Ok, there may well be a slight moan coming up... sorry...

I have never really thought about it/discussed it but had no great plans to announce my pregnancy on facebook... I've seen or spoken personally to all of the people who I thought it was important to tell, and just thought I'd leave it at that.

Anyway, yesterday morning my hubby decided to post on his facebook wall that he is going to be a daddy and the due date... I was a bit annoyed because I had know idea he was planning on doing it, and only knew it was even there because my friend text me.
I decided not to have a moan about it , because I feel like that's all I do at the moment (!) and because I guess it's his choice if he wants to share with a few of his friends or literally all of them.

Anyway, since then, his sister (who is never one to miss out on the limelight) decided she would post on her wall that she is going to be an auntie. And people (who I don't even recognise the name of, let alone have ever met) are replying with comments like "Awww yeah, my Mum told me yesterday". What?! Who are you? Who the hell is your Mum?? And who told her!?!

I just feel like it has gotten totally out of hand, everybody seems to know! Maybe it shouldn't bother me as much as it is, I just don't like the fact that everybody thinks it their right to share the news and people I don't even know are talking about it. Also, now it's making me wonder whether I have to put something on facebook? Because it is unfair that all these random people know and yet I haven't told some of my more distant friends?

I don't know... I think I just wanted to get it off my chest and see what other people thought.

Hope you're all well

Bless you. I can see your point. I don't think your husband intended for it to upset you.

I'm with you... I will not be posting anything on facebook. I was a LTTCer, and it used to upset me when I used to see loads of announcements on facebook (I know it seems silly, but if you were a LTTCer, you would understand). I don't want to make anyone feel the way that I did.

I think it is entirely up to you whether or not you post anything. I think it is a private and personal decision. if your husband was comfortable wtih it then that's fine. If your not, that's fine too.

I think that when you put something on facebook, you are putting it out into the world. You don't have control over it anymore, so unfortunately, it's one of the things that you have to accept. Don't worry about loads of people knowing. Poeple talk.

Let's say in a few months, you still haven't told some distant friends...
When you walk down the street everyone will see your pregnant anyway?! You wouldn't feel guilty about nto telling everyone then would you? So don't feel guilty now. Do what your comfortable with, and what makes you happy. x

Sorry I ranted a bit, but I hope that helped. x

I totally get you. I'm the sort of person that hates being the centre of attention and I don't like the thought of total strangers congratulating us on facebook. We're not going to put a 'we're pregnant' announcement on FB I don't think if the 12 week scan goes well, once a few people know it will spread around the grapevine like wildfire anyway!

I can understand your OH being excited and wanting to tell people but he should have discussed it with you first and asked if you were comfortable with it, IMO. x

I agree with what ure saying. facebook can be a pain sometimes. My cuz just posted on my wall and now everyone knows. i guess i just wanted it to be me to tell everyone not to hear it 2nd hand from my brothers babysitters uncles dogs carsalesman if you know what i mean. . . but i guess its done now.

I would have liked my husband to mention it to me/discuss it with me first too ideally, but obviously he didn't and I decided not to make a big deal out of it seeing as it was already done. And I wouldn't necessarily have told him not to anyway, even though it's not something I would want to do personally.

I think I'm just surprised how much the grapevine really does get going... I don't understand why people who've never met me would even care that we're having a baby?
Also, I think it's annoying how some relatives seem to be trying to turn it into being all about them already...

I'm really not a centre of attention person, so think the whole situation is just baffling me a bit. I'm already getting panicky about how much people are going to think they can just turn up at our house all the time after the baby is born... :doh:

Ahh I'm sorry, that would really annoy me too. Thankfully I had managed to tell all of the people that I really wanted to hear it from me before the grapevine got going or anyone accidentally blabbed.
If your cousin's post hasn't been on there too long then maybe delete it before too many people have seen it? Not ideal still I know...
Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months anyway

I certainly won't be announcing ours on facebook we've had 2 losses since 2009 and I definately agree with the person who said it upsets you when others do it when you're in that position, don't get me wrong its lovely news but I would hate to think I'd make anyone else feel like that. I wouldn't be too impressed either if my husband did that but I'm sure your husband didn't mean anything by it, he's obviously really excited. It's done now the talk will calm down!

I'm really sorry to hear about your losses. and best wishes for a happy and healthy 9 months