OH is NOT being supportive!!

Katia-xO · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:23 AM

I sort of understand why but he is getting on my last nerve!! I could actually strangle him.

We had a bfp last month which ended in mc on xmas day.. Natural mc and levels went back to normal by the 28th! And also an empty uterus on a follow up scan to make sure i'd passed it etc.

Now we've got another bfp without having a months break which is a LOT stronger than last months, i'm a day further than the mc etc and i'm scared but i've got hopes for this one to be the one we take home! He on the other hand is CONVINCED that it's just tissue from the last one that's growing and making tests positive!!

Not being funny but surely they'd have stayed positive afterwards then?!

Arghhhhh I dislike him so much right now

End rant!

RoseArcana · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:28 AM

It is hard for both of you hun so try not to take it personally. Maybe he doesn't want to get his hopes up in case something happens again? PMA for you

xx

Katia-xO · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:31 AM

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Originally Posted by RoseArcana

It is hard for both of you hun so try not to take it personally. Maybe he doesn't want to get his hopes up in case something happens again? PMA for you

xx

I know but surely he shouldn't be saying all the things it could be when I'm supposed to be relaxing until I can find out more.. He's pressuring me to go for a scan tomorrow (5w6d) but we wouldn't see anything much so I don't want to yet!!

he's not even coming anyway due to work not letting him have it off. I'm fed up!

Thank you

xx

RoseArcana · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:34 AM

He's probably just scared. I'd wait a couple more weeks if you can to get a scan as you won't see much at this stage. X

Katia-xO · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by RoseArcana

He's probably just scared. I'd wait a couple more weeks if you can to get a scan as you won't see much at this stage. X

He genuinely thinks it's something horrible and i'm going to die from an ectopic or something!

He's just rang me from work because I text sayin i'd go but only to humour him and he said he needs me to go for his peace of mind.. But surely it's going to worry ME more if I don't see anything?

I can't win

xx

cloud9 · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:42 AM

Sorry he's not being supportive

it sounds like he is saying those things to protect you both from disappointment again should it end in the same way. You are doing the right thing by keeping calm and waiting for a scan 7-8 weeks if you can. We've had 2 losses and it took a while for my husband to relax and realise it was happening again. It had been 15 months since our last loss and conceiving again so I can imagine both your feelings are still raw since it was only 1 month ago.
Good luck I hope things work out for you! Stay positive!

Ethereal · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:47 AM

My OH is not being very supportive as he is waiting until scan, it's not sank in for him yet, he knows I have history of MCs too so he is being cautious, you OH is probably saying those things to prevent himself from disappointment, I doubt it's personal, he's probably just scared and preparing for the worst. Keep your chin up and try talking to him about how you're feeling and ask him to keep his mouth shut!! xx

Katia-xO · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by cloud9

Sorry he's not being supportive

it sounds like he is saying those things to protect you both from disappointment again should it end in the same way. You are doing the right thing by keeping calm and waiting for a scan 7-8 weeks if you can. We've had 2 losses and it took a while for my husband to relax and realise it was happening again. It had been 15 months since our last loss and conceiving again so I can imagine both your feelings are still raw since it was only 1 month ago.
Good luck I hope things work out for you! Stay positive!

He's adamant if I wait another couple of weeks it'll be too late and I'll be seriously ill! I'm going to strangle him at some point ladies!

I know why he's being like this but I hate it, especially when I'm trying to stay calm. Awh, I hope you have a h&h 9 months! Have you had an early scan with yours?

Thank you for replying! x

Katia-xO · Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Ethereal

My OH is not being very supportive as he is waiting until scan, it's not sank in for him yet, he knows I have history of MCs too so he is being cautious, you OH is probably saying those things to prevent himself from disappointment, I doubt it's personal, he's probably just scared and preparing for the worst. Keep your chin up and try talking to him about how you're feeling and ask him to keep his mouth shut!! xx

Thank you, I know why he's doing it and I understand as I'm wary too especially so soon after the last cycle going horribly wrong

. Sorry your OH is being the same.

Good luck! xx

Fuze · Feb 2nd, 2012, 07:07 AM

I see your from Manchester! Me too! We are not too far apart on dates either. I had an early scan at 5 weeks because of tummy pain and all we saw was the sac and yolk sac. It was slightly reassuring but now they term it a 'pregnancy of unknown viability' because they have not seen any heart beat or foetal pole yet. So I have another scan on monday when I will be 7+1 I think. My OH is not willing to discuss things further until we know the 'viability' he is just frightened of getting his hopes up I think, the same as me. But it is difficult for us ladies because we are the ones having the symptoms and the one carrying the little one! Big hugs to you and happy and healthy 9 months. X

Feb 2nd, 2012, 06:23 AM	#1
Katia-xO Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Greater Manchester Posts: 563	OH is NOT being supportive!! I sort of understand why but he is getting on my last nerve!! I could actually strangle him. We had a bfp last month which ended in mc on xmas day.. Natural mc and levels went back to normal by the 28th! And also an empty uterus on a follow up scan to make sure i'd passed it etc. Now we've got another bfp without having a months break which is a LOT stronger than last months, i'm a day further than the mc etc and i'm scared but i've got hopes for this one to be the one we take home! He on the other hand is CONVINCED that it's just tissue from the last one that's growing and making tests positive!! Not being funny but surely they'd have stayed positive afterwards then?! Arghhhhh I dislike him so much right now End rant!

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RoseArcana Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 2,889	It is hard for both of you hun so try not to take it personally. Maybe he doesn't want to get his hopes up in case something happens again? PMA for you xx

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RoseArcana Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 2,889	He's probably just scared. I'd wait a couple more weeks if you can to get a scan as you won't see much at this stage. X

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cloud9 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,006	Sorry he's not being supportive it sounds like he is saying those things to protect you both from disappointment again should it end in the same way. You are doing the right thing by keeping calm and waiting for a scan 7-8 weeks if you can. We've had 2 losses and it took a while for my husband to relax and realise it was happening again. It had been 15 months since our last loss and conceiving again so I can imagine both your feelings are still raw since it was only 1 month ago. Good luck I hope things work out for you! Stay positive!

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Ethereal Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Derby, United Kingdom Posts: 292	My OH is not being very supportive as he is waiting until scan, it's not sank in for him yet, he knows I have history of MCs too so he is being cautious, you OH is probably saying those things to prevent himself from disappointment, I doubt it's personal, he's probably just scared and preparing for the worst. Keep your chin up and try talking to him about how you're feeling and ask him to keep his mouth shut!! xx

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Feb 2nd, 2012, 07:07 AM	#10
Fuze Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 27	I see your from Manchester! Me too! We are not too far apart on dates either. I had an early scan at 5 weeks because of tummy pain and all we saw was the sac and yolk sac. It was slightly reassuring but now they term it a 'pregnancy of unknown viability' because they have not seen any heart beat or foetal pole yet. So I have another scan on monday when I will be 7+1 I think. My OH is not willing to discuss things further until we know the 'viability' he is just frightened of getting his hopes up I think, the same as me. But it is difficult for us ladies because we are the ones having the symptoms and the one carrying the little one! Big hugs to you and happy and healthy 9 months. X

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