left...I didn't know that he told the cops that he didnt want her around that shes the one that didnt leave him alone that she would cry suicide every time he would want to end everything with her...he dropped her!!!! when he came to see the baby he came with roses and asked me to be his girlfriend (he said he didn't like giving titles to girls) I cared for him and we had a baby together so I said that I'd give it a try...we have been together for 8 years!!!! and they have been almost perfect...but that has never left my mind but if he cheated now I don't know how I would take it I don't expect him to and I trust him 100% I just dont trust women around him (he's too hot!!!!) lmao so hun I cant really give you an advice on what to do because it is all on you.

just wanted to send so sorry you are having to go through this.

I figured I would update. What I meant when I said I wasn't surprised was that he had been acting a little differently since that night, and I picked up on it. I knew something was up, and so when he told me I was not surprised. I really thought it was out of character for him.

We are working it out, very slowly. I love him and I do not feel that he will do it again, and if he does do it again than it is definitely over. I know that no matter what he will be a great father to the baby, and be there. We still have a lot of growing up to do I realized, and it is so scary when I think about a baby being here in a few months. I have never felt so unprepared in my life.

I don't know what the future will bring, but I don't want to give up on our relationship. I know that if it is not meant to be then something will happen in the future to show me that. Until then, I am just going to work on our relationship and do whatever it takes to learn to trust him again.

Thanks for all the replies ladies, it was very helpful in making my decision. Especially knowing that there would be someone to support this decision, becuase no one else really is.

Wish you all the best hun!