So I'm completely done with my OH. Completely and uterly just done. He is being absolutely cruel to me. He pretty much told me I'm a bitch and that the baby is ruining everything and that I don't actually have a baby bump, I'm just fat instead. He said he didn't want the baby in the first place and he pretty much wants me to get rid of it, but it isn't his choice. And I asked him if he would want anything to do with the baby after its born and he said no.

So I'm leaving him. I'm pissed as hell and heart broken because he was such a good boyfriend before any of this happened. I feel right now that this baby is ruining my entire life. I know its not the babys fault, but everything was just fine before I got pregnant. We were supposed to be getting engaged and buying a house and getting married. I was supposed to graduate from university and get a good job and then this was all supposed to happen.

Now I have to move home with my parents which is 8 hours away from my university so I have to drop out of school. I can't afford another place by myself and I have nobody that I can move in with.

I am just so upset and I know I need to relax because of the baby but I can't help it. I seriously feel like my heart is just entirely ripped in two. I was so excited about the baby and now this had to happen.

I just don't even know what to do with myself right now.

So sorry for him being such a t***
I don't know what to say except to give you lots of

Didn't want to read and run. I have no advice just

Oh God, so sorry to hear this!!!
Are you sure this is a break up and not just a really bad row? I mean, not saying it's all hormones here but are you sure it isn't something you can talk about?

Men can be SO strange about becoming dads for the first time and they can say and do things they really don't mean.

I appreciate what you're saying though and if he's said those things to you that's just plain cruel as you say.

I don't know what to say other than, can you try and both calm down a bit and talk again?

hugs thinking of you x

If it's any consolation my OH even threatened to cut the baby out of me, and now he can't wait to be a dad? They do come round sometimes.

Don't know what to say. Words that were said to you, you will have a hard time forgetting.

Men do grow up, but sometimes it's too late.

At the same time, I've lived and learned and realized that pregnancy causes stress on the man, woman and relationship. I split up with my OH when I was 8 months pregnant with my second. We separated for 5 months and I was positive I'd never go back to him. However, the separation did us wonders!

Separating often helps both parties to understand what each is losing, as well as what each has done wrong. Seriously, I blamed OH for the separation but there were things I could have done differently too.

Bless you and hope everything works out for you!

I am so sorry Rae.

Are you really sure it is all over? Possibly your OH was just freaking out and looking for an easy way out. You maybe need to have another talk with him and remind him of all the plans you had together. Maybe he was just getting the 'fear' as some men do when faced with their lives stretched out before them.

If this doesn't work, you should make it clear to him that when the baby is born, regardless whether you both are together or not, he will have a responsibility to the child (certainly financial by law).

Whatever you do, don't blame yourself or feel that the baby is ruining your life. It takes two to make a baby and he had an equal part in the proceedings and needs to face his responsibilities as well. If he is acting like this now, would he have been any different a couple of years down the line when you were married etc etc? He probably just has a bit of growing up to do.

I hope you get this sorted out, for your sake and the baby's.

xxx

Wow, Im sorry that you are going through all this... Im sure a solution will present its self. What a jerk ....

Oh dear So sorry to hear about all this
He'll regret it when he sees what a beautiful baby you have and how much he missed out on. Men can be such jerks and they don't realise it. You still have your friends and family. And I'm pretty sure everyone on this forum will try and cheer you up

Ergh thats awful i hope you make the right decision, maybe you just need to go to your parents to show him what he'll be missing. Can you not defer a year or something and then see if there is anyone to share with near your uni? Hope it turns out ok and he realises that he's made a big mistake.