Also, Ryder, I may still be in school now, but I am graduating with my degree before the baby gets here. The baby isn't messing up my education at all.

I'll be ready to go into a job as soon as I'm ready to leave the baby with someone else. If I have to do that very soon after, then that is what I have to do.

tbh i think that every person is different age to me is just a bloody number that causes alot of annoying people to judge im 17 and pregnant and people who don't know anything about me tell me im too young but my mother who knows me better then anyone knew from the day i told her im guna be a good mother and im going to be fine cuz im mature enough to look after myself and a child i dont listen to rude narrowminded people as tbh i dont care if they dont like my life choice or not you just have to remember as long as you know you can do it what other people say doesnt matter xxxx

Rae, I think you're being very brave. You sound like you've got your head screwed on and know exactly what you're doing, so good for you. Don't let people like this friend put you down.

I've had people say the same to me, particularly because I'm going to be a single Mum at 22. It hurts but you just have to remember that at the end of all this you're the one who's going to have a gorgeous baby who will love you forever. You can't beat that. Real friends will support you no matter what choices you make.

Don't let them put you down - timing is not always ideal but who are they to tell you it's wrong and look down at you.
When friends say thiings like that it makes you wonder how good a friend they rreally are.

I broke the news to one of my friends last week and she was like you're too grown up. Okay i;m 23 and lots of 23 year olds are partying still but lots also have families. I was like well I actaully want this...I'm 23 married and now im starting my family. Things are the way I want them, but she doesn't seem able to understand that - its because she is still living in the past and i thnk sometimes she still wants to be 17. It annoyed me a little...even more so when she said I'm going to lose you now you have to make time for me. I felt like saying u are not the centre of my life... lol! But i smiled and said of course we will still do things but my prioties will be different!

Rae - Its your life and your baby and i think you are doing great considering some of the other stuff you are going through....its a womans right to have a baby when she is ready whether she is 16 or 36!!!

ToriaTrash - Just noticed your at the end of your ticker!!! Way to go!! Not long now!!!!

People who take the piss outta you when you are pregnant, settling down, or generally being "grown up", are just JEALOUS!!!!!
They usually have no idea what direction their lives are going in, and spend most time partying and shagging around, but want to settle...

It doesnt matter how old you are, there are women in their 30s that make shit mothers, and teen mums that are fantastic.

Tell him to feck off! (god Im childish)

OMG! How terrible comming from a 'friend' he doesnt sound like much of a friend to be so nasty. Ignore him you know your going to be a good mum hes prob just jealous xx

I'm younger than you, 18 but live with my fiancé and have been with him over a year and a half. I was best friends with him for years before we started seeing each other. I get alot of comments like that. I ignore them, they'll probably wait til they're too old and have to pay for their mortgage and cant afford to have a family! forget that. I would rather be not so well off and have a family!

To be honest, I completely agree with this post. This user is posting here as she's feeling a little down and needs support. She doesn't need telling she's too young to be a mother, that she'll have no job and that she'll lose everyone close to her.

Yes sweetie, maybe your friends will change, but our friends change continuously throughout our lives, no matter what we do we are always going to lose friends, but you know what, you'll make more. And the ones that truly are friends will make all the effort and more to be there for you when you need them.

Even if someone was 40 and becoming a mum for the first time, they would change their friends and they could have problems in their personal life just like someone has at 20. It's who the person is that matters, how much love they are going to give their child and how balanced they are, not how many digits are on their age. Yes a child takes money and hard work as well as love. But she's finishing her course and trying. I respect that a lot more than I would had she just given up without trying.

I'll never understand some people. Pregnancy is hard enough, never mind having to deal with insensitive jerks! Some people should just keep their mouths shut, because it's not like you asked for their opinion.

I say the best thing to do is just ignore the few people who are going to be negative about your pregnancy. I'm 22 (will be 23 when the bean is born), and everyone in my life has been supportive, save for one friend who freaked out when DH and I told her the news. She said that we were too young, just kids ourselves, etc., and DH and I are married and have stable jobs, so go figure! If people want to criticize, they'll criticize, no matter the circumstances.

But the truth of the matter is, like others have said, those statements just reflect that own person's state of mind. Just because they don't think they would ever be able to raise a child at your age does not mean that YOU won't be able to raise a child with as much love and care as anyone else, and you shouldn't let it get you down... which is easier said than done, I know.