my OH's twin sisters have never frikkin liked me, always being bitchy and treating me like shit coz im not like them, one wants kids but her boyfriend will be the stay at home dad whish is fine but they wont be ready for a few years and i have no clue about the other one.

since it was the one hu wants kids *we shall call her betty* hu told OHs family we were TTC when we didnt tell them for a reason and the only reason she found out was snooping thru private stuff andinstead of confronting us she went straight to her mum (the girls are 23 year old twins FFS!!!) we havent been too happy with her for obvious reasons but for JB's sake i decided to bite the bullet and call her and thank her for her support coz when she found out she congratulated Nath and said how happy she was and how excited she was and i even asked her if she wanted to come to a scan at some point down the track depending on how many i have and when they are. so that was a very brief convo but courteous. i told nathan that if she makes an effort with me like i did with her ill invite her to one. i messaged her the other day to tell her when she could come to one but of course my first message was ignored so i never asked her.

now my blood is boiling coz i can just see wat is gunna happen. the other twin *we'll call her bernice* has ignored every effort my OH has made to reach her, to tell her we are pregnant, to say hello, everything has gone unreplyed and ignored completely. so i told OH i dont care its his sister, she once told him that untill he dropped me he was dead to her and kicked him out of her life and i dont want her in my kids life. i can see now exactly wats going to happen, im gunna be the bad person coz i dont want her arround when she is the one hu really doesnt give a shit and there mum and dad are gunna push for me to let her in and i dont frikkin want her! even Nath has said he doesnt care about her any more if she doesnt want to make an effort in order to be in his life and his childresn lives he doesnt want her arround. but still theyll be all "its there aunt, its nathans own sister" SCREW THAT!!! I DONT WANT MY OWN DAD IN MY CHILDS LIVES I HAVE NO FRIKKIN QUALMS NOT LETTIN HER IN!!! i dont kno why im so angry about this right now but my blood is frikkin boiling and i cant sleep!!!

ARGHHh!!!!!!!!!
i just need to vent i am so frikkin over this crap coz its been going on for 2 frikkin years since i first met them all. his mother asked me to not say anything about the baby on my facebook and i dont kno why. she said she is deleting hers and i said well its my facebook and ive got all my friends on there ppl hu i keep in conact with since i was a kid and i dont want to lose those contacts and im not gunna hide my excitement about becoming a mummy.

she also said im not allowed to get upset if i lose the baby coz she lost her first and she never got upset. i kno wat she meant as in dont take it to heart it happens but some tact please!!! im just so damn mad right now! these hormones are killing me and im that angry i want to frikkin cry! i want to move so far away from them all that i never have to see them again. nathan wants to move to the states or the UK coz he like in london for a year a very long time ago and i wont leave aus coz of my family. i am so upset....

im sorry i just need to vent to ppl hu wont judge me and wont make me feel like a bitch for wanting to have ahappy life and to us a happy life is not them in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can see exactly where you are coming from hun!!
I dont have anything to do with my family anymore as they stopped speaking to me all because I couldn't make it to my mothers 60th birthday party as i had flu and a chest infection!! (pathetic or wot)

Best thing hun is to just ignore the lot of them and do wot u want to do. xxx

can u help me here? how do i ignore them?? like wat exactly do i do?? ive got a bad habit of not lettin issues go unresolved. that whole family has a bad habit of brushing stuff under the frikkin carpet and ignoring the issues at hand. no wonder thay all hate me i call them up on everything they do!

You're gonna have to. You've been independant enough to settle down and start a family, a family of your OWN. You need to think about how you and your new little family will do things going forward

Blah OH's familys eh? You post what you want on your facebook! His sis sounds like a nightmare, so do the rest of them! At trhe end of the day at least you tried to be courteous! She was the one who didnt bother! Hope they dont wind you up too much - all this stress is not good for your health xx

completely blank everything they say and do hun, i know it sounds hard but u will thank urself for the less stress later on believe me xxx

thanks ladies. i kno that we need to stand strong and make the right choices for our family and for our baby but i feel horrible that part of the reason this baby wont know his/her own biological aunt is coz of me! and i hate that everyone will side with her and make me out to be unreasonable. its not fair. this is the first time ive been mad about it.

wel...this mad any way...ill be fine and im trying to destress and posting this has made me feel 10 times better but i still wish i didnt want to be apart of this family...and i hate the fact that for the rest of my life i am. i lvoe nathan and i love this child more than anything and i kno that nathans mum is a lovely woman at heart but i cant let someone treeat me badly. wat is that teaching my child? that its OK to let ppl walk all over you???? i feel so childish and immature coz of thses ppl. i just want to kno if this reaction im having is normal or am I the one over reacting...

Kasey, in what world have they the right to tell you what to do with your life and YOUR family? Ok so its nathans sister, but its her own fault for pushing him away in the first place! And when it comes your MIL, why wouldnt you put it on facebook? Its almost like its a shameful thing that your pregnant!? I dont understand their behaviour hun, and im really sorry your having to go through this!! You have to think about whats going to make YOU happy now, dont try and please other people, coz its a waisted effort by the sounds of it!
sending lots of love your way =)

OHs families are always the best...NOT
just f*ck them all thats what im doing with OH family if he wants his family to see our child he can take her to see them but i will not let them anywhere near my house i dont even want them to know where i live, but thats just me lol

oh celeste u are a sweetheart!!! i kno wat u mean... it does feel like they are ashamed oh the pregnancy. but tbh i dont give a shit now coz my whole family is going insane over it! they are sooo happy and cant wait for him/her to get here and i kno from my own personal experience that a baby doesnt need two families to have a good life, i only had one growing up and im closer to them than anyone in the world. i mean i was with my cousin when i got my bfp and the first person we told was my aunt hu she was on the fone to in bali wen i came out of the loo!! im so blessed to have wonderful ppl in my lfie. i just hate ignoring things. coz thats wat his whole family has done. pretend things dont exist. any problems arrises...huh? wat problem!! ARGH!! ok i feel better now!!