You said everything that I would have said.... I would never be able to get over the pain of it and so it would eat at me for a long time- not only making me miserable but him as well- as I wouldn't be able to be "normal" with him. I love sex as well, and not being able to trust him and that leading to us not being able to be intimate, would really hurt me. I think it's a great way to physically bond with someone and not being able to share the love you once did, cause feelings are altered and trust has been blown would wreck it. Especially being pregnant, my OH knows, if he ever were to cheat or play that two timing game on me, I'd leave... it would show me he didn't love me or what we were building together enough- that he needed something else that I couldn't give him. AND, having a BABY... if he's scared of the committment, it's understandable, because I am first to admit I am scared to death of being a Mom (making mistakes, not knowing different "tricks", not being able to provide enough... etc), but acting out isn't the way to work through it. It would be an indicator to me of what's to come, what would set him off in the future that could lead him astray again? I'm head over heels in love and loyal to my OH, if he couldn't be the same... it would be over, you can be in love with the wrong person- it happens... but theres always some guy out there that is better than the last.

Just wanted to give you massive hun.... only you can decide how you feel about this, just make sure you take all the time that you need to clear your head xxx

Im so sorry you have to go through this especially when you are carrying his child.
Whether you decide to forgive and forget or whether you show him the door we are all here for support,
Personally If my OH cheated I would not be able to forgive not even a kiss never mind full sexual intercourse but that is because I have such a strong hatred of cheating, my dad cheated on my mum the full 15 years they were together and she never suspected a thing.I vowed I'd never let it happen to me.
This is your decision hun you need to think this through and decide whether or not you can trust him again.

My best friend had her husband cheat on her during her pregnancy and it has been a long way back to normality but they managed to sort it out.

My Godson is now 2 and although she will never forget she has been able to forgive (after marriage counselling) and they are making it work. There will always be an issue of trust but if he is genuinely sorry and can explain why he did it and swear it won't happen again then it could work out in the long run.

Oh no!! I'm so sorry to hear this. It scares me how common it is that fellas seem to cheat on their pregnant wives and girlfriends.

I am fairly philosophical about love - my step dad left his ex wife when his child was 1 week old for my mum (Mum and my step dad had been together for a few months before my bro was born but he and his ex wife agreed on him leaving after he was born because her parents were going on hols and she didn't want to stop them from going)

However, I am not sure whether I could forgive my husband if he cheated on me whilst pregnant, especially knowing what we go through growing our babies.

I guess we can't ever be sure until we're in the situation, so I hope you can find a way to do what is best for you and the baby...

Us BnB girls will be here to listen to you and give our opinions if you want them... and to send you big virtual hugs. Keep your chin up chicken...I'm thinking of you. xx

I have had an ex bf of four years cheat on me and we did move past it but never got over it and years after the relationship ended. for me its all about trust and its very hard to get that back when someone has betrayed you. I wouldnt say once a cheat always a cheat because some guys do learn from there mistakes but its very rare. My ex told me as well and it does take alot to tell someone that which tels me he obviously cares about u very much and knows he messed up otherwise he would have hid it. Its really upto what you think is best for you dont make any quick decisions that you will regret xoxoxo

Aww hun, big
I can't even imagine how you feel. I honestly don't know what I would do if my DH cheated on me. I love my DH so much and don't think I could manage without him, but I would also be devastated. I think it would also depend on why, on what kind of relationship he had with the other woman, a strictly physical one or is he in love with this woman? Is it a one time thing or has it been going on for a while? Gosh I would be so lost, it would be so hard for me to trust him (I don't think I could). Do what feels right, and be angry all you want, he was a jerk for doing this to you, especially while carrying your child. Really its astonishing that so many men do this! Hope you work everything out (whichever way it goes)

Hey hun....
Its hard to comment as the partner im with with has cheated on me 3 times!!!

I used to believe in what bexy_22 says..

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Originally Posted by bexy_22 I believe in once a cheat always a cheat and I could never trust him again

But it is very hard when you are actually in the situation.

Although we are together now and having a baby (and 2 years ago we moved 5000 miles away from everyone we know in England to Canada), i dont trust him (he cheated whilst he was living in England). Trust is a huge part of a relationship and i regret staying with him. I think if i had known he had cheated on me before moving all the way out here.. We wouldnt be together. That would mean i wouldnt be having this baby and of course i want this baby more than anything. But although i love him, i dont trust him and everytime im upset or angry at him all i can think about is all the hurt hes caused me .

I dont think anyone would judge you for what you decide. You never know.. With the baby on the way, you might end up closer than ever.

well i guess no one can tell you how to deal with but they can tell you what they would do. i really feel for you that you have to go through this for me cheating is something that would really hurt me probably because i am a very loyal person and i am totally for honesy in a relationship. in the end it's up to you and i think maybe thinking about what it would be like to stay or go would help like will you be able to be with him and not always be wondering if he's seeing somone else i know that can destroy relationships when that trust has been broken but in the end it's up to you follow your heart and be strong.
with me and my partner we both made it very clear that neither of us would tollerate cheating he knows and i know that if either of us did that to each other that would be the end of us, he knows that i cant stand men who cheat or are disshonest and he's very much like that as well fortunatly we are both very loyal people. but good luck with it all

she is right.....trust is really really important thing...but dont take any decision in panic...just take sometime and give him time tooo...