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May 6th, 2008, 09:48 AM
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#51 | | pregnant Active BnB member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: liverpool
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | scan at half past... leaving in a bit... should be fun OH is coming with me, update when i get back!!! | | | | Status: Offline
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May 7th, 2008, 05:04 AM
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#52 | | pregnant Active BnB member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: liverpool
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Had my scan.
well, I had my scan... baby's dad came too.
talk about the scan first, It was shite the man was a pain in the arse an absolute argumentative git!!!
My appointment was 11:30 am so i started drinking my fluids (1 litre of water) at bout quarter past ten... so we gets there just before half past and we had to wait until 12:10 by then i was busting for the loo  but I didn't have a cob on over that cause you expect things like scans to over-run etc...
so anyway the couple before us come out, rough as toast wouldn't say that they was proper scum bags just looked a bit scruffy. anyway they got their report brought out to them and off they went at 11:50am... the sonographer then stood for 10-20 mins (FF sake) jangling about the previous patient nothing medical just personal snipes at them and the way they was dressed VERY PROFESSIONAL, if i'd of known he was going to be scanning me I would turned round an said something in relation to him getting on with his character assasinations after my scan as i was ready to pee myself.
so we gets in there and he has a look at bambino, he wasokay at first then he said
"you haven't drank enough fluids, how much did you drink?"
"just under a litre" I replied
"when 20 minutes ago?" he was getting arsey then
"no at quarter past ten" i replied
"yes 30 minutes ago you know you really should read..." He started
"whoaaaa whoaaa whoaaaaa, 30 minutes ago is 20 to 12, I drank my fluids at quarter past 10 and considering it is now 10 past 12 in my mind that is 1 hour 55 minutes ago, and it would of been a lot less if you wasn't standing round gossiping about the patients in that professional manner now get on with the job you're paid for and scan my baby please" I had to interupt my piss was boiling over how frigging dare he talk to me like that when the soft git cant tell the fucking time 
he soon changed his tune, he could check everything apart from the umblical cord and the sex (we already knew the sex from previous 3/4d scan... didnt tell him that though) so my little girl was fuming too it would seem she wasnt letting him see her umbilical cord or lady bits she had her knees up to her chest and her little ankles crossed concealing all my arsey (sonographer) wanted to see.  THATS MY GIRL!!! so the sonographer tilts the bed so my head is below my feet so to speak on an angle in a bit to get little miss stubborn to shift... nope never moved a muscle then i was tilted feet below my head still nothing... muhahahahahahaaaaaa
then he started pressing down really hard on my stomache with the scanning thingy so hard it hurt so I had to tell him to lay off if it was hurting me surely it was hurting her!!!!
he only got a little bit of the cord... enough to say it appeared to be fine.
heres the hysterical bit,
"would you like your partener to step outside while we have a chat"
WTF???
"no if its to do with the baby i want him here... "
"fine then, see the thing is your EDD is 5th of September so that means you should be 22 weeks... your baby is ahead of dates (sympathetic look to baby's dad)"
"by a week or two i presume?" i said that beacause since the booking in scan all the scans ive had she's been a week or just under two ahead of dates
"oh so your aware the dates dont corrolate" was he thinking i had fitted my OH up as the father of my baby????
"yes and that EDD was given to us by a sonographer like yourself, I have no idea on the date of the last day of my period as i didnt have one for near on 2yrs due to using the implanon implant, only when I had it removed I fell pregnant imediately with no period between extraction and pregnancy... so could you please explain what you was attempting to imply as I know the paternity of my unborn child without a shadow of a doubt???"
he made pathetic apologies and I just said
"is there anything else or am I free to go and wait in the waiting room while you write up your report?"
so off we went into the waiting room, baby's dad said
"I thought you was going to lamp him or something then"
"oh you can wind your neck in and all" wasn't in any mood for OH and his ability to state the obvious
so we waited for 10 minutes, in that 10 minutes there was bedlam receptionists arguing with each other and the sonographers regarding patients due in at 1pm not being able to be scanned (booking in scans) as the relevent paper work had not been done. so the sonographer we had got embroiled in it all.
by then i was ready to blow a frigging fuse
so i went over to where the slanging match was taking place and said
"could i have my notes and pictures please as I'm not intrested in watching you lot tear strips off each other and blaming whoever over whatever..."
so the sonographer says dissintrested oh
"i left your notes on the desk..."
"WELL GO AND GET THEM THEN" i was angry now
so he brought them over and made apologies baby's dad says
"can we get a couple more pics" as we wasnt together he wanted his own to show to his mum (thats another arguement lol)
"no you both said you only wanted one set"
load of shit but I was already out of the door, baby's dad followed me.
I went to the PALS desk in the main entrance to the hospital and got the address and phone number to make a complaint... normally i wouldnt but friggging hell that was a nightmare.
soooooo on to baby's dad.
cut a very long and tedious story short I finished things quite simply because all we did was argue, he allowed his mum to get away with interfering and passing comment waaaaaaaaaay to long to a point where she saw no problem with it basically I expected him to grow up a touch when we found out i was pregnant fair enough it was a suprise but for gods sake he is 30 years of age... did he no.
Ive been called everything since ending it hes gone through cycles of being nasty on the phone being nice apologising for his behaviour etc... think its dawned on him im serious about it. so much so I tried to discuss with him when we got back to mine arrangements for upcoming appointments, the birth and access arrangements for him to be in his daughters life (it was killing me but it needed saying). all he kept saying was i cant believe your doing this to our family our life and our plans... I just hit back with well if you thought about your family your life and your dreams while you was lying through your teeth to me staying out till all hours without a by or leave and allowing your mother to act like a fucking tyrant we wouldnt be here would we!!!
anyway things cooled down a bit i'd been crying he'd been crying then we heard my brother coming down the street on his motorbike, babys dad said im not having this conversation around your brothers (understandbly so) so we went for something to eat while we talked like adults (shocking never thought he had it in him) about our little girls future. my heart nearly tore in two when he said
"what about when i get a new girlfriend where would we stand in that situation or if you got a new fella... i dont want you introducing my daughter to all kinds of men Im her dad"
i bit back the tears and said
"it works both ways, if you meet someone bully for you but my daughter is not being introduced until you are settled with whoever she may be. I'm not interested at the moment in dating etc as I'm carrying a baby im more concerned over the logistics of me going to university etc rather than getting my end away so you have no imediate worries regarding me dating not that it has anything to do with you"
it carried on like that i couldnt eat my meal, and i felt like i was in a dream world i was just watching the conversation it wasnt really me.
so he took me home... the minute we pulled up outside mine i flew out the car and into my house and sat behind the door sobbing... thank god nobody was in. i then got a text from him saying
Dont you say goodbye now your not with me?
i didnt answer it and he rang me 5 mins later i couldnt answer it it was too hard, so eventually he came to my house cause i wasnt answering the phone, he came in the side door, and found my in a heap by my front door sobbing my heart out.
after what seemed like forever of him talking to me about not wantng to end things etc I told him he'd best leave for work as he was going to be late.
I was dying to just pull him to me and get back with him and PRETEND everythings fine but thats all it would be cause eventually things would hit the fan. I dont want my little girl growing up in a war zone like i did.
I would love to give things another go so that I wont think in years to come maybe if i'd tried
but then if we try again wont i be setting myself up for a fall....
he's been texting me while he was in work last night, apologising for everything somehow i dont think its enough...
he's told me he's coming to my house today to have a talk with me, I'm strong but im not that strong dont know if i can handle this
needless to say that explains why im awake at this ungodly hour this and frigging CRAMP in my calf muscle.
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May 7th, 2008, 07:45 AM
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#53 | | Proud Teen Mummy Chat happy BnB member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Liverpool
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I'm Currently Feeling: | glad everything is good with you + baby but jesus vicki you had me in bits cryin then! I'm sorry for how things worked out with your ex.. i just hope you don't regret things now that there done.
hold your head up vicki you got all us girls on here if you ever need to talk/vent what ever! *HUGS*
(by the way i would have slapped that sonographer doctor if i was you haha)
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May 7th, 2008, 09:37 AM
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#54 | | pregnant Active BnB member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: liverpool
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Quote:
Originally Posted by Rachel16+Bump  glad everything is good with you + baby but jesus vicki you had me in bits cryin then! I'm sorry for how things worked out with your ex.. i just hope you don't regret things now that there done.
hold your head up vicki you got all us girls on here if you ever need to talk/vent what ever! *HUGS*
(by the way i would have slapped that sonographer doctor if i was you haha)
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May 7th, 2008, 09:41 AM
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#55 | | 2losses pregnant BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: milton keynes
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | that doc sounded like a right twat!! | | | | Status: Offline
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May 7th, 2008, 09:48 AM
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#56 | | pregnant Active BnB member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: liverpool
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Originally Posted by Uvlollypop that doc sounded like a right twat!! | he was, Im having a form sent out to fill ina complaint cos that was terrible. | | | | Status: Offline
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May 7th, 2008, 09:52 AM
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#57 | | 2losses pregnant BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: milton keynes
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May 7th, 2008, 09:53 AM
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#58 | | pregnant Active BnB member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: liverpool
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Originally Posted by Uvlollypop good i would aswell | haha never a normal day unless im kicking up over something. | | | | Status: Offline
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May 7th, 2008, 21:36 PM
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#59 | | pregnant Active BnB member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: liverpool
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I'm Currently Feeling: | so confused... I haven't a clue what is going on with me and OH.
he came around today to talk things through, but we both acted like nothing was a miss, he took me to the asda and to the shops by mine, 
we never spoke about plans for the baby in relation to us being split up. it was oddly normal idle chit chat bout this n that nothing was mentioned about the fact we wasn't together anymore. on my part I felt like if i said anything my chin would go and the tears would follow
so it was very odd, to say the least i started tea he stayed. like we was both on auto pilot.
so when he left for work he said goodbye, and that he'll text me when he gets there... normal, he then leaned in for a kiss and i turned away from him. he just walked away,got in the car and drove off, leaving me feeling, well god knows just didnt know how to feel. should i have kissed him back? i felt like i should of.
so i text him saying i don't know what is happening between us and i don't know what im expected to do or think anymore.
long and short of it is that he's asked to see me tomorrow and to see if we can sort things out between us so we both know where we stand as far as being together or not goes he's made it clear he wants to be with me whereas me im not too sure.
 so frigging confused, i do love him but i seriously have doubts that we will be able to get through all this...
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May 8th, 2008, 21:12 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | *HUGS* soz to hear your havin it rough vicki x
just make sure your really 100% sure in your heart + mind about what you really want before you make any permanant decisions with him. I know you will make the right decision, what ever it is you know it will be the right one xxx | | | | Status: Offline
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