I am so fed and feeling so low. Our baby was planned but OH did'nt expect pregnancy to happen so soon. He seems so unexcited/interested in our baby. He is not really an emotional bloke but some times his lack of interest really hurts me. The more I think about the I am starting to resent him. I don't know what to do because he will just say I am just being hormonal if I try and talk to him.

Aww hun. I think one thing us women have to remember is that we connect with these little babies right from the start and men on the other hand, take a little longer to come to terms with it all. My DH wasn't very interested until we had our ultrasound and actually heard the heartbeat. Now he has done a complete turnaround and talks to the baby every night and everything. Your OH should come around eventually. Men are confusing sometimes though.

With my first baby... my husband was very cautious about getting excited... I drove to his work to tell him and he said... "Lets not get too excited until we see what the Dr. says." and walked away... I was devastated... but after the ultra sounds.. especially the 20 week... he started to get excited to... now he is an amazing dad .. I think that men get a little nervous... life is about to change for them... so give him some slack.. and try not to take it personally... I know it can be hard.. the day that baby comes.. it will melt his heart for sure... good luck to you...

With mine and My Dh first child Alyssa (I had Charity before I met him) he was super excited. Actually took the pregnancy test with him to work and told everyone "look what I did"

Now with this one, which was unplanned, he is just kinda he-haw about it. When I told him I was spotting this morning he made the remarks "well glad we didn't plan it because it would hurt more" and "well make sure to check the toliet when you get up" . I think he in a way wants me to miscarry the pregnancy. Men can be horrible for support or have conflicted feelings about the whole thing. Omg then last night, all I said was that my back was hurting... He goes "Geez you act like your the only pregnant women in the whole world" and "well you've been through this before" well first off I responded That I AM the only pregnant women in his world. They just don't quite get it.

He's lucky I love him and know in ways he means well... I have some pretty heavy frying pans.

My husband is normally very supportive and caring, but I do admitt it. There are times when I'm feeling the worse in the day and whine more than ever, and he will let me know what he really thinks about how I'm behaving.

But I always shut up, pinch my finger to forcefully shed a tear and go to bed, and he comes running after me that he didnt mean it!

Next time he does that, maybe I will throw the heavy frying pan idea at him! Literally...

when i was preg with my son it felt like oh was beeing really unsupportive but when i started showing and he could feel bubs move he total changed and couldnt do anof for me and he is the same this time it is like we are not really preg to them untill we are wobbling lol

My own was so surprised because it was unplanned that he was freaking out for about two days and I was getting real scared, but now he is ok with it and he is completely fine. I think they just want to scare us and then when they see us freaking out about THEM freaking out then they get with the programme

My fiance was surprised but also extremely cautious when I showed him the 4 ++ HPTs I'd taken! Like, saying, let's see what happens sort of thing... as though I was maybe not pregnant at all.

Since then he's - well, not really treated me in the way I assumed he would treat me. Like, I'm sure if I'd asked before I was pregnant, would he look after me and do the shopping and carry heavy stuff, he'd say yes of course... now he's saying he'll do it when I'm big and *really* pregnant! So I'm left to carry heavy bags with bottles of lemonade and tins and stuff back from the shop!! I mean, I'm not disabled or anything and I am capable but it's the principle!

The one thing was - right after we left the hospital after the 12 week scan, he said 'we have to do more housework now' and when we got home he did some cleaning (while I had a lie down!) I think he didn't believe I was carrying a child until he saw it.

(Neither did I but I tried to keep the attitude of pregnant until proven otherwise)

I'm sure your OH will feel differently when he sees it and feels it move. I'm sorry you're upset though, I do understand that.