Originally Posted by Chocoholic

I just found out that I have hormone deficiency and that I don't ovulate on my own. I'm put on Clomid to ovulate and try to conceive our first. I haven't been pregnant before so I have no idea if I'll have any problems carrything the baby if I get pregnant. I've always dreamt of a large family and it hurts that I'm going to need Clomid each time to have my babies.

I am against abortion when it's used as a contraceptive method. That is disgusting.

Yet, it's nobody's business to tell a woman what to do with her own body so I don't understand people who try to pressure a woman one way or the other (not referring to anyone's post here, please don't take it personally).

I am not against very-early-term (4-8 weeks) abortion if proper precautions were taken and something happened to go wrong. If a condom-using 15yo gets pregnant because of the condom breaking, I wouldn't judge her if she has an abortion.

Adoption is an option but how about the pregnancy? A 15 yo girl's body isn't even fully developed yet, she could die during birth. She very likely won't be emotionally ready to go through the pregnancy. It's a big responsibility to carry a baby in your body for 9 months. Hormonal changes take their tolls on couples who are in relationships enough, I can't imagine a little girl (yes, a 15 yo is a little girl in my opinion) going through it on her own!

As icing on the cake, she's going to be judged by everyone around her. Nobody will see her as doing a noble deed even if she's going to giver her baby up for adoption. She's not a surragate mother, she's not old enough to take on such a responsibility.

I'm not even going to talk about how she doesn't even know what she wants in her life yet and how much she would be missing out on. Nobody can be expected to give up so much from her life when she's not ready.

Moreover, all this trauma is going to affect the baby. She's very possibly going to resent her baby, become a depressed, bitter person.

And the baby will suffer from all this stress too and will not have the healthy emotional start in the womb.

So, rather than throwing girls/women into situations they're not ready for and creating dysfunctional individuals (mom, baby, possibly the father, the grandparents), abortion can be the better option.

To me, it doesn't matter how old the woman is or what kind of a relationship she's in. It's her right to choose what she wants to do with her body, and go through the consequences, be it birth or abortion.

I don't support teenage pregnancies but if a teenage girl decides to keep her baby, I believe all we can do is just respect that choice.

Originally Posted by Sarah88

Good job 16mumtobe, it's grea tto see a young (to me anyway) girl stand up and take responsibility for her actions. Proves you are gonna be a great mum!

Originally Posted by 16mumtobe

quite alot of people i know at 15 16 dont use contraception and when i ask if they get preg what will they do they was like "oh ill get azn abortion, with out even thinking about it. and then this gurl at school found out she was preg the day she found out she was preg with out even thinking about it she was going to the docs to book an abortion. which really pissed me off cos she was the one having sex with out using anything and got preg. i mean yeah i got preg at 16 bt at least ive faced up to my responsilbilities and decided to be a mum.
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