Yeah, chuck him out if even just to give him a fright and a reality check! If u dont make a stand this time he will do it again!

I agree with sobersadie, chuck him out and see how much he's willing to fight for you.

I'm not going to say everything is doomed. Everyones situation is different and only you know whats best for you and LO. I have had problems myself and i understand why you are so puzzled as to what to do. Take some time to really think about it. xxxxxxxxx

I just wanted to send you some hugs,.....i have a policy. I wouldnt be with my dh if he cheated. Saying that, its hard when you have children and a house together, but once the trust has gone its gone.

I wanted to say, please look after yourself and put YOU FIRST. .....

DH had several exes in his past who cheated on him, I've always been cheated on until I met DH so we have a no tolerance sudden death policy if either one of us ever strayed. Having been where you are (albeit with no baby to consider), I understand your dilemma. It will take a long time for trust to rebuild if ever and he might get frustrated when you justifiably want to know where he's going and with who.

Stay strong and no matter what you choose, you will know it was the best choice for you and baby in the end. Good luck.

Hi KJunkie.
I can totally sympathize with you. I "found out" a little over 2 years ago....6 months ago I discovered that they kept the relationship going for another 6 months after I was told it was over. Of course she was very nasty and vindictive toward me...she decided to try to convince me she had been pregnant and mc-ed...dh said that she had claimed to be pg, but he never believed her...there was never any proof.
Anyway, its a tough situation. You have to do what is right for you and your family. We have worked it out and are expecting a lil boy in Sept. We already have a lil girl...she was 5 months old when he started his fling.
Its hard to write everything down here, but if you want to talk, PM me and I'd be happy to share more with you and encourage you any way I can!

didnt want to read & run xxxx take care xxx

Thinking of you. Be strong xx

Hello,
Didn't want to read and run, like the others have said its hard to comment as we have the objectivity of being able to look at the whole picture, without the emotions attached. I just wanted to say that if you wen't supprised then it sounds like there are already some issues in the relationship.
You can be great parents together, without having to be partners together. As a child growing up with a mum and dad who were constantly arguing, I can honestly say the best thing they could of done for me was a divorce and it kills me now when my mum tells me she only stayed to give me a family unit.
I think stay or go its totally your decision, you know in yourself, how parranoid and unoved this has mae you feel and only you can know if your strong enough to pick up the pieces and forgive. But if you do decide to forgive it wld have to be true forgivness as holding it to one side and throwing it at him when it suits will end up destroying both of you.
Hope this may help, thinking of you, be strong xxxx

oh sweetie, my heart is breaking for you as I think what I would do if my DH cheated and just the thought makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I agree with so many ladies on here --- the fact that he could go through being physically intimate with another woman, especially while u're pregnant, is awful and selfish and disgusting. Was he drunk? Not that that makes it any better, but if he was sober and in his right mind - I think that makes it worse.

If it were me, I would kick him out. period. If he was truly sorry and wanted to make your relationship work then he will do everything he can to win you back. Do everything in his power to prove to you that he can be trusted again. If he can't do that, then I would move on to find someone who would never do that to you and loves u enough to respect you.

good luck sweetie, plz let us know what happens.

I am not going to say what you should do. I can only say what I would do.
I would be absolutely furious and then be devastated. I would cry and cry and want him to live every day feeling guilty over what he did to me. Only when I was done doing all that would I be able to figure out what to do next.
The broken trust is a very hard thing to overcome. If you want to try giving it a go, I know some couples are able to get past it. Personally, I am not sure if I could. Being pregnant and having this happen would be enough hurt for me to probably say "I can't take a risk of letting you hurt me so badly again". It would also make me feel just gutted and disappointed that he could think to do such a thing, and have such total disregard for me in my current state.
That being said, knowing very little about your relationship in general, I know that there are people who can get past it, however, for every 10 of those people, my guess is that at least half and probably 3/4 end up parting ways down the road because of the broken trust issues, a repeat occurance, or just resentment.
It is really up to you to decide whether your relationship has the strength to beat those odds.
Good luck to you, sweetie Don't blame yourself, and try to do what you can to make yourself happier right now, as I know it must be incredibly hard to do