Yvonne1

Feel for you as you do hear all these stories but am sure its innocent hun x

elm

My OH knows my password (if he can remember it) and I know his don't think it actually makes much difference on facebook as he can see my profile anyway and I don't really use it for anything private. He doesn't know my email password but there's not really any reason for it - I trust him not to log on to it if he did have it. He's got his saved on the computer so if I'm on it he'll sometimes ask me to check if he has any new emails.

I think it's quite trusting to have each others passwords really, it's got nothing to do with control or being paranoid or anything.

How's it going with your DH mumof4? xxx

alyxzandra

My fiance and I have Facebook and Myspace accounts, but neither of us know each other's passwords. Because of our circle, I actually know one of his ex's and another of his flings. And I know his old fling would love to have him. She was all over him right in front of me...and my fiance promptly went into a corner and got sick. Also, we all have the same friends. BUT, I know who he loves and who he is with so I could not care less.

Last week, he was contacted by one his ex-girlfriends on Myspace and he immediately told me and showed me his response. The same thing when another of his old bits on the side contacted him via email. He forwarded the email to me and his response. Basically, he told them he wants to go his way and they go theirs.

Personally, I could care less if any of them know about our engagement or pregnancy. It lets them know he has moved on. But, he is not happy they know anything about his life or to see any pictures of our family. At the end of the day your husband is with you and not his ex and obviously no amount of her pestering made one bit of difference because he married you and not her.

becky1978

My husband and I both have our wn Facebook account and both know each other's passwords, but I would never need to access his account as he uses it openly in fornt of me as I do with him. We both have numerous friends of both sexes and it has never been a problem.

PixieKitty

The fact he lied about it makes him in the wrong, and I understand your paranoia as i'm pretty sure 90% of the worlds population will understand, especially if like you they've had previous experiences of this sort of thing.

However, he may see your logging on his account and finding this out, as a personal attack, an invasion of privacy, no matter how innocent the reason you went on it... for example I logged on my partners myspace a few months ago to re-read a message he'd shown me and stumbled across alot of girls that had been messaging him, although he turned out to be innocent he was VERY annoyed that i'd read the messages and felt I didn't trust him.

Chances are he's just looking for someone outside of the family home to talk to, having four children must be demanding and sometimes it's easier to talk to people outside of the situation. Keep an eye on him, but don't let this worry you too much, after all, these women he's chatting to online may be good for talking, but at the end of the day you're his wife, and that means a hell of alot more xx

MUMOF4

Hi Elm,

We are ok now, have talked about issues surrounding the whole facebook thing and he says that he understands. I do trust him 100%. Just get very BAD mood swings and paranoia with pregnancy!! I knew his password so deep down I knew that he really didnt have anything to hide. Its just ugly past issues rearing their ugly heads I suppose, when youve been sh** on from a great height before, you just kind of expect it to happen again, although I know that my DH is a very different person from the one who sh** on me, so I should give him a break, he shouldnt have to suffer for someone elses mistakes. I was with my ex from the age of sixteen, I was blissfully living an ignorant life, with my two babies, only to find out that after 8 years he had been living a double life and had a girlfriend and two other children. Hence my suspicious mind!

elm

really glad you've got it sorted with him.

Sounds like you've done hugely well to get over what that b****** did to you before, to be where you are now must have taken a huge amount of trust, strength and courage. The odd bit of paranoia especially during pregnancy is perfectly understandable.

x