Louisa K

Well I went to the doctors yesterday morning. Now I really really like this doctor, she's always been my favourite one at my doc's.. So I was really pleased to see her friendly face when I entered the room..

She was so helpful, gave me lots of advise. Felt the baby with her hands and told my OH to come and have a feel, I've never seen his eyeballs go so big, he said he could really feel something.. She asked how we were feeling about the new arrival and answered all our concerns..

She found the heartbeat (whoop whoop) and it sounded good and strong again..

Then she said, oh you have your mid pregnancy scan on the 02nd Jan, are you finding out the sex??

I said yes, Im a planner, I'd like to know, so I can be prepared and ready when the baby gets here.

She said what if it has its legs crossed (with a big smile on her face) lol

I said, well I'd pay for a 4d scan, and hope for a better result, we want one anyway because they are amazing.

What if it wasnt the days of the 3d / 4d scans and they didnt exsist she says (again with a grin on her friendly face)

Errr whites and lemons I guess, I said giving up and thinking theres a story coming.......

Then she went on to say how we shouldnt find out as it takes all the fun out of the pregnancy and makes it drag on forever.. She asked us why we needed to know and said that we truely didnt need to know and that we shouldnt find out and keep that as a surprise..

My OH then butted his nose in and said "yeah yeah, see I told her we dont need to know"

Great! Now Im out numbered in the mini doctors room of hell!!

Ooooh now im confused, I was so sure I wanted to know, now Im not sure..

HELP!!

What should I do!!

skiwi

the doctor really had no wright trying to change your minds about finding out the sex, its up to you and your partner....... some people like to know some people dont, i wanted to know, so you can plan for boy things or girls, but her legs were crossed....... just talk to other half about it, if you want to know, tell him, you are the one carring the little one.....

Wobbles

You can tell the person who does the sexing that you want to know and your partner doesn't so if at the end of the appointment would it be ok for him to leave the room and her to tell you.

Your doctor as Skiwi said really had no right!

Louisa K

Yeah I was pretty shocked that she had such a strong opinion on it..

It made me feel like I was being selfish for wanting to know..

Wobbles

No way are you! Personal choice!

I loved finding out personally when I got home and it sunk in i found myself saying good morning to 'her' the next morning I felt more bonded plus I am impatient I couldn't not lol

lynz

me and my other half have talked bout this and his answer was ill go along with whatever you want (like he really had a choice anyway ) i would want to know as i think it helps you plan for the little one arriving and like wobbles said i do think it would help you to bond. i am not even waiting for the scan i am gonna buy on of the intelligender tests off ebay as soon as i am able

Louisa K

Yeah you girls are right ya know, why shouldn't I know if thats what I want !!

I think ill go crazy not knowing, esp knowing that I could know !!

Has anyone on the forum found out then wished they didnt after, Im pretty sure there aren't many who have, according to the doc, most wish they waited for the surprise after the babies birth..

Anyway I've been looking forward to finding out for ages now, so I think I'll stick with that and find out.. Horah!!

shamrockgirl4

it really is ur choice hun wether u want to find out or not not the docs they never used to ttell the sex when i was pg with 1st and 2nd babies they started to tell when i was pg with my 3rd and i found out and i liked knowing what i was having

Samantha675

Your doctor was totally out of line, it is NONE of her business. Seriously, how does it affect her if you find out what YOUR child is? Find out if you want to.

So I had a dream last night my DH and I were at my 24 week scan, and as soon as the tech put the little wand on my belly, all that showed up on the screen was a little bottom, and boy bits. I really really want a girl, and so in my dream, it was like my son was going LOOK LOOK!!! It was the funniest thing. So, I have decided that if we can see what the baby is at 24 weeks, so be it, if not, then it will be a surprise.

Linzi

My doctor was pretty much the same with us when we were discussing the downs testing.. my boyfriend and I had already decided with pretty much no discussion we would have the blood test, but the doctor talked him out of it completely, and now he's telling me I shouldnt when I want to! Its not going to make a difference to me, if anything was wrong I wouldnt end the pregnancy, but theres stuff to think about, you know? Im a planner too and I was really annoyed that she'd had such a forced opinion on us.

I think its really unfair of them to do that and I feel for you completely, as wobbles said, if you want to know then its your right to, and if you OH doesnt then get him to leave the room!

Grr! They make me so angry sometimes!