Symapthy (or lack of) from DH 2nd time round?

Hoping · Mar 7th, 2010, 06:47 AM

Anyone who is expecting number 2 finding that sympathy and support is lacking compared to first time round?
I feel really sick, tired and cold all the time. DH just keeps saying "you have to just get on with it this time". I bloody well know I do, but don't need to keep being told that do I? Some sympathy wouldn't go amiss! Just because I have done it before and survived doesn't mean it is any easier this time round. I asked him how he would feel if he was constantly needing to throw up, couldn't face food and felt so exhausted he could hardly stand up..."not great I suppose, but I am really tired..." TIRED?! Whatever!!!!!!
Grrrrr, sorry for the rant!

purpleposting · Mar 7th, 2010, 07:52 AM

I know how you feel, I have to practically beg mine to help me out if I'm feeling sick and I'm finding myself repeating to him my symptoms, just so I can have a bit of sympathy!

The only good thing is that I told him the other day that all I fancied was plain food, cereals etc and he went out and bought me 2 boxes of special k which is going down nicely!

I'm feeling really cold too. I just wish they could experience our sickness, symptoms and labour!

Hoping · Mar 7th, 2010, 08:52 AM

I know, they get it so easy in the whole baby making scenario!!!

Mum22GTTC · Mar 7th, 2010, 11:38 AM

Mine has been very unsympathetic for the past week too. He said yesterday, "this is definately our last one, this all causes too much hastle" (in a kind of a joke, but I always think jokes are based on the truth

)

With my other 2 pregnancies he never let me to the hoovering & yesterday he watched me do it

I did have a word with him about it in a jokey way last night & he has been much better today.

I think they just think, 'well it couldn't be that bad, if it was you wouldn't have chosen to do it again'???

katzone · Mar 7th, 2010, 11:47 AM

Lol my DH was like it with our first, I remember when I was about this stage with DS he was washing his car and trying to get me to help but I was shattered, my FIL stuck up for me and said "don't make her, she is pregnant" and DH said "only 3 months!!"

I thought thanks father in law sticking up for me!!

kfarb · Mar 7th, 2010, 12:02 PM

The second time you should get MORE sympathy! You're sick and you have a little one to look after. I can't imagine having to look after a toddler how I was feeling with MS. I think, if we do it again, I'm going to wait until this one is at least in preschool.

Hoping · Mar 8th, 2010, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by kfarb

The second time you should get MORE sympathy! You're sick and you have a little one to look after. I can't imagine having to look after a toddler how I was feeling with MS. I think, if we do it again, I'm going to wait until this one is at least in preschool.

Exactly my point, thanks hun! CBeebies has been a life saver so far! I don't know if it would be easier if he was in pre-school because then I would have to get up really early and rush to get him ready and off to pre-school. At least I can kind of do things in a relaxed manner!
TBH, Thomas is so good, he isn't too demanding and he does have a 2 hour nap every day about 2 hours after he gets up which is a godsend! It is the afternoons that I struggle with, as I have morning, afternoon and evening sickness

kfarb · Mar 8th, 2010, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Hoping

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Originally Posted by kfarb

The second time you should get MORE sympathy! You're sick and you have a little one to look after. I can't imagine having to look after a toddler how I was feeling with MS. I think, if we do it again, I'm going to wait until this one is at least in preschool.

Exactly my point, thanks hun! CBeebies has been a life saver so far! I don't know if it would be easier if he was in pre-school because then I would have to get up really early and rush to get him ready and off to pre-school. At least I can kind of do things in a relaxed manner!
TBH, Thomas is so good, he isn't too demanding and he does have a 2 hour nap every day about 2 hours after he gets up which is a godsend! It is the afternoons that I struggle with, as I have morning, afternoon and evening sickness

Well, he looks adorable in your avatar! What a sweetheart. And you poor thing, your morning sickness is just starting. If it gets too bad, and you consistly throw up every day, or can't keep any food down, call your doc a get a prescription or something. There is a such thing as severe morning sickness, and there's no need to suffer! Especially since you have a little guy to look after. I had to call my doc.

eckarta · Mar 8th, 2010, 10:59 AM

well we have twin 5 year olds and this one on the way and DH said to me just this morning.. i need some help around the house... mind you i think the more i am cooped up in the house the worse i feel... but still.. when i do the dishes, i get a smell from the water and the gags start... well that and he lost a bet of it being one baby or two, i said one he said two so he gets to do dishes for 2 weeks

but he usually does the laundry and does the cleaning, only because he gets bored at home and does it.. where i would do it on the weekend... so yeah.. now he is pulling the "im tired.. my stomach hurts " oh piss.. thank god men dont have to be pregnant!!!

Shwhattam+1 · Mar 8th, 2010, 11:09 AM

I wouldn't care if it were my 5th time around...I would expect the same level of support that I am getting now. Actually, maybe even more as there would be a little one to take care of and me to take care of! Regardless, after the MS I've experienced, this is our first together and the last! I know there is no way I could care for a little one and feel the way I do now...it wouldn't be fair.

Mar 7th, 2010, 06:47 AM	#1
Hoping Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Farnborough Posts: 1,760	Symapthy (or lack of) from DH 2nd time round? Anyone who is expecting number 2 finding that sympathy and support is lacking compared to first time round? I feel really sick, tired and cold all the time. DH just keeps saying "you have to just get on with it this time". I bloody well know I do, but don't need to keep being told that do I? Some sympathy wouldn't go amiss! Just because I have done it before and survived doesn't mean it is any easier this time round. I asked him how he would feel if he was constantly needing to throw up, couldn't face food and felt so exhausted he could hardly stand up..."not great I suppose, but I am really tired..." TIRED?! Whatever!!!!!! Grrrrr, sorry for the rant!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 07:52 AM	#2
purpleposting Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 442	I know how you feel, I have to practically beg mine to help me out if I'm feeling sick and I'm finding myself repeating to him my symptoms, just so I can have a bit of sympathy! The only good thing is that I told him the other day that all I fancied was plain food, cereals etc and he went out and bought me 2 boxes of special k which is going down nicely! I'm feeling really cold too. I just wish they could experience our sickness, symptoms and labour!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 08:52 AM	#3
Hoping Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Farnborough Posts: 1,760	I know, they get it so easy in the whole baby making scenario!!!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 11:38 AM	#4
Mum22GTTC Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,185	Mine has been very unsympathetic for the past week too. He said yesterday, "this is definately our last one, this all causes too much hastle" (in a kind of a joke, but I always think jokes are based on the truth) With my other 2 pregnancies he never let me to the hoovering & yesterday he watched me do it I did have a word with him about it in a jokey way last night & he has been much better today. I think they just think, 'well it couldn't be that bad, if it was you wouldn't have chosen to do it again'???

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Mar 7th, 2010, 11:47 AM	#5
katzone Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 1,187	Lol my DH was like it with our first, I remember when I was about this stage with DS he was washing his car and trying to get me to help but I was shattered, my FIL stuck up for me and said "don't make her, she is pregnant" and DH said "only 3 months!!" I thought thanks father in law sticking up for me!!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 12:02 PM	#6
kfarb Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Kansas, USA Posts: 1,852	The second time you should get MORE sympathy! You're sick and you have a little one to look after. I can't imagine having to look after a toddler how I was feeling with MS. I think, if we do it again, I'm going to wait until this one is at least in preschool.

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Mar 8th, 2010, 10:59 AM	#9
eckarta Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: North Eastern South Dakota, USA Posts: 585	well we have twin 5 year olds and this one on the way and DH said to me just this morning.. i need some help around the house... mind you i think the more i am cooped up in the house the worse i feel... but still.. when i do the dishes, i get a smell from the water and the gags start... well that and he lost a bet of it being one baby or two, i said one he said two so he gets to do dishes for 2 weeks but he usually does the laundry and does the cleaning, only because he gets bored at home and does it.. where i would do it on the weekend... so yeah.. now he is pulling the "im tired.. my stomach hurts " oh piss.. thank god men dont have to be pregnant!!!

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Mar 8th, 2010, 11:09 AM	#10
Shwhattam+1 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Toronto - Leslieville/Beaches Posts: 1,009	I wouldn't care if it were my 5th time around...I would expect the same level of support that I am getting now. Actually, maybe even more as there would be a little one to take care of and me to take care of! Regardless, after the MS I've experienced, this is our first together and the last! I know there is no way I could care for a little one and feel the way I do now...it wouldn't be fair.

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