Feel so down my boss has made me feel like st :( - Page 2

divagee · Feb 25th, 2009, 13:45 PM

Thanks girls for your kind words

i'm dreading tomorrow, i hate the way he's making me feel at work

2nd time mum · Feb 25th, 2009, 13:52 PM

Employers aren't allowed to treat you any different because you are pregnant. What difference to your job does it make what size you are?! It is amazing the amount of employers who change their attitude towards pregnant women even in this day and age. Keep a diary of events, just in case things turn serious regarding your maternity entitlements, as your pregnancy progresses. Good luck and don't let him stress you out, he's not worth it xx

massacubano · Feb 25th, 2009, 13:57 PM

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Originally Posted by divagee

Thanks girls for your kind words

i'm dreading tomorrow, i hate the way he's making me feel at work

I hope things work out for you hun... This is so very wrong! makes me mad

Kapow · Feb 25th, 2009, 16:08 PM

I'm not sure what you should do next but i think keeping a diary of these things would be a good start. At least if it does get worse you could tell him you've kept a log and will be seeking advise from solicitor/citizens advise, maybe that'd be the wake up call he needs to stop being such a pigheaded caveman.

Chin up,
xxx

Angela855 · Feb 25th, 2009, 17:16 PM

Hey huni. When I got my bounty pack from the midwife it contained a useful leaflet from the Department for Business Enterprise & Regulatory Reform on Pregnancy & Work. It contains a a section to give to your employer on the rights of both pregnant employees and their employers and their responsibilities towards each other. I would try and get your hands on this and hand it over. If you don't feel comfortable you could always say that your midwife asked you to hand it over.

Like Joeyjo has said, this will also act as evidence that your employee was aware of your rights and also backs up that there is no justification for the crap way he is treating you.

Hope he gets his act together soon huni.

Angela x x x

kbaker09 · Feb 26th, 2009, 04:30 AM

Hi there,

Just wanted to say that your boss is a complete arse for treating you like that. But unfortunately, some male bosses are just like that. I have one who tried to be a smart arse with me. Until I started dropping in conversations that I know some employment law solicitors who are good friends etc etc. I've also mentioned to him that 'by law' I am owed certain things like maternity pay, holidays etc etc. He will think twice before saying anything now. Or else, I will take great pleasure in suing him. I'm hormonal and ratty and just need an excuse to take it out on someone and he seems like the ideal candidate! Sorry for the rant but I hate it when bosses do this.

grrrr...

Hope today has gone well for you.

dizzy duck · Feb 26th, 2009, 05:38 AM

Aww hun, Im so sorry he is being like this with you but he can't get away will it. Keep a log on what goes on and if things get worse go to CAB to get help and advice, he needs to know he can't get away with it and you aren't going to roll over and take it. I really hope today goes okay. Take care

XX

angelstardust · Feb 26th, 2009, 06:32 AM

Firstly, note everything he has said and when he has said it down in a diary.

Then call ACAS who can help give you

http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1461

I had this with DS2, and I went to speak to a lawyer. Hope it gets better for you hun.

Feb 25th, 2009, 13:45 PM	#11
divagee Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wolverhampton Posts: 495	Thanks girls for your kind words i'm dreading tomorrow, i hate the way he's making me feel at work

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2nd time mum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Dundee Posts: 1,368	Employers aren't allowed to treat you any different because you are pregnant. What difference to your job does it make what size you are?! It is amazing the amount of employers who change their attitude towards pregnant women even in this day and age. Keep a diary of events, just in case things turn serious regarding your maternity entitlements, as your pregnancy progresses. Good luck and don't let him stress you out, he's not worth it xx

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Kapow Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 738	I'm not sure what you should do next but i think keeping a diary of these things would be a good start. At least if it does get worse you could tell him you've kept a log and will be seeking advise from solicitor/citizens advise, maybe that'd be the wake up call he needs to stop being such a pigheaded caveman. Chin up, xxx

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Feb 25th, 2009, 17:16 PM	#15
Angela855 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 134	Hey huni. When I got my bounty pack from the midwife it contained a useful leaflet from the Department for Business Enterprise & Regulatory Reform on Pregnancy & Work. It contains a a section to give to your employer on the rights of both pregnant employees and their employers and their responsibilities towards each other. I would try and get your hands on this and hand it over. If you don't feel comfortable you could always say that your midwife asked you to hand it over. Like Joeyjo has said, this will also act as evidence that your employee was aware of your rights and also backs up that there is no justification for the crap way he is treating you. Hope he gets his act together soon huni. Angela x x x

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Feb 26th, 2009, 04:30 AM	#16
kbaker09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: South Yorkshire, England Posts: 317	Hi there, Just wanted to say that your boss is a complete arse for treating you like that. But unfortunately, some male bosses are just like that. I have one who tried to be a smart arse with me. Until I started dropping in conversations that I know some employment law solicitors who are good friends etc etc. I've also mentioned to him that 'by law' I am owed certain things like maternity pay, holidays etc etc. He will think twice before saying anything now. Or else, I will take great pleasure in suing him. I'm hormonal and ratty and just need an excuse to take it out on someone and he seems like the ideal candidate! Sorry for the rant but I hate it when bosses do this. grrrr... Hope today has gone well for you.

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Feb 26th, 2009, 05:38 AM	#17
dizzy duck Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 5,199	Aww hun, Im so sorry he is being like this with you but he can't get away will it. Keep a log on what goes on and if things get worse go to CAB to get help and advice, he needs to know he can't get away with it and you aren't going to roll over and take it. I really hope today goes okay. Take care XX

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Feb 26th, 2009, 06:32 AM	#18
angelstardust Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland Posts: 2,318	Firstly, note everything he has said and when he has said it down in a diary. Then call ACAS who can help give you http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1461 I had this with DS2, and I went to speak to a lawyer. Hope it gets better for you hun.

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