Tracie87

well as some of you might remember i was really down and depressed the other day, well 2 days ago my dad desided he wanted 2 get back together again with my mum which was great he swore on my babys life hed never walk out again.
this morning my mum came home from work 2 a note marked sorry with his keys... hed gone back with his g/f. he swore on all the kids lives, and hes played us all off against eachother but cut everyone off but me.

im his little princess and he has no trouble in making that public much 2 my sisters upset, but now my mum is so angry and upset he did it again shes smashed up her whole house and my sister whos there with her atm cant stop her, im 300 miles away and cant get home.
my mum was over my dad to the point she was getting on with her life but shes just so angry and upset shes smashing everything, my sister has 4 kids and can only do so much and my eldest sis is 100 miles away.

i dunno how to help my mum. i feel so betrayed by my dad. it broke my heart hearing my mum cry the way she was on the fone... i dont no what to do.

Lazy Leo

I don't know hun, I really don't but I didn't want to read and run.

How do you feel about your dad right now?

Tracie87

hes my big bear always has been but he lied to us all.
my dads never lied to me

Fossey

That's awful, I make it a rule to never swear on peoples or my animals lives don't believe in it, for these very reasons. He shouldn't have said that, that's for sure. I remember when my dad left my mum it was awful, but given time we all got over it, you just need time I guess. I am sorry your and your family are having to go through that.

Lazy Leo

I ask how you feel about your dad because possibly the only thing you can do for your mum is the one thing you will find so hard to do - stand up to him. If you don't want to cut him out completely, tell him you need time to deal with his betrayal and you don't know when you'll be able to trust him again. You''ll contact him when you are ready. Tell your mum you're not in contact with him at the moment. That way you are giving yourself time to deal with something which is truly awful but at the same time showing some support and solidarity with your mum.

Tracie87

iv told my dad exactly what i think of him. i just feel so helpless. im the youngest but im the hard faced back bone thats kept everyone together threw all this n now i cant get there and cant get stressed.

i no it shuddnt b put all on my but i feel like its my job coz im the really hard faced one that can put up with anything

polo_princess

Your dad is still your dad ... he's been an idiot leading everyone on but all you can do is stand by your mum right now and support her hun. She needs you more than ever now

Lazy Leo

It's good that you've faced up to your dad, but ultimately hun this is your mum and dad's fight. You let him know what you think and just be there for your mum. You can't go to her, you need to put yourself and your baby first.

Your mum will need to go through a number of stages, anger both at herself for trusting him, and at him for walking away, and then she will have to grieve the loss of the marriage. She needs to go through that in her own way and her own time hun, all you can do is be there to listen to her, its not ideal but although you aren't there you can be on the end of a phone.

Your mum has a gorgeous grandkid on the way so once she has got the rage out of her system you need to help her focus on the positive. Do you have space for her to come and stay at your place for the weekend or anything like that?

Tracie87

thats impossible i live in irland n shes in england so its a bit hard 4 her 2 come over.

Carlyanne15

Sorry to hear you so upset!!
I hope your mum is ok, i know its not easy being miles away from her!! Just being there on the phone for her and stuff will help
x