I know what you mean - it is so hard to keep this a secret. I was an active Scuba Diver Instructor with a local club and used to help out most weekends. All of a sudden I'm backing out of trips, avoiding calls and not drinking when we all go out.

I don't think it will come as any surprise and certainly one of my old divemasters has guessed already and come out and asked me straight.

In the end me and OH decided that we would tell our Parents at nine weeks cos if something horrid happens we would what their support anyway.

It is really hard - hope that you get to tell people in your own time.

thanks for all your messages. we have told our parents and i dont want anyone to say something and then the rest of our family, who dont yet know (cousins etc) finding out from other ppl.

ooh this is difficult!

the only way I think we can tell ppl is if we have ascan earlier to make sure all is ok. but im 7 1/2 weeks so not as long to wait until the 12weeks.

I am meeting my fellas sister for the first time on Wednesday...no problem there....But have met his mum and stayed there before!!! Now I'm not showing that much but I am certain that his mum will notice something like bbs, not drinking and baggy clothes!!
Nobody knows but I'm sure that it might get noticed especially as we leave for France from there and will return 10 days later. Now in the past 10 days my fella has noticed my thickening waist and the obvious bbs.
We don't want to tell anyone until scan shows we are all ok which is not until 11th September...HELLLLP!!
Stress levels rising!!

I have a friend who isn't British and has often made social faux pas due to cultural and language differences. It can be annoying, but I deal with it. Last Monday she took me aside (thankfully she didn't broadcast it to the other friends who were there!) and asked me if I had something to tell her.

I'd said I didn't want to go for an Indian for my birthday as I had gone off spicy food, that was what tipped her off and she knew we were going to be ttc this year.

I just told her the truth and asked her not to tell anyone, which she hasn't. Last night we had a nice little chat and I told her that here in the UK a lot of women wait until the 12 week scan to tell people. She didn't know how high the risk of MC was, where she's from people tell all their friends after about a month. So she must have thought I was keeping it from her for some other reason.

But it did annoy me that she mentioned her suspicions to me at all. People should just keep their mouths shut if they guess and wait for us to break the news in our own way when we are ready.

I agree with the other posters, just say you're getting fat!

I love that bit in Knocked Up when the woman from the wardrobe department notices Katherine Heigl's character's expanding waist and she says "It's the doughnuts! They call to me!"

Congratulations on your

I think its a personal decision whether or not you tell anyone before 12 weeks.

OH and I told our parents and brothers/sisters straight away and a few close friends and made it clear no one else is to be told until we decide...well that didnt happen! Went out to the pub with my friends a few days ago (for an orange juice) and there was a big group of friends of ours there, as soon as I walked in they said congratulations, I was so annoyed as when I asked who told them they said everyone knows. OH isnt that bothered that everyone knows now but as we have our first scan on Friday I would have at least liked to wait until then to tell everyone.

I completely agree. Here it's a mixed bag - some people wait, some people tell early (I am in US). But I still believe that no matter what, no one should ever ask you before you are ready to tell. It's none of their business! And truly, why would they want to ruin the surprise and the excitement for an expectant mom?

You've probably seen my post here that I was asked by my team lead at work. I thought that was especially rude. We do not have that kind of relationship, and it's actually quite against the rules to ask that kind of thing in the workplace. Employers are not allowed to ask, and you technically don't have to even ever tell them because it's considered a "medical condition" and protected under the privacy act.

Yeah I saw your post. It's amazing how people can think it's any of their business! I bet we'll be on here again in four months complaining about strangers touching our bumps! What is it about pregnancy that makes people think a woman's body is suddenly available for discussion and touching?!

I have no idea but I have to tell you that I might be nice and just brush off the questions, but if some stranger is touching me...that is going to be a different story. Esp if hubby is along!

Hi Katie! I hear you, the gossips at work are terrible!! we've always got cakes on our desk at work so I'm just going to work needing to diet into the conversation... while helping myself to more cake!

I had an ectopic in march and every time I see me work colleagues (about every couple of months as we work from home) I can see them looking at my tummy.

I will tell my friends and family once I have my scan next week, but not work people until I am 12 weeks. There is nothing worse than nosey work colleagues! XXX