Prenatal Paternity Test

expmom · Jan 15th, 2009, 17:29 PM

Hi everyone,
I've only just found out recently that I'm pregnant and I'm worried about starting my pregnancy off with doubts of who the father of my child is. After the shock settled to excitement/anxiety I realized I really do want to have the father there to experience the first few month of his child's life. I'll save you all the details but the fact is I want to have a prenatal paternity test done and I don't have a lot of knowledge on the subject. I've been trying to look online but I'm only getting frustrated and confused and a little worried with what I have been reading about CVS and Amnio testing.
I would really appreciate any information or personal stories anyone has on the topic. Thanks for your help!!!

passengerrach · Jan 15th, 2009, 17:34 PM

why dont u just have a test ready 4 when the baby is born it would be less invasive

Loo · Jan 15th, 2009, 17:39 PM

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I don't have any personal experience to share but basically the usual option is a post natal test. You can use cheek swabs or blood tests and they compare your DNA, the babies and the possible dad(s).

If you wanted it antenatally, the only way to get DNA is by an invasive procedure to get cells from the pregnancy (ie CVS or amnio). Which are the tests which are used to check the babies DNA when looking for things like Downs syndrome if the pregnancy is high risk.

However these are not totally without risk. The CVS has a 2% miscarriage rate (and amnio 1%).

Is it crucial you know before the delivery?

tmr1234 · Jan 16th, 2009, 01:55 AM

i would wait untill the baby is born and have a dna test then as if u go having an Amnio test it can lead to m/c congrats and i hope u sort things out

dizzy duck · Jan 16th, 2009, 10:01 AM

I think the best option is waiting till after the baby is born at least there is no risks then, take care

XX

Pippin · Jan 16th, 2009, 10:36 AM

I agree with the ladies above, find out how quickly it can be done after the birth. You may only need to wait a few months. Good luck. x

JLS · Jan 16th, 2009, 12:41 PM

i can understand that not knowing who the father is would be quite frustrating for you but i've heard that these tests can be very harmful and even cause m/c so if you can, maybe best to wait. speak to ur doc or midwife tho, they should be able to offer some guidance!

xx

expmom · Jan 16th, 2009, 14:47 PM

Thanks for all your suggestions

Kind of confirmed my suspicions about this testing. I don't want to take any chances and it sounds like its not really worth it.

Ann13 · Jan 26th, 2009, 11:28 AM

Actually, I had a similar experience only in my case, my boyfriend actually demanded that I have the test done (i know, nice guy right?). I was young and naive and didnt realize I had a say in the matter until I realized what it was he was asking me to do. I wasn't ready to put my baby at risk for his stupid doubts so I went on online and found a Laboratory by searching on Google that can do the same Prenatal Testing but they only ask for a blood sample from the mother. It's all done over the phone and through the mail so there were no specialist's appointments and it cost a lot less. You can even send in toothbrush or hair samples for testing and no one will be the wiser. I would suggest at least checking it out, it definitely helped in my case.
Best of luck and it may feel like it, but know you're not alone.

Cazza89 · Jan 26th, 2009, 16:53 PM

I had a cvs, not for the same matter, but to find out what was wrong with my baby. She had edwards. I didn't misscarry but had to make a decision on ending my pregnancy. It was uncomfortable, but not painful. X

Jan 15th, 2009, 17:29 PM	#1
expmom Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 3	Prenatal Paternity Test Hi everyone, I've only just found out recently that I'm pregnant and I'm worried about starting my pregnancy off with doubts of who the father of my child is. After the shock settled to excitement/anxiety I realized I really do want to have the father there to experience the first few month of his child's life. I'll save you all the details but the fact is I want to have a prenatal paternity test done and I don't have a lot of knowledge on the subject. I've been trying to look online but I'm only getting frustrated and confused and a little worried with what I have been reading about CVS and Amnio testing. I would really appreciate any information or personal stories anyone has on the topic. Thanks for your help!!!
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Jan 15th, 2009, 17:34 PM	#2
passengerrach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: stevenage Posts: 2,939	why dont u just have a test ready 4 when the baby is born it would be less invasive

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Jan 15th, 2009, 17:39 PM	#3
Loo Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: UK Posts: 736	Congratulations on your pregnancy. I don't have any personal experience to share but basically the usual option is a post natal test. You can use cheek swabs or blood tests and they compare your DNA, the babies and the possible dad(s). If you wanted it antenatally, the only way to get DNA is by an invasive procedure to get cells from the pregnancy (ie CVS or amnio). Which are the tests which are used to check the babies DNA when looking for things like Downs syndrome if the pregnancy is high risk. However these are not totally without risk. The CVS has a 2% miscarriage rate (and amnio 1%). Is it crucial you know before the delivery?

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Jan 16th, 2009, 01:55 AM	#4
tmr1234 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Chester Posts: 4,303	i would wait untill the baby is born and have a dna test then as if u go having an Amnio test it can lead to m/c congrats and i hope u sort things out

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Jan 16th, 2009, 10:01 AM	#5
dizzy duck Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 5,199	I think the best option is waiting till after the baby is born at least there is no risks then, take care XX

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Jan 16th, 2009, 10:36 AM	#6
Pippin Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: London Posts: 7,950	I agree with the ladies above, find out how quickly it can be done after the birth. You may only need to wait a few months. Good luck. x

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Jan 16th, 2009, 12:41 PM	#7
JLS Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: UK Posts: 237	i can understand that not knowing who the father is would be quite frustrating for you but i've heard that these tests can be very harmful and even cause m/c so if you can, maybe best to wait. speak to ur doc or midwife tho, they should be able to offer some guidance! xx

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Jan 16th, 2009, 14:47 PM	#8
expmom Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 3	Thanks for all your suggestions Kind of confirmed my suspicions about this testing. I don't want to take any chances and it sounds like its not really worth it.
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Jan 26th, 2009, 11:28 AM	#9
Ann13 Mum (Mom) New BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 5	Actually, I had a similar experience only in my case, my boyfriend actually demanded that I have the test done (i know, nice guy right?). I was young and naive and didnt realize I had a say in the matter until I realized what it was he was asking me to do. I wasn't ready to put my baby at risk for his stupid doubts so I went on online and found a Laboratory by searching on Google that can do the same Prenatal Testing but they only ask for a blood sample from the mother. It's all done over the phone and through the mail so there were no specialist's appointments and it cost a lot less. You can even send in toothbrush or hair samples for testing and no one will be the wiser. I would suggest at least checking it out, it definitely helped in my case. Best of luck and it may feel like it, but know you're not alone.

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Jan 26th, 2009, 16:53 PM	#10
Cazza89 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 836	I had a cvs, not for the same matter, but to find out what was wrong with my baby. She had edwards. I didn't misscarry but had to make a decision on ending my pregnancy. It was uncomfortable, but not painful. X

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