Hi everyone,

I'm 10 weeks and 3 days. I feel like I should be so happy and wanting to spend time with my partner but I don't want him near me at the moment. I have been the main breadwinner since we got together a few years back. He was in college. He finished over 2 years ago but still has not secured full time employment due to the recesion and Ill have to say his inexperience and laid back approach in the first while. I now will be on leave in a few months and will not get paid from my job. I told him the other day that I was not going to return to work to pay for childcare and miss out on my child's first year. I said that it was his turn to take the responsibility of paying the mortgage and stepping up. I realise it 's difficult with the work situation but I'm just over it all now and need him to tell me it will be ok. I suppose I have seen him try in the past and get on well in the job selection process but he never seems to be able to clinch the deal or secure the job. I need proper reassurance now and not pie in the sky solutions. Help! I'm pissed off. I'm beginning to think that I'm actually losing respect and falling out of love with him. I hope my outlook changes as I don't want us to end. He is a good,peaceful, funny man who loves me but ...........

This exact thing is happening to me now. We have split. Living separately. I just knew for sure he would step up to the plate. He has been out of work for 4 months. hasn't even tried to find a job. I have a feeling I will be raising a baby by myself. I am totally ok with that, but I would love to have the family. My laswt marriage ended in a split family. I have lost respect for him totally and don't even want to talk to him much during the day.....

Sorry to hear that LeighAnne,
how far along are you? Do you have support from family?
I'm hoping My guy will pull it out of the bag as such and get sorted. He has until June or so. I'm just afraid as I have had the main responsibility in the past that we won't cope. I want to believe in him but it has not gone to plan so far. I still live in hope and hope that I can find the spark again. I hope things work out for you too xxx

I found out Monday for sure how far I am. From my LMP, I will be due October 2. My family is very supportive and thinks I deserve better than him anyways. I know I do too. I just can't understand how people don't want to work. I mean, if I don't work, I don't pay bills. I don't eat. People are just so used to handouts and being enabled by friends and family. That is how he is. His grandmother allows him to live with her. She cooks provides food and a place to sleep. He is almost 30 and doesn't work.

I should have seen this and never thought he was going to "change" before I decided to have a baby....