Teenage Dad

z001 · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:12 PM

Hello, so about 2 weeks ago I found out my girlfriend was pregnant. We're both 18 and live with my mom. I go to college full-time and have no job, and she'll have her HS Diploma before she gives birth.

I guess i'm on here because i'm scared as to what the future holds. I'm in college and doing extremely well with a 4.0, but unfortunately it's going to take me 2 years to get my AAS in Nursing, if not more!

I want to be a good father, unlike mine, and be in her life as well as our kids. I will do anything it takes, but i'm feeling very nervous to tell my mother, and i'm trying my hardest to get at least a part time job so we can move out on our own.

Also, she's 7 weeks along now... and I know I have time to get things settled, it's just a lot of emotions are going through me, it's like i'm the pregnant one!

Younglutonmum · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:15 PM

Welcome to BnB

Well done for being a man & standing by your girlfriend. Trust me, in time emotions will calm & you'll think with a clear head.

As for your mum - tell her asap! I'm sure she'll take the news better than you could expect. Your her son & she loves you

Waiting2bMommy · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:17 PM

Hi!

I'm sure you will be a great father. Its hard being young as i've had many cousins have babies very young but it can be done. You should def talk to your mom about it i'm sure she can be of some help. At least you have 8 months to try to work things out! Good luck and congrats on your bub.

Angel2Fire · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:18 PM

First of all, credit to you for sticking by your girlfriend

Maybe you could keep going to college if your gf will have finished by then? It doesn't say where your from but would you be able to get any financial health with both being students? Or maybe help getting housing? It's definetly worth looking into.

I don't really know what else to suggest, but your in the right place for advice and support

I hope things go well for both you and your girlfriend

z001 · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:20 PM

Thanks so much for the support! I really hope all goes well, it's just a little weird knowing theres going to be something more important than myself soon!

Jemma_x · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:43 PM

Welcome to Bnb

Its so good that you are sticking by your girlfriend. Im sure if you tell your mum she will take it better than you expect but id tell her asap as she may take it worse if you keep it from her longer

Decosta1228 · Oct 21st, 2008, 17:47 PM

From one potential dad to another. Congrats and I would tell your mother when your ready. Just take your time, you have 9 months.

z001 · Oct 21st, 2008, 19:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Angel2Fire

First of all, credit to you for sticking by your girlfriend

Maybe you could keep going to college if your gf will have finished by then? It doesn't say where your from but would you be able to get any financial health with both being students? Or maybe help getting housing? It's definetly worth looking into.

I don't really know what else to suggest, but your in the right place for advice and support

I hope things go well for both you and your girlfriend

I'm from Michigan. We will be able to apply for help from the state, but it just seems like it won't be enough... I mean, I got rent, insurance, baby things, etc. and all that making only $500 a month + help just seems like a long shot.

maddiwatts19 · Oct 21st, 2008, 19:36 PM

welcome to BNB!

congratulations on being a daddy to be and well done on sticking by your girlfriend!
i think its great your worrying, and that your trying to get a job!

good luck with everything, and i hope it all works out for you

VanWest · Oct 21st, 2008, 19:37 PM

Well you your girlfriend will qualify for WIC(free cheese,milk,eggs, peanut butter or beans) now while she is pregnant and after most likely(free formula for baby ). She also should go to your local health department to apply for Medicaid, that way you won't have to worry about health insurance for her, I know here in the state of Florida I think she will have coverage for the baby for at least a year(I could be wrong on this)

Oct 21st, 2008, 17:12 PM	#1
z001 Other New BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 5	Teenage Dad Hello, so about 2 weeks ago I found out my girlfriend was pregnant. We're both 18 and live with my mom. I go to college full-time and have no job, and she'll have her HS Diploma before she gives birth. I guess i'm on here because i'm scared as to what the future holds. I'm in college and doing extremely well with a 4.0, but unfortunately it's going to take me 2 years to get my AAS in Nursing, if not more! I want to be a good father, unlike mine, and be in her life as well as our kids. I will do anything it takes, but i'm feeling very nervous to tell my mother, and i'm trying my hardest to get at least a part time job so we can move out on our own. Also, she's 7 weeks along now... and I know I have time to get things settled, it's just a lot of emotions are going through me, it's like i'm the pregnant one!
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Oct 21st, 2008, 17:15 PM	#2
Younglutonmum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Luton Posts: 3,157	Welcome to BnB Well done for being a man & standing by your girlfriend. Trust me, in time emotions will calm & you'll think with a clear head. As for your mum - tell her asap! I'm sure she'll take the news better than you could expect. Your her son & she loves you

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Waiting2bMommy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: California & Oklahoma Posts: 9,209	Hi! I'm sure you will be a great father. Its hard being young as i've had many cousins have babies very young but it can be done. You should def talk to your mom about it i'm sure she can be of some help. At least you have 8 months to try to work things out! Good luck and congrats on your bub.

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Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 811	First of all, credit to you for sticking by your girlfriend Maybe you could keep going to college if your gf will have finished by then? It doesn't say where your from but would you be able to get any financial health with both being students? Or maybe help getting housing? It's definetly worth looking into. I don't really know what else to suggest, but your in the right place for advice and support I hope things go well for both you and your girlfriend

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Oct 21st, 2008, 17:20 PM	#5
z001 Other New BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 5	Thanks so much for the support! I really hope all goes well, it's just a little weird knowing theres going to be something more important than myself soon!
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Jemma_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 13,385	Welcome to Bnb Its so good that you are sticking by your girlfriend. Im sure if you tell your mum she will take it better than you expect but id tell her asap as she may take it worse if you keep it from her longer

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Decosta1228 Dad Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: West Midlands Posts: 365	From one potential dad to another. Congrats and I would tell your mother when your ready. Just take your time, you have 9 months.

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Oct 21st, 2008, 19:36 PM	#9
maddiwatts19 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 4,835	welcome to BNB! congratulations on being a daddy to be and well done on sticking by your girlfriend! i think its great your worrying, and that your trying to get a job! good luck with everything, and i hope it all works out for you

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Oct 21st, 2008, 19:37 PM	#10
VanWest Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Port St. Lucie, Florida Posts: 1,241	Well you your girlfriend will qualify for WIC(free cheese,milk,eggs, peanut butter or beans) now while she is pregnant and after most likely(free formula for baby ). She also should go to your local health department to apply for Medicaid, that way you won't have to worry about health insurance for her, I know here in the state of Florida I think she will have coverage for the baby for at least a year(I could be wrong on this)

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