claire roach

yer she would have conceived around 20th of april

spenner25

for some reason its not letting me open that page, im sorry to bug you i really am

spenner25

i have & it really helped me you all have

sam's mum

You're not bugging anyone, don't be sorry! The link is to a pdf file so I think you'd need to have adobe acrobat reader - it's basically just a research study saying that CRL measurements are accurate to within 3 days in the first 11 weeks. It's got some pictures that show that by 12 weeks gestation, CRL is about 60mm. And you can see a lot more detail by then:

carmen

Hi Hun,

Really sorry to hear that your going through this , i think the best thing for you to do , is to keep your distance until you can get the DNA .

Cos it would be awful to get too attached if the doc is right.

I am also 12 weeks on Sunday and my fertile days were something like 30 April to 06 May something like that.

So if you did last have sex on the 10 March , then yeah its pretty much impossible.

Good Luck

spenner25

alot more detailed, teh doc said he can say hand on his heart that if i was sure the last time i had sex with her was 10march then that baby could not be mine, she was saying sperm can live in the body for weeks and the doc said 4 days and that doesnt happen very much

spenner25

i know i just need reassurance i might contact the police and tell them to keep her away from me because she is saying she wants money, thats the only reason she is saying its mine because her ex finished her when he found out she was having a baby

thank u so much

carmen

yeah i heard 5 days but weeks is bull. Its must be really hard for you to listen to that when your having a medical professional tell you facts.

sam's mum

Tell her that she will only get money from you if she has a DNA test to show the baby is yours. Chances are she won't even bother as she knows it's not.

Good luck...sorry she's putting you through all this x

spelbound

As a bloke myself I wish I had something to say to you that will bring you some peace of mind. But I dont. You are living my worst nighmare mate. I guess you have to choose just how much you love her? Can you raise a child that is not yours? As hard as it seems, if you choose to treat this unborn child as your own now, then you also have to do it once the child is born - say, for example, if you do a DNA test and its not your child.

Either that or decide to move on now.

I'd take a few days and think about stuff. Be absolutely sure about your dates etc. Are you 500% sure this child cant be yours?

Oh and if you decide to move then dont let her put your name on the birth certificate. If you treat this child as your own then she is entitled to claim CSA from you at a later date.