jadeylex

my OH adores his mother and he has been round today as it is his day off. he came back and stormed through the house and up the stairs didnt speak to me. so i carried on . i made him a brew and took it up and asked him if he was okay. he told me him and his mum had just had a row so i asked what about and he told me it was about me......

he said that his mum didnt want me to ruin his future as he wants to go to college training. ad she said that he pick between me or her. so he looked at me at this point and he gave me the look as if he was gonna pick his mum.

he hen asked me what i would do and i sid i would pick him so i left him to think for a while and then he came downstairs with a suitcase and said he was going to stay at his mums for a while and that t was for the best.

so now i am sat here upset trying not to stress for the twins sake and he has just walked out with no negotiation of coming back. i asked him what about the babes and he said that it was my problem....... i really need some advice this past two days has been rough for me xx

polo_princess

awww hun

let things settle and then speak to him again and talk it through properly. I cant believe his mum said something like choose!!

holsx

Omg hun thats awful! Why is he even thinking about picking his mum when u have children 2gether, and any decent mother wudn make him choose!! Poor u, im sending u lots of love and hugs xxxxx

jadeylex

thankyou !! well we have been trying for 2 yers for kids and had 2 m/c and now im finally havng twins hes fucked off!!! xx

holsx

U neva no hopefully he will come 2 his senses and realise! What a cow making him choose tho!! Be strong tho, all us girlies are here if u need help xxxx

o0oCharlieo0o

:O thats shocking how could she make him choose!! im sorry i dont know what you should do, but i do think maybe wait a few days and let everything calm down then maybe talk to him. hope you sort something out xxx

carmen

jadylex , first your right you have to think of your twins.

But i would be really furious a man would nt chose is mother over someone he is supposed to love.

And what kinda of mother makes him do that.

bumpity

oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear this. I don't get on with my MIL at all really - but it all boils down to the fact that she's not over the fact that her 'little boy' is a grown up now.

perhaps your MIL is feeling a bit insecure about being a granny and scared that she'll no longer be the centre of your partners attention anymore - the twins will be. I am sure that your partner is also feeling lots of emotions right now - I know me and my hubbie are and we are only having 1 baby!

All you can do is try and keep lines of communication open with your partner. You have every right to be angry with your MIL, but try to concentrate on your partner right now - not her.

sending you big big big hugs and keep posting if it makes you feel better xxxxx

Fossey

OMG how awful. I had a mother-in-law that wasn't fond of me at the start of our relationship who really made my life hell. To the extent that we even got married in secret and to this day his dad doesn't know (she died a few months back) but she did come round to us being together. I always worried that she may give him that ultimatum, but thankfully never did as they were so close, I always wonder which way he would have picked. Like I say she did come around and grew fond of me and we got on really well over about 3 years. So my point is she may alter her ways, there is a bond between mother and son especially if he is her only child? and I know men are really close to their mums. I guess you need to give him time and try not to let it stress you out, it won't be good for the bub. If you wanna chat pm me.

Tracie87

wat a bitch is ur ova halfs mum!! how dare she tell your fella to choose and how dare he leave you for his mum, hun make ur self a warm bath relax in it, or go see a friend, just try relax a bit..
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