i cant beleive how much of a f*c*ing a hole my tw*t of a boyfriend realy is. im 17 and pregnant with his 2nd child but this one being my first. fair enough were tight for money and arnt really in that great time nd place for a child. we wer to have an abortion but thankfully i came to my scenses and realized it wasnt what i wanted. he still goes on about the fact wen we argue that it would have been better to get rid of it and that he doesnt want it. hes said hes going to support me and will obviously love it wen it arrives. hes not coming to our second scan now because he has to work and says he cant afford to take the time off but he doesnt evan seem bothered that hes missin it. how selfish iv been carrying this child for over 5 motnhs now and have a bond and physical attatchemnt to it and yet can still say hed prefer it dead how dare he i mean i shouldnt surely be hearing this from the person thats supposed to love me. i cant muster my words to say how uppset and angry im feeling right now, do i really want to carry on a relasionship with someone as selfish as this who cant evan take 3 hours from work just to come to something thats so speacial to me and should be important to him also!

big i dont really know what to say but try to calm down a little.i bet your other half will regret not being at the scan when you get to see your beautiful baby

Hey hun if you want to pm me sometime for a chat feel free. Im 21 and had been in a long term relationship. My partner has left me suddenly though without support (for time being anyways).It isnt his first child either. So if you need talk then feel free xx

i think i pmd u atill kinda new to this dnt kno if it worked

I had a similar reaction from my OH.. I called his bluff when he told me to leave or abort.. I said I would abort at first but after finding out I was at least 14 weeks already gone.. I chose to be prepared to be a single mum.
I think he was a bit shocked that I had chose a baby over him.. and I have stayed put. We are trying to work things out.. but the hurtful words he said to me keep going round in my head. I think it was the initiall shock that knocked him sideways but I cant forget them and showed me a side of his character I did not like one bit.
He is now coming round to the idea and lets face it- what choice has he got..

Thing is.. my baby is a little gft cos 5 years ago I was told I wouldnt ever be a mum naturally or without extensive medical intervention.. so the last 4 years we used no contraception whatsoever! Then its happens! And I thought he would understand how special it was but no.. men are Men..
he came to the first scan I booked privately last week. They dated it for me. He was MR HARD FACE in the corner of the room.. but I swear I sore him wipe away a tear.. he denies it. SOD..
I just hope his heart melts the ice surrounding it when he sees his baby.
He isnt treating me any different.. I wanna be wrapped up in cotton wool.. but he couldnt give a sh1te about me or what I am doing/eating/ anything to be quite honest. It makes me wonder whether I am doing the right thing.. then I see my scan pics again.. of course I am.
I have more important things to worry about now instead of him.
Just goes to show.. you can be with someone 6 years and theyre still ar$eholes about it if it wernt planned!!!

omg just goes to show how selfish most people can be im right there with u hun

Hope he comes around hon!

hopefully he comes to his senses and decides to get over those thoughts and just be the loving, supportive person you need right now!!

My OH hasn't come to any doctor's appointments. He was a bit upset he missed the ultrasound, but not that much.. and he doesn't care about names or anything, but he is supporting me 100% and we're still together.. they can be funny creatures at times I think. We ended up paying for a 4D ultrasound and he had a great time though, and the pictures are up in his room. Just took him longer to get used to the idea/comfortable with things than it did for me I think! Hopefully that's the case with yours