I just dont feel happy at all - Page 2

vix1989 · May 26th, 2009, 10:50 AM

no maternity as i dont work, and he does live with us thats the thing.
we cant claim jsa because they said our tax credits should beenough for us to live on but its not.

lalitas charm · May 26th, 2009, 10:52 AM

Hey hun, Ebay is great but dont go past Ikea either, i've just been looking on there and the cots etc are really reasonably priced and some of the bedding is LOVELY! exactly what I wanted in fact.

We already have a heap of Ikea furniture and are really pleased with it. I'm def going to get some stuff from Ikea and it is cheaper than a lot of stuff i saw on ebay.

I think that moomin has brilliant advise, it is def worth a try, that is another source of income for you both.

You are doing really well and will find a way to have everything you need. It is just really though at the moment as times seem a bit dark and you have those pesky pregnancy hormones making you feel worse. Goodness knows I was nearly sent doolally by them a few weeks ago and thought that my life was completely over and cried for days on end. I'm still struggling but am more in control these days.

moomin_troll · May 26th, 2009, 10:55 AM

yeah the governments maternity pay is for ppl who dont qualify as a employee or for ppl who dont work. i duno the proper name as i didnt use it.

i think the only thing u can do is ur partner has to get more hours by changing work or getting a second job

lou1979 · May 26th, 2009, 10:58 AM

We are also finding it really really hard, we bought our first house last june, and its been a real hard year..

I hate the thought of not being able to buy things when i want to, and i have to budget like mad which i HATE..

my gas elec bill came in 3 weeks ago £659 and i just cant afford it, i hate feeling this low. so i know how you are feeling.

vix1989 · May 26th, 2009, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by lou1979

We are also finding it really really hard, we bought our first house last june, and its been a real hard year..

I hate the thought of not being able to buy things when i want to, and i have to budget like mad which i HATE..

my gas elec bill came in 3 weeks ago £659 and i just cant afford it, i hate feeling this low. so i know how you are feeling.

maybe you could get a meter fitted we did and its saved us s much becaue we knew xactly how much were using we only but 7 pounds on a week and it lasts

vix1989 · May 26th, 2009, 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by moomin_troll

yeah the governments maternity pay is for ppl who dont qualify as a employee or for ppl who dont work. i duno the proper name as i didnt use it.

i think the only thing u can do is ur partner has to get more hours by changing work or getting a second job

weve been trying to get another job for him non available at the mo, our area is one of the hardest hit with job losses because we are an industrial city.

cinnamongirl · May 26th, 2009, 11:23 AM

hun. I'm in a similar situation and it's so hard. Most times my eyes hurt from crying so much, but I have to keep hope that things will turn around for us, and I'm sure they will for u also...but it's hard to see the forest thru the trees sometimes. PM me if u need to talk.

vix1989 · May 26th, 2009, 15:28 PM

so is everybody in a similar situation?
dont take this the wrong way but it makes me fell a little better that im not alone!
adam my OH is so tired of deeing me cry it upsets him when i cry but i just cant help it!

KJunkie · May 26th, 2009, 15:43 PM

I am so sorry sweetie! I kind of know how you feel. My OH is getting the lowest amount of hours he can get. Which is 36 because he is a union worker. (We live in the U.S.) And we just found out that we can't terminate our lease on our apartment because we would have to pay rent anyway until they found someone else to occupy the apartment. So, our plans on moving to a cheaper place have been destroyed. Now we will continue to live on a strict budget. Luckily my mom is helping us out with food.

I hope you all can figure it out so that you can stop worrying. I wish you the best.

vix1989 · May 26th, 2009, 15:51 PM

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Originally Posted by KJunkie

I am so sorry sweetie! I kind of know how you feel. My OH is getting the lowest amount of hours he can get. Which is 36 because he is a union worker. (We live in the U.S.) And we just found out that we can't terminate our lease on our apartment because we would have to pay rent anyway until they found someone else to occupy the apartment. So, our plans on moving to a cheaper place have been destroyed. Now we will continue to live on a strict budget. Luckily my mom is helping us out with food.

I hope you all can figure it out so that you can stop worrying. I wish you the best.

oh my god! im sooo sorry!

that must be awful! i hope you will be ok good luck!

May 26th, 2009, 10:50 AM	#11
vix1989 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: East yorkshire, england Posts: 6,200	no maternity as i dont work, and he does live with us thats the thing. we cant claim jsa because they said our tax credits should beenough for us to live on but its not.

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May 26th, 2009, 10:52 AM	#12
lalitas charm Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 3,409	Hey hun, Ebay is great but dont go past Ikea either, i've just been looking on there and the cots etc are really reasonably priced and some of the bedding is LOVELY! exactly what I wanted in fact. We already have a heap of Ikea furniture and are really pleased with it. I'm def going to get some stuff from Ikea and it is cheaper than a lot of stuff i saw on ebay. I think that moomin has brilliant advise, it is def worth a try, that is another source of income for you both. You are doing really well and will find a way to have everything you need. It is just really though at the moment as times seem a bit dark and you have those pesky pregnancy hormones making you feel worse. Goodness knows I was nearly sent doolally by them a few weeks ago and thought that my life was completely over and cried for days on end. I'm still struggling but am more in control these days.

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May 26th, 2009, 10:55 AM	#13
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	yeah the governments maternity pay is for ppl who dont qualify as a employee or for ppl who dont work. i duno the proper name as i didnt use it. i think the only thing u can do is ur partner has to get more hours by changing work or getting a second job

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May 26th, 2009, 10:58 AM	#14
lou1979 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Northants Posts: 1,945	We are also finding it really really hard, we bought our first house last june, and its been a real hard year.. I hate the thought of not being able to buy things when i want to, and i have to budget like mad which i HATE.. my gas elec bill came in 3 weeks ago £659 and i just cant afford it, i hate feeling this low. so i know how you are feeling.

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May 26th, 2009, 11:23 AM	#17
cinnamongirl Mum (Mom) Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Hamilton, ON, Canada Posts: 557	hun. I'm in a similar situation and it's so hard. Most times my eyes hurt from crying so much, but I have to keep hope that things will turn around for us, and I'm sure they will for u also...but it's hard to see the forest thru the trees sometimes. PM me if u need to talk.

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vix1989 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: East yorkshire, england Posts: 6,200	so is everybody in a similar situation? dont take this the wrong way but it makes me fell a little better that im not alone! adam my OH is so tired of deeing me cry it upsets him when i cry but i just cant help it!

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May 26th, 2009, 15:43 PM	#19
KJunkie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 640	I am so sorry sweetie! I kind of know how you feel. My OH is getting the lowest amount of hours he can get. Which is 36 because he is a union worker. (We live in the U.S.) And we just found out that we can't terminate our lease on our apartment because we would have to pay rent anyway until they found someone else to occupy the apartment. So, our plans on moving to a cheaper place have been destroyed. Now we will continue to live on a strict budget. Luckily my mom is helping us out with food. I hope you all can figure it out so that you can stop worrying. I wish you the best.

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