So DH and I had a bit of a disagreement a few weeks ago about godparents and I've not really dared broach the subject since.

In his family Godparents have always been relatives. He and his sister are the godparents to his older brothers nephew, etc etc.

In my family there have been 1 or 2 instances where a relative is a godparent but in most cases good friends have been chosen.

DH wants us to choose his sis and my bro.

I feel that bub is going to have his aunt and uncles no matter what and that i would rather choose a couple of extra people to look out for them. I would like to ask my best friend and would be very happy for his best friend to be Godfather. In many ways its a shame its the girl I feel strongly about if I had a male friend I could usurp my bro no problem but nevermind...
I did discuss compromise and choosing more distant relatives but there isn't really anybody on his side...

So what do you girls think family or friends....

Going to tackle the subject again after the weekend when my in-laws have left.

We are having both, you can have more than one male and female god parent, it tends to be two of each. We are having my two sisters and DH's best friend who is female and then my BIL and his brother. Most of our close friends are not religious or believe in christenings and other friends are DH work friends in the Army and things change quickly so may lose contact, otherwise we would go for friends more. Hope this helps, take care XX

Can you compromise? We've decided that I'll choose the Godmother and OH will choose the Godfather. That way, he can have family and you can have a friend.

Yeah I know you can have more than 1 of each. We just both feel that 1 of each has more meaning somehow, that maybe the people take it more seriously as they are not 1 of a crowd.... I have a really special relationship with my godmother and a similar although little less close attachment to my godfather and I really want my child to experience this.

Thats what I'd like to do its just that we both want to choose the Godmother!! he wants to ask his sister

we are haivng the same problem oh's mum wants us to chosse his sister but she is going to be a auntie anyway and i would like to pick close friends! But godknows!!!!

I kind of agree with you about family not needing to be godparents as they have a very special relationship with baby anyway. My friend asked her cheif bridesmaid and her hubby asked his bestman not sure if you are married but thought i would suggest it as it would link 2 of the best days of your life.

I have my aunty as my godmother and my dads friend as my godfather so the best of both really!!!

I think we have decided on my sister and his cousin who he's quite close to...at the end of the day its whos best for the job bringing your child up with christian beliefs/morals...

Im havin this fight atm, my OH dads greek and quite tradiontional and seems to think we shud only have family as godparents because he seems to think friends come and go. But i want my best friend to be god mother and its like talkin to a brick wall with him.
Ill just have to not tell him till the day

Good luck trying to sort things out
xxxx

I wanted my children to have a close relationship with their godparents which was going to be difficult as we live on an island and all family & many friends live in the UK.

So we decided that..
For my DD we had 2 girl godparents and 1 boy godparent
For my DS we had 2 boy godparents and 1 girl godparent

I cant give an explanation why? Just that, that was what we agreed.

My dh chose his best mate for both, and I chose my brother for my ds too. For the girls I had my oldest friend (nearly 30years now) for my dd and my 2 best friends here on the island (one for my ds and one for my dd). So a real mixed bag really.

I guess it depends on what being a godparent means to you. For me it I chose people who I want in my childs life FOREVER not just there for one day to have nice picis and have a party.