Im so fuming, i wanna scream and cry!!!

tinkabells · May 12th, 2009, 15:15 PM

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Cazza89 · May 12th, 2009, 15:25 PM

I haven't been following what's going on so i'm a bit lost.
My oh (we split a few weeks after i found out i was pregnant but we got back together 6 wks later) asked for a dna test too! I was fuming but willing to give him one as have nothing to hide. He has now said he doesn't want one now. His mum even asked him if i'd been with anyone else since meeting him (and i haven't). I'm willing to prove to everyone the baby is his if this is what it comes down to!

I don't know what's happened between you 2 in your relationship etc. . .could you fill me in/post a link as i don't want to comment on the rest without knowing the facts. X

tinkabells · May 12th, 2009, 15:30 PM

Me and him have been on and off for over a yr never properly together, but once i found out i was pregnant, i heard he was back with his ex who his already got a kid with, i asked him that when me and him were together were they, but he said they were on and off as well which i dont believe, i've since found out he was with her the whole time
He says he cant be involved with our baby because of his other kid etc, which i said thats fine if you can live with all your friends seeing your child grow up and not you, and he says it breaks his heart (whatever)
I have since stupidly slept with him, but his texted me a few times saying he misses me and wishes things werent different etc, i have always said i wouldnt wanna be with him full time because i didnt think i could trust him and boy was i right!!
Thats the story really lol xxx

third time · May 12th, 2009, 15:37 PM

Be strong and kick him to the kerb!!!!! If he wants to be involved with the baby then that's cool but other than that he sounds like a bit of a loser - sorry hun!!

Amy xx

misswren · May 12th, 2009, 15:50 PM

Babe, you are best off without, if he asks for a DNA test as my ex is doing to me, let him pay for it and then he can NEVER dispute it, then get rid. You have your baby to think of and you don't want any negative, selfish, immature idiocy influencing YOUR child. It is his loss. Sorry if that was a bit ranty ... I do think the mother of his child should know though - if you are in the same area and have kids similar age they could meet any time....you never never know.
You try and chill, rant here whenever you need and remember to keep your dignity and keep your chin up.

sweetcheeks85 · May 12th, 2009, 15:57 PM

Just wanted to give u big

Sounds like ure better off without him doll x x x

tinkabells · May 12th, 2009, 16:24 PM

Im not and never have been with him like in a proper relationship, his with her, i just dont no where this has all come from 2 weeks ago his trying to meet up with me and since then til now, his telling people he wants a dna test but he hasnt said anything to me at all!! xxx

tj1091 · May 12th, 2009, 17:08 PM

aaaww hun, I feel for you as I'm in a similar situation, not being believed and getting a DNA test after baby is born. If I was you, I would try to ignore his behaviour and just be polite. Don't sink to his level and argue with him or rant at him as he's not worth it and you don't need the stress.
He sounds like he is messing you around big time and you deserve better. Let him be a dad to the baby once he has been proved wrong but keep yourself well clear.

xxx

tinkabells · May 12th, 2009, 18:32 PM

Yeah i've always said to him i wouldnt stop him from seeing her, as long as it werent on the coke anymore, wow i paint such a lovely picture of him, what hell did i see in him!!

Im not even going to contact him i wont go down that route his done this so that i get back to him and rant etc so his gonna be telling everyone im going psycho on him etc
so as i wont be doing that he'll wonder whats going on! xxx

Cazza89 · May 12th, 2009, 18:39 PM

Ah, i see! Well, i don't want to sound harsh but i'm an honest person. . .so here goes!
He's a toss pot! Obviously not serious about you and is using you for his 'bit on the side'. He has no respect for you, that's obvious by the way he's lied to you and treated you.
You and your baby both deserve so much more.
If i were you, i'd want his current girlfriend to know the truth, and the way he's treated you. Why should you be made out to be the bad one and have to worry about the truth coming out etc. X

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Cazza89 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 836	I haven't been following what's going on so i'm a bit lost. My oh (we split a few weeks after i found out i was pregnant but we got back together 6 wks later) asked for a dna test too! I was fuming but willing to give him one as have nothing to hide. He has now said he doesn't want one now. His mum even asked him if i'd been with anyone else since meeting him (and i haven't). I'm willing to prove to everyone the baby is his if this is what it comes down to! I don't know what's happened between you 2 in your relationship etc. . .could you fill me in/post a link as i don't want to comment on the rest without knowing the facts. X

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May 12th, 2009, 15:30 PM	#3
tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	Me and him have been on and off for over a yr never properly together, but once i found out i was pregnant, i heard he was back with his ex who his already got a kid with, i asked him that when me and him were together were they, but he said they were on and off as well which i dont believe, i've since found out he was with her the whole time He says he cant be involved with our baby because of his other kid etc, which i said thats fine if you can live with all your friends seeing your child grow up and not you, and he says it breaks his heart (whatever) I have since stupidly slept with him, but his texted me a few times saying he misses me and wishes things werent different etc, i have always said i wouldnt wanna be with him full time because i didnt think i could trust him and boy was i right!! Thats the story really lol xxx

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third time Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Stockport, UK Posts: 1,420	Be strong and kick him to the kerb!!!!! If he wants to be involved with the baby then that's cool but other than that he sounds like a bit of a loser - sorry hun!! Amy xx

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misswren Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: NW England Posts: 625	Babe, you are best off without, if he asks for a DNA test as my ex is doing to me, let him pay for it and then he can NEVER dispute it, then get rid. You have your baby to think of and you don't want any negative, selfish, immature idiocy influencing YOUR child. It is his loss. Sorry if that was a bit ranty ... I do think the mother of his child should know though - if you are in the same area and have kids similar age they could meet any time....you never never know. You try and chill, rant here whenever you need and remember to keep your dignity and keep your chin up.

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sweetcheeks85 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 1,983	Just wanted to give u big Sounds like ure better off without him doll x x x

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tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	Im not and never have been with him like in a proper relationship, his with her, i just dont no where this has all come from 2 weeks ago his trying to meet up with me and since then til now, his telling people he wants a dna test but he hasnt said anything to me at all!! xxx

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tj1091 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK Posts: 142	aaaww hun, I feel for you as I'm in a similar situation, not being believed and getting a DNA test after baby is born. If I was you, I would try to ignore his behaviour and just be polite. Don't sink to his level and argue with him or rant at him as he's not worth it and you don't need the stress. He sounds like he is messing you around big time and you deserve better. Let him be a dad to the baby once he has been proved wrong but keep yourself well clear. xxx

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May 12th, 2009, 18:32 PM	#9
tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	Yeah i've always said to him i wouldnt stop him from seeing her, as long as it werent on the coke anymore, wow i paint such a lovely picture of him, what hell did i see in him!! Im not even going to contact him i wont go down that route his done this so that i get back to him and rant etc so his gonna be telling everyone im going psycho on him etc so as i wont be doing that he'll wonder whats going on! xxx

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May 12th, 2009, 18:39 PM	#10
Cazza89 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 836	Ah, i see! Well, i don't want to sound harsh but i'm an honest person. . .so here goes! He's a toss pot! Obviously not serious about you and is using you for his 'bit on the side'. He has no respect for you, that's obvious by the way he's lied to you and treated you. You and your baby both deserve so much more. If i were you, i'd want his current girlfriend to know the truth, and the way he's treated you. Why should you be made out to be the bad one and have to worry about the truth coming out etc. X

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